posted July 17, 2014 03:49 PM            

I'm Virgo/he's Gemini

Have known this guy for sometime now and in the beginning he used to always look at me in a lustful way (i.e. look my body up and down and would also check out my shoes, etc.)

We have never had a platonic relationship/friendship but have just started building one as of recent. We have started having really great discussions surrounding various life topics as of late and they are purposeful, honest, and we have even started to make direct eye contact (something I didn't even realize we weren't doing much of before.)

Now he no longer looks at me lustfully (although he postures quite a bit) but instead appears quite nervous (one of his legs always shakes) and I must admit, this made me a little sad, lol. I used to hate when he looked at me that way but now I kind of miss it (stupid I know.) Could this mean that he has lost interest and just sees me as a friend or could it mean that he likes me more?

Also, he is a huuuuuuge flirt but I was never one of the girls who would reciprocate. He also gave me a single heart candy on Valentines' Day and I had a feeling in my gut that he would do something. He was never really on my radar but now I find myself thinking of him more and more but I'm scared because of his ways with women.

posted July 17, 2014 03:58 PM            

Typically, when a normally flirtatious person begins 'getting real' with someone, they're not lacking interest. It can just be beginning to become something legitimate.

Shaking legs, fidgeting fingers, and avoiding eye contact are all signs of nervousness -- yes. But unless there's sighing and clear signs of inattention, it's hardly losing interest.

posted July 17, 2014 04:26 PM            

Thanks for moving me to the correct spot. Still learning the "land."

posted July 17, 2014 04:34 PM            

Anyway it doesn`t need to mean he has given up for good. Maybe he is just waiting for a bit of a sign from you.

And I also can imagine it is how Indigo put it. I mean you are not getting nervous around someone you don´t care about.

Unless he is trying to get away from you as quickly as possibly. But if he is still attentive to you, this might be a good sign actually.

posted July 17, 2014 04:36 PM            

Thank you for your response.

I've known him for about a year now and we just started to really talk.

I didn't think much of him in the beginning because I kinda didn't care to know him and thought of him as a big flirt and there were moments when we would sort of ignore each other, lol.

It's weird...it's almost as if we are the female/male version of one another.

Your input sheds so much light that I'm praying this is the case as I've come to like him so much and unless he or I do something to screw it up, I'm sure my attraction will only continue to grow.

posted July 17, 2014 04:46 PM            

You seem like such a doll (and even if you are male, males can be dolls too.)

Oh, I sure hope so...Hope that he was just waiting for a sign, that is.

Also wanted to mention that his lustful glares have now graduated to him staring at me in an adoring manner...normally when I'm not looking but I can also tell that it's not like he's trying to hide it, but I just always happen to catch it from my peripheral.

posted July 17, 2014 04:51 PM            

sure I wish you luck.

and I am certain noone called me a doll before (I am female btw). So thanks.

And how you describe him, it sounds as if he is developing deeper feelings for you.

I mean come on, adoring looks, when you don´t seem to notice?

What could it mean?

What would you tell your best friend it probably means if she asked you?

posted July 17, 2014 05:14 PM            

Thanks so much for the well wishes.

I guess you're right.

It's just that I've been fooled before and I want so much for this one to be genuine that...I've even been praying about it! lol!

And you are a doll. I can tell.

posted August 10, 2014 10:02 PM            

Oh Ceridwen! Somebody! Come back...help!

I didn't want to create a whole new thread so thought I would start again from where we left off here...

Well, I'll keep it brief:

The other day we were sitting alone in the same space and he was doing his best to make small talk but I was ignoring him purposely. In walks another girl (he has quite a few admirers) and she strikes up a convo with him and I can tell he's trying not to talk to her too much, but he doesn't want to be rude.

A second girl (that likes him also) comes in and starts talking to them both (I felt strongly she was trying to keep an eye on him.)

I get up quietly to leave for lunch and decide I will return to another office when I return...my jealous side kicked in...and I am so not a jealous person!

Anyway, I see him later on and he gives me this look of disappointment, turns around and ignores me. I keep going and decide to keep my distance from here on out...I PROMISE myself this week I will go nowhere near him, and then he sees me the other day and tells me there is a client he'd like for me to work with. BOY! Can't say no to that now!

I can't do this! Starting to like him more by the day but these chicks...these women....uuuggghhhh! I don't know what to do! I want to get rid of him! He's too dangerous! Effing Gem men!

posted August 14, 2014 08:21 AM            

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Originally posted by VirgoMaiden:
Is there a trick?

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The trick is stop going into avoidance mode. IT seems like he was disapointed because YOU left without a word. Apparently he likes to spend time with you.
The other girls don`t matter, especially if he is just being polite to him.

Your getting up and leaving might have felt like some sort of vague rejection to him.

It`s okay if he notices you like him. It`s not a crime to like somebody, you know?
It`s a gift.

posted August 15, 2014 11:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
The trick is stop going into avoidance mode. IT seems like he was disapointed because YOU left without a word. Apparently he likes to spend time with you.
The other girls don`t matter, especially if he is just being polite to him.

Your getting up and leaving might have felt like some sort of vague rejection to him.

It`s okay if he notices you like him. It`s not a crime to like somebody, you know?
It`s a gift.

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Ceridwen,

Thank you soooooo much. You have truly helped to change my perspective.

I actually teared up reading this as I do really want love but my fear keeps getting in the way.

Some told me that he was only seeing me as a sex object and didn't respect me because I told them that he asked me if I wanted kids and they said he sounded like a player. *shrugs*

I don't know. Guess all I can do now is take it one day at a time. I will try and open my heart and hopefully the universe will bless me with something special.

Ok, I promise I won't bother you again...many blessings, peace and love!

posted November 16, 2014 05:01 PM            

I need you again...remember me?

Well, not much improvement since my last post (I actually think things got worse.)

Basically, we're still very friendly, but, my insecurities have gotten the better of me. New girls have come into the circle (we work together...did I tell you that?) and I just spazzed...stopped talking to him completely and I have even taken to (literally) running from him when I see him coming. Stupid, yes.

I know you told me to stop avoiding but...uugghhh. This guy just has a talent for bringing out my insecurities and I'm positive he knows this. I just feel like a fool! How can I get over this! I've messed up!

I also feel like he could be playing games because he has yet to even ask me out. So much for really liking me. I don't think he's dating any of the other girls or anything, as I've observed he's pretty regular with them.

He still stands close to me like he wants to talk to me, still smiles warmly at me and oddly enough, the other day at a training, I caught him staring at me while he was up at the front getting food. All the other girls were there but he was only staring at me...but almost like he was upset. I also felt like he would try to get close, and funny enough, he came and sat two seats away from me. I was so nervous but thank God there was another co-worker in the middle of us. I kept trying to hide throughout, lol. I felt good inside...Does that makes sense?

posted February 04, 2015 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Sabine:
How is it going with Gemini man VM? Updates?

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posted February 04, 2015 11:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Sabine:
How is it going with Gemini man VM? Updates?

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Well hello there, Sabine.

Thanks for inquiring about an update.

I think it's safe to say that since my last post, he continues to make an effort to connect, but every time he does...I freeze up!

This chemistry I feel is insane and it scares me. I guess it also doesn't 't help that I'm a naturally shy personality and his naturally gregarious nature (with women specifically...damn Gem boys!) invokes feelings of insecurity.

He always tries to talk to me but I walk away or start talking to someone else. Just the other day I caught him staring at me and held gaze for a few moments...aye, he put the sweetest smile on his face and kept looking intensely into my eyes. The next day I came in and didn't talk to him and he was visibly upset.

I promise I'm not playing games nor do I mean to hurt him. I am never a jealous person but this guy just has a talent for bringing that out in me, and as a Virgo, I struggle with dealing with these types of "feelings."

Would it sound weird to say that a part of me doesn't trust him? Uuuggghhhh he's so popular with the women! I often wonder what his intentions are for me. Like why is he asking to see my eyeballs? And giving me an angry look when I don't talk to him? That smile...kinda creepy.

Last: would a guy become upset about you not speaking to him if he wasn't genuine about you?

posted February 04, 2015 11:59 AM            

Sorry for the blunt delivery, but maybe you can learn from my mistakes.
There is only so long a guy will wait for you to make up your mind (visibly) and ind f he feels that you are not interested, he will go and look for someone who is!

I get it that you are shy, but from all you write here , he IS interested. So just start talking to him already. Maybe just a little small-talk now and then, and just see where it will lead to.