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Topic: My Male friend says he's NOT attracted to me
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AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 06:45 AM
  
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Originally posted by Odette:
I'm sorry about the Pisces guy! His behaviour was really disrespectful, so I agree with others - that you should stir clear.
But this is a different situation... I don't see the parallel.
Telling the op to her FACE he isnt attracted to her?! If that is not disrespectful, what is?! Advising the op it's a game to get her attention and play games back?! No no NO! Even my Pisces guy wasnt as rude or manipulative to say to my face he didn't fibd me attractive, joke or not. She should tell him to go to blazes and mean it. There's no parallel. ...he's worse than my pisces guy.
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Odette
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posted November 06, 2014 07:02 AM
I'm really sorry you're hurt.. but this is not your life.. and it's her decision to make.
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Odette
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posted November 06, 2014 07:11 AM
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he's worse than my pisces guy.
I don't know the whole background story with you and Pisces guy. But when it comes to PrettyPisces' friend, she usually describes him as someone she has a lot in common with who has been in her life for a long time and who she feels emotionally close to.
I don't think this *one* incident where he said he was not attracted.. is enough to make him a jerk.. because overall he has been a good friend, from what I gather.
Like Vajra was saying maybe it is insecurity. He could have been testing out of insecurity. :edit: IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 08:42 AM
I did most if the standing up. He said he was free once then he wasn't. he took me out on Tuesday for dinner. Lovely evening. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 08:53 AM
You advocate playing games.....pretending to have been on a date with someone to see if he gets jealous. It's manipulative which I am not a fan of. Playing games also tends to backfire. What the op should have done is say thanks very much and walk away. I've never pretended to be on a date with someone else to see if the other guy wants me. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 09:04 AM
You're also assuming every cancer man behaves the same way.I see the words if and might a lot in your above posts. Humans are complex beings and there are never just 2 possible ways someone will react.
On hearing she has been on a date he may think oh well she doesnt like me and I thought she did.....and then act happy for her as he thinks he missed his chance. Playing games is dangerous as it can backfire. It is the ops life and if she wants a shot with him trying to make him jealous is dangerous particularly if the "date" isnt real. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted November 06, 2014 09:20 AM
Amelie, for the most part I think you gave good advice. I only want to ask you to please deliver it in a bit more considerate manner. Because people's feelings are fragile.  And words can hurt. I also want to thumbsup this: quote:
Originally posted by tgem:
"Ah, the water sign men.... God must have invented them so people would be forced to discover the arts of divination such as astrology, Tarot, etc... "That is probably THE BEST quote I've read on this site in a LONG time....HA - ain't that the truth
Scorpio is my Achilles' heel. ------------------
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AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 09:26 AM
Ah yes. My apologies. Blame my aries mercury. Too blunt. Forgive me xAll im saying is it's dangerous to try and make someone jealous. That's all. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 06, 2014 10:10 AM
:edit: Ok ^ 
To each their own.PrettyPisces - I hope our debate helped you figure out what you want to do  IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 06, 2014 10:23 AM
In my opinion, what I suggested would be harmless, not dangerous. If he does like her, he would stop taking her for granted, because a little light bulb would go off in his head, saying: "I might lose her".
If he doesn't like her - then he doesn't. His reaction would be neutral. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted November 06, 2014 12:06 PM
Ok but it's the dishonesty. She should go on a date and say it if its true.IP: Logged |
GoingDutch
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posted November 06, 2014 01:35 PM
I am Pisces Sun, Gemini Moon, Aquarius VenusHow to tell if a guy is really interested in you? Or he just playing the 'ego stroke' chase game?
I read so much things around the net of girls complaining that after they give in to be the guy girlfriend, and he will just DISAPPEARED!
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Dancing Maenad
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posted November 07, 2014 07:50 AM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
Ah yes. My apologies. Blame my aries mercury. Too blunt. Forgive me xAll im saying is it's dangerous to try and make someone jealous. That's all.
Ah, I have Aries Merc too. What degree is yours? I don't like games either but we must understand sometimes they are necessary. It was a hard lesson for me. And.. different people have different principles in life. We can only decide for ourselves, we must not try to influence others. ------------------
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AmelieRose81
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posted November 07, 2014 02:25 PM
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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
Ah, I have Aries Merc too. What degree is yours? I don't like games either but we must understand sometimes they are necessary. It was a hard lesson for me. And.. different people have different principles in life. We can only decide for ourselves, we must not try to influence others.
20 degrees. what difference do the degrees make? IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted November 07, 2014 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
20 degrees.what difference do the degrees make?
It's in the Sagittarius duad. That's why you feel you MUST express your thoughts. And wanted to see if it's conjunct mine. ------------------
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AmelieRose81
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posted November 07, 2014 03:40 PM
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It's in the Sagittarius duad. That's why you feel you MUST express your thoughts. And wanted to see if it's conjunct mine.
Wow. I do often feel that way. what would a mercury Aquarius 20 degrees be like?
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Dancing Maenad
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posted November 08, 2014 05:20 AM
A lot like a Libra Mercury. Wishy-washy, avoidant, too polite, sweet talker. ------------------
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AmelieRose81
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posted November 08, 2014 07:05 AM
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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
A lot like a Libra Mercury. Wishy-washy, avoidant, too polite, sweet talker.
That's pretty accurate. He also has Aquarius moon,pisces sun and venus.
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PrettyPisces
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posted November 08, 2014 11:00 PM
GoingDutch : we are in our 20s btw my signs is the same as yours " sun pisces / gemini moon/ aqua venus . Ikja: he hasn't attempt to call in three days , he may have givin up.-Odette: that was to you as well . Always to add he's neutral one time he said to me you need to get in a relationship , I said I don't mind being with someone but I haven't found the right guy , next thing I know he sucks his teeth lmaoIP: Logged |
Pretty Theft
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posted November 09, 2014 01:10 PM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
You advocate playing games.....pretending to have been on a date with someone to see if he gets jealous. It's manipulative which I am not a fan of. Playing games also tends to backfire. What the op should have done is say thanks very much and walk away. I've never pretended to be on a date with someone else to see if the other guy wants me.
Agree with this 100%. Also, LOL re: Aries Mercury ... I have Aries on the 3rd house cusp! I don't understand playing games with someone you actually like and want to be with. What is the point, anyway? That would drive me nuts. Give me a dude who goes after what he wants! I agree with others, steer clear! It just sounds like he does like her but he can't get it together to ask her out. To me, that sounds like dating him would mean more of the same indirect interaction. Sorry if I sound harsh, I don't know if I do. I'm just trying to help. IP: Logged |
Geeky
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posted November 15, 2014 07:00 PM
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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
You advocate playing games.....pretending to have been on a date with someone to see if he gets jealous. It's manipulative which I am not a fan of. Playing games also tends to backfire.
BTDT, and yes, it did backfire. I wasn't pretending to be on a date... I really went on a date just to provoke the "oh no, I might lose her" feeling but instead, he ended up calling me a **** and telling me he was falling for me prior to that, but that I was obviously too busy playing games to be of serious interest. No no no... it doesn't work. ------------------
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Odette
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posted November 15, 2014 11:55 PM
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Originally posted by Geeky:
BTDT, and yes, it did backfire.
he ended up calling me a **** and telling me he was falling for me prior to that
Honestly..If a guy reacted that way to me going on *one* date when we were NOT at all in a relationship at that time.... I would thank God he took the controlling, possessive, psychotic jerk from hell - out of my life. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 15, 2014 11:57 PM
And I never even date anyone at all...
But hypothetically speaking, if I *did* do the dating thing - or if I told someone I went on one date.. and that was their reaction, I would be absolutely disturbed.What right does he have to say something like that to you and call you names when he was not even your bf at the time? JUST - Un-believable! IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted November 16, 2014 11:55 AM
Complicated.IP: Logged |
Geeky
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posted November 16, 2014 01:20 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Honestly..If a guy reacted that way to me going on *one* date when we were NOT at all in a relationship at that time.... I would thank God he took the controlling, possessive, psychotic jerk from hell - out of my life.
Well, yeah. I probably shouldn't have tried that stunt with him specifically either. He is a Scorpio sun / Scorpio Asc with a first house stellium (in Scorpio), moon in the 8th house opposing both Neptune & Venus. :/ ------------------
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