posted April 11, 2015 06:35 AM            

So I recently started talking to a Leo man at work. He made the first move. From the moment I saw him, I knew I wasn't going to get along well with him. He seemed too confident, arrogant. I found him extremely attractive though.

Anyway, he started talking to me and once made a prank on me at my desk, he always finds ways to drop by my desk (he usually pretends he wants to talk to the guy next to me, then starts a convo with me).

He makes a lot of jokes and even told me: "I gotta find you a boyfriend".

The problem is I am, for no apparent reason, extremely cold towards him. As soon as he's around, I turn into ice. I'm fine with everyone else, except him. I get so cold to the point where I tell him his jokes suck.

Yesterday, he saw me having lunch with a colleague and he joined us. He sat next to me. At some point I said I had to go back to my desk to work and he was like: "Oh no, stay, please. No, don't go." But then he crossed the line (in my opinion) and told me: "Sit, now!" (which reminded me of a dog minder). Then I told him: "I'm not your maid, nor your dog". He apologized and I left.

Then apparently, one of his colleagues asked him: "How do you handle her?" and he told him: "I haven't been able to make her smile at least once." (He was apparently ****** /mad about that). He thinks he can make anyone laugh!

Why is it also so messy when I'm around him? I don't understand, it's as though he pushes my buttons without doing a single thing wrong. I like him but I'm just stone cold without knowing why.

posted April 13, 2015 02:34 PM            

I've never met anyone I didn't get along with from the get go.

Trust me, the last thing I checked was his sign, until a week or two ago when I noticed we couldn't hold a conversation.

posted April 14, 2015 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Do Leos drop it when they face someone like me or do they continue to chase? It's odd.

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posted April 15, 2015 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by sugarflapjacks:
Sometimes people just rub you the wrong way. You don't know why, but your spirit gets on the defensive. There is fear that some kind of violation will occur.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by MineAgain:
[b]Do Leos drop it when they face someone like me or do they continue to chase? It's odd.

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Yes, this is what I meant.

posted April 16, 2015 12:25 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Do Leos drop it when they face someone like me or do they continue to chase? It's odd.

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Depends.

It could turn into a challenge for him.

Or it could just end in disgust, in which case, you

will burn any chance for an amiable connection with

this person.

For all the fire Leos possess, the sign is still fixed.

Where Aries and Sag may get over slights quickly, Leo

may not be so inclined.

But Leo energy, for the most part, wants to be happy and

that desire extends to the company he/she keeps.

The rest of the chart would help, of course.

posted April 16, 2015 01:08 PM            

It just keeps getting worse. We can't communicate without throwing shades at each other. I cannot stand him, truly. He pushes my buttons. Yet, I'm overly attracted to him.

posted April 16, 2015 01:32 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
The synastry chart is here:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/002427.html

It just keeps getting worse. We can't communicate without throwing shades at each other. I cannot stand him, truly. He pushes my buttons. Yet, I'm overly attracted to him.

I'm a Scorpio, so when I'm mad, I'm mad. He's definitely still mad about what happened last week (what I wrote in my initial post) and he didn't speak to me at all this week despite seeing me in the elevator. He's a jerk at all times, so this is why he annoys me.

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You have a 5th House stellium.

"I've had a hard time believing he likes me."

On the contrary, I think he may very well understand you to an extent,

or at least the energy is familiar to him.

Maybe that's uncomfortable?

Idk but he has Leo Merc and you have Scorpio Merc;

not square by degree, but square signs, nonetheless.

And if communication isn't the biggest issue between these two signs,

idk what is.

posted April 16, 2015 01:39 PM            

Do you think there's potential or is it a lost cause?

He seems so ... arrogant and I sometimes wonder if he's just mocking me. He's been ignoring me for a week after I declined to stay with them at lunch ... He's stubborn indeed.

posted April 16, 2015 02:40 PM            

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Thank you very much

Do you think there's potential or is it a lost cause?

He seems so ... arrogant and I sometimes wonder if he's just mocking me. He's been ignoring me for a week after I declined to stay with them at lunch ... He's stubborn indeed.

Do Leos ever come back around if you leave them be?

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"I'm not your maid, nor your dog"...

When he wanted you to stay with them, you bit.

Hard.

He might come around (eventually), but it won't be the same.

Maybe a leap of faith... as in

"I'm sorry, I may have misunderstood your intent, and you weren't

REALLY trying to belittle me."

That's the truth... how you felt.

That, coupled with humility, and I'd probably take the blame myself.

His moon is opposite mine, but that may work in your favour;

he's analysed it to pieces.

Regardless, if you act in goodwill (easy for you with fifth house Sun)

it should work out just fine.

posted April 16, 2015 03:27 PM            

I really like him.

Last question: According to this synastry, do you think he's just "attracted"/"curious" or could it be that he likes me for real?

posted April 16, 2015 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I've really wanted to apologize to him. I've seen him so many times since, but every time he sees me he just looks down or tries to avoid eye contact.

I really like him.

Last question: According to this synastry, do you think he's just "attracted"/"curious" or could it be that he likes me for real?

Thank you very much for your insight!

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I thought it was obvious he liked you.

My opinion.

You both have water Venus, though, and Air

Mars so shouldn't be difficult feeling your way

through provided you keep in mind the communication

differences.

You'll feel so much better.

You're not declaring undying love; just a peace offering.

posted April 16, 2015 11:35 PM            

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Originally posted by sugarflapjacks:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by MineAgain:
[b] Yes, this is what I meant.

I don't know why ... I get extremely tense when he's around. I'm normal with all the other men at the office, except for him.

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I don't think anyone at your work thinks you like this guy, including the leo. He's avoiding you because you embarrassed him. He doesn't know what insults you will sling at him for him trying to be friendly, and he's not going to risk being humiliated in front of people by you again!

If it bothers you that he doesn't distinguish his behavior around you any different than he does with other women (or people) at work, like telling jokes and making people smile, then you need to stop feeling so insulted by that. That's the way he is.

posted April 18, 2015 09:38 PM            

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Why is it also so messy when I'm around him? I don't understand, it's as though he pushes my buttons without doing a single thing wrong. I like him but I'm just stone cold without knowing why.

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Hmmm Fire signs are very emotionally expressive. It's not necessarily an ego-thing. It's just an immediate expression of how they feel at the time. If he pushes your buttons it's probably because he is in a playful mood and wants to form a connection with you through jokes and banter.
Scorpio is guarded and seldom wears their heart on their sleeve. They are much more secretive about their emotions, and their emotions run deep. I think you are taking his *overt* personality to mean superficiality and maybe you find his optimism foolish.

posted April 19, 2015 04:30 AM            

I feel as though he's much more "down to earth" and "bearable" during our one to one interactions. Whenever there's a crowd around/his friends, he becomes an attention seeker which I cannot stand.

We went for drinks with his friends on Wednesday and because there were a bunch of people/girls from work there, he didn't acknowledge me at all. He just said: "It's nice to see you smile, for once". Then, he didn't speak to me at all after that. My friend and I chose to leave because we obviously weren't "interesting enough".

The following day, my friend was having lunch with him and his friend. He was on his way out, then when he saw me joining them, he chose to come back and sit with us. He didn't speak to me though, he just starred at me the entire time.

On Friday, I caught him starring at me (again). I making my coffee and when I turned around, I saw him looking at me but he looked away quickly. A couple of hours later, he saw me talking to my friend outside, he came up to me and started asking me questions about my weekend blah blah. He barely acknowledged my friend and kept asking me questions such as: "You should go out with people from work more, unless you think people from this city are losers" (mind you, we're all expats, except him). He asked me if I had any people to hang out with after work ... Shocking, he usually talks about himself all the time. I saw him with other girls, he never asks them a single question and when they talk about themselves, he switches the conversation to something more generic. This happened so any times.

We can talk when it's just the two of us. I like that. When there are people around, it's impossible as his ego comes in the way. Since he's far more comfortable in a group setting and I feel more comfortable in one to one interactions, it's quite hard to communicate.