posted March 28, 2014 09:02 AM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I sure do. Where I can give you my name in private?

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Here, usc277@yahoo.com

posted March 28, 2014 10:01 AM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Thanks

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posted March 28, 2014 10:08 AM            

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Originally posted by usc277:
I didn't receive the email

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posted March 28, 2014 11:03 AM            

Forget this guy, he sounds unstable. You had a promising first meeting, then he didn't get back to you for SEVEN MONTHS, which suggests to me he was just "fishing" in the meantime, probably seeing other women on the dating site (which probably hadn't worked out). So eventually he falls back to you, you have a romantic date (in your eyes) which gave you real hope since he was on his best behaviour, followed by a second date which was completely disappointing, no doubt because he'd let his guard down. Then he ignored your texts after you declined sex with him.

He sounds selfish and immature to me.

Women need to make a stand against this type of blow hot-blow cold man. The more you compromise your own actions because you're giving him the benefit of the doubt, the more he will try to get away with inconsiderate behaviour.

Men can easily compartmentalise women as "hookups", "just friends" and "girlfriend material". I think you were wise to refuse the sex so early in your dating experience with him, but the fact he dissed you afterwards tells me that's all he wanted.

posted March 28, 2014 01:03 PM            

It's difficult for me to stand up to the principles I spouted above as my heart does often rule my head (I'm Virgo with some challenging aspects in my own chart), but in the long run it pays to stick to them. Once you take it to the sexual level with someone too soon though, it's harder to shift their thinking of you as anything more than just that, a sex toy. At least in your case you held out and it sounds like he showed his true colours as a result, so well done there!