posted November 07, 2014 12:31 PM            

On Saturday morning, I told myself: "He's not the one honey" and I deleted every single text, email, picture, other forums posts, journal pages. It felt okay, at first. I even recreated another online dating account!! It felt right to start a new chapter.

Haha. That's when the bizarre fun began. I started seeing, hearing his name everywhere. At first I thought, "yeah girly ... maybe you're still into him, it's okay". Right! A lot of the guys messaging me online had his name. That's when I was left wondering ...

The following day, I had enough so I turned my laptop, radio, phone off and planned on staying inside relaxing all day. Guess what? I opened a random billing letter I received and his name was on it!

A lot of synchronicities were haunting me, for sure. I thought maybe I'm just attracting his name because I'm thinking of him a little. I thought I was at peace with myself, at least enough to admit he just wasn't the one (as I did in my last thread).

Dun Dun Dun ... The cherry on top, my little sister who doesn't even know my SC saw his picture on my laptop as I was deleting his pictures and told me "You're going to marry this guy". I was like - "I'm sorry, what?". She replied - "Yes, you will marry him and I will organize everything". I told her he and I aren't even speaking. Now, she's obsessed with him and I getting married someday. She can't stop talking about it. She's 10! What does she know about marriage? I'm not even thinking about marriage!

At first I thought it was funny and forgot about it completely as I'm very stressed with work ... until I turned the TV on today (which happens once a year or so) and of course, there it was "N. my fiancé" - Hum, ok. I turned it off. Then again today, another strange thing. I was looking for something online and a person's name came up: His first name+my last name both of which are rare names (mine, especially). How odd is this?

Is the God trying to tell me something?

posted November 07, 2014 04:53 PM            

I posted this in the Personal Readings section already but I poured my soul out to my SO last night because he has been emotionally distant lately, and although we sort of "resolved" it I always harbour these lingering doubts about the longevity of our relationship. I was in bed after our discussion just going through my phone because I was going to send him a picture, and out of nowhere the picture of him and I on my dresser falls off onto the floor...

posted November 08, 2014 05:18 AM              

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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
Just contact him! X

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Better to regret things you do rather than those you didn't..

posted November 08, 2014 08:14 AM            

Well, my little sister interrupted me this morning while I was working and told me: "I have to tell you something ... I know you're going to tell me "Oh, hell no", but I think you try to should contact the guy from the picture. I'm sensing he's waiting for you to make a move because maybe he's afraid of initiating contact. You should try, I'm telling you! He'll reply, I'm sure".

She's 10, what on earth? Hum. Aside from the fact that I told her he and I are not in touch, she doesn't know anything about our story. I mean, she doesn't even know who stopped speaking to who, nothing. She said this out of the blue.

I'm afraid that if I try and he doesn't reply to my text, it's going to hurt my feelings. The truth be told, I don't have a FB/Twitter/LinkedIn account, I changed my phone number, we don't have each other on Skype or any app phone. I'm virtually unreachable. It would be insane for me to be expecting him to get in touch, how?

Yet, I'm scared to death to get in touch. I'm far more feisty with other people and have zero issue getting in touch after a disagreement. With him, it's a whole different story. I'm just frozen. Fear is what is blocking me.

posted November 08, 2014 08:55 AM              

BUT what makes me peaceful through all this is knowing I tried. I did my best, at the time. So if it won't work out, I will be able to shrug it and put it aside. I would have *some* closure. And believe me, closure is so, so important..

This is your decision. Don't rush it. If you don't feel ready, don't do it. But if you want to.. don't let fear stop you. Never let fear get in the way, of anything. Living in fear is not a life worth living.

Be brave and make him yours again. I am so rooting for you guys!! lol

posted November 08, 2014 09:10 AM              

2 years ago we had pVenus sq nVenus, which can cause attraction but also repulsion, in my opinion. So of course it didn't work!

But now my pMars is applying to trine his nVenus. I guess we all put our faith in.. something! Astrology rarely let me down. So, I am counting on this aspect to pull me through. I am not hoping we will last 2-3 years but if we do, we have the famous pVenus trine nSun as well..

So, have you checked your progressed synastry?? I bet there is something happening there, or there wouldn't be such a strong pull. Post it in IA, the girls will help you. There's a thread especially for that. I can't promise to take a look because I hope to get in exam mode any minute now (it would be such a blessing! Tunnel vision!!!) but I am sure someone will help you.

Best of luck! I'll check up on you some days later, lol. Remember, the horary did indicate things will start to look up for you!

posted November 08, 2014 09:21 AM              

But I've been seeing 1616 lately, including soon after posting my last message. Googled it just now and this is what I found.

"Angel Number 1616 may also be suggesting that a new relationship is imminent, either with a newcomer or through reignited love in your existing relationship/s. Be open to giving and receiving love and do not fear the ‘new’ entering your life."

*facepalm*

posted November 09, 2014 05:32 AM            

I thought either you're going to do something about it or you're not. But thinking sbkur what if was going nowhere.

I reasoned contact or forget.

So I did it. He was happy to be in touch again.

posted November 09, 2014 07:15 AM            

First of all, I wish you all the best on your exam.

You are right about making a move because you never know. As you said, if it doesn't work out, you can forget about it and move on. It would be a way for me to get some kind of closure which he didn't have the courtesy to give me. As you said, closure is a key component to moving on.

Fear is indeed a major hurdle to overcome. I'm still thinking about whether or not to contact him. I dreamt of him again last night but dreams can only mean so much.

About your story - I believe that since you rejected him a while ago, he feels as though he won't put himself out there again unless there's a certainty you're into him too. You know, one is always afraid of being used as a "temporary distraction". Maybe that's how he feels. It's hard to get things to go back to "normal" with someone who rejected you because there could be some denied hard feelings somewhere down there. I think you should give him some time and hold on! Obviously, since you were the one who pushed him away, he's probably expecting you to make most of the work at first. I believe he will respond. I'm definitely hoping he will

Good luck on your exam !

@Amelie: I understand where you're coming from! The man I am talking about is a Pisces and we both know they're not born chasers. Last time we stopped talking, he waited almost 10 months to finally get in touch with me again by liking a picture on FB. It wasn't even a direct interaction. They're a bit slow to act and very hard to understand.

I'm happy your Pisces is finally open to speaking and hanging out with you! It's obvious you like this man and I really wish you all the best!

@Vajra: Thank you for your comment (and also for your help on the 'career' thread). I believe you're right. That's half the reason why I want to contact him. I don't want to end up thinking of the "what could have been" . I'm a Gemini Moon so I tend not to dwell on the past and rarely ask myself "what could have been" however with this man, it's a whole different story. I could be sitting at home in 10 years, single reminiscing and asking myself "why? why were you such a chicken?".

As @fiery_fish stated, "nothing great comes easily". Sometimes you gotta work for what you want. Thing is, for a year and a half I was chasing him and he seemed unmoved ... until he disappeared on me. He started some sort of bizarre FB game with his posts doing things like openly supporting my favorite teams, political views so on and so forth. Things he had never done before. Yet, I can't help but think that it takes two to tango. I can't be the one chasing at all times. I'm a woman and sometimes, I like to feel appreciated and worth the effort.

posted November 09, 2014 09:09 AM            

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Originally posted by fiery_fish:
i have a feeling, the moment you let go, he'll try to come back into your life..but when will you truly let go ? this could take years or could never happen.

they say the fastest way to forget a woman is to be with another woman (am a guy)..i tried it several times, it does help, but after awhile things are back where they were.. honestly it didn't work for me.

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Nah. I tried it too. It only made me compare those guys to him. I therefore stopped dating all together because it was bringing me down. I would feel annoyed and frustrated wishing the person with me were him instead of someone I only felt lukewarm about.

It's not fair to drag someone else along when you know you can't 100% deliver what they're expecting you to. Sure, staying single definitely doesn't help moving on, I admit. Yet, I'd rather choose loneliness rather than torture. That's what it feels like to me.

Last time he came back, I had already started dating someone else. But then again, it was around Valentine's Day which is quite a special period. He probably felt left out. However, I was moving on so I guess you're right!

Oh well. I sometimes wish I were living in a deserted island. I wouldn't have to bother with such things!

posted November 09, 2014 10:11 AM            

Thanks mineagain!! Just try with yours, you never know.

It's happened again though....havent heard from him for a few days. Im going through the same issues that he was last year and he was so lovely and sympathetic to me. He was gentle and ge encourgaed me and we also talked about our future plans etc.

posted November 09, 2014 10:32 AM            

His relationship status reads "single" on FB. I guess he's probably dating someone or something.

posted November 09, 2014 12:01 PM            

The guy im interested in dated someone after me but there was nothing on his facebook to indicate that.

Go over to my Pisces man back in touch thread and read it.

I was given very good advice there. They said to me that it was no good for me to rely on others for advice every step of the way as I had to trust my own judgment and be myself.

You have to be you. Never mind charts etc or if he's seeing someone else. It matters not my Gemini ex went off with someone else fr his past when he was seeing me.

The only thing you should rely on is whether or not you want to contact him and if you do, just do it.

posted November 09, 2014 02:36 PM            

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Originally posted by fiery_fish:
@mineagain @amlierose

Why do you say Pisces aren't chasers ?
I'm a Pisces and I love to chase. It's a challenge, if she doesn't make me chase and comes easy, she ain't worth it.

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In my case, the Pisces didn't actively seek to reconnect with me the first time I cut him off because he kept cancelling dates on me. He came back on Valentine's Day by liking a FB picture of mine and waited until I reached out to him myself!

Same for the current situation. He disappeared on me after feeding me a whole bunch of rubbish lines (love, he'd never let me go yadi freaking yada, marriage on the first date). I sent the guy a birthday text a week after our last date, no response. I tried one more time, no response. I disappeared completely and he never tried to contact me.

I'm thinking he just wasn't that into me. Yet, my intuition is telling me otherwise due to this connection he & I have.

Men are born chasers but if a man can't be bothered to chase you, then he's not into you. He ditched me due to pacing, I wasn't ready for sex. Sometimes I even wonder why I'm pining over him. Truth be told, if I can tell what he's up to or where he is without even checking his social media account, then there's obviously something there.

posted November 09, 2014 02:59 PM            

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Originally posted by fiery_fish:
@mineagain @amlierose

Why do you say Pisces aren't chasers ?
I'm a Pisces and I love to chase. It's a challenge, if she doesn't make me chase and comes easy, she ain't worth it.

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It isnt just being a Pisces tho. Mine has a load of Aquarius placements including the moon.....distant?

posted November 09, 2014 03:02 PM            

Playing games is immature. There's no point in it unless you want to make the other person run away.

posted November 09, 2014 03:10 PM            

Why would you want a girl who was making it hard for you unless you only want what you cant have.

posted November 09, 2014 03:17 PM            

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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
If a guy would only find me interesting if I made myself a challenge I wouldn't bother with him. I am straightforward. If I like a guy why would I pretend I didnt and make it hard for him?

Why would you want a girl who was making it hard for you unless you only want what you cant have.

Mine has aquarius moon and mercury. I never know what to make of him. But I am probably being just as confusing as I dont know how to be with him.

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Yep. That's exactly what is going on with my Pisces. When I was free and single, he didn't want me. Then he found out I started dating someone, of course he had to get in touch on V-Day.

Then when he disappeared and I cut him off completely, I one day checked his FB only to find out that he had been engaging in some weird public posts about things we had talked about. Why would you add tons of pictures of the same girl (who turned out to be his cousin), mention my favorite sports team (which he didn't even like), suddenly care about politics when you didn't before? ... yeah right. I think Pisces want what they can't have.

If we don't contact this people first after a disagreement, they never do!

I agree on not making yourself too available, but there's a fine line between this and games.