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Topic: Online dating experiences (OK Cupid)
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the7thsphere
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posted July 17, 2015 12:00 AM
 
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Originally posted by margym0o:
I met my partner on eHarmony (I wouldn't use any other site, quite frankly - especially the free sites *shudder*) and my experience was relatively good actually.
A long time ago, I tried eHarmony. Well, I tried to try it. I don't know if they still do it this way, but you could sign up and take their profile test for free, but you had to start paying to actually get into contact with anyone who liked yours, or something like that. The profile test was (probably still is) LOOOOOOOOOONG, it took me an hour or more to complete (and I am a fast reader, thinker, and typer/mouser). Which was fine, I appreciated the thoroughness. Know what I got for that hour of my time and energy? "We're sorry, but we would be unable to match you with anyone." I was disappointed, but thought, "Well, I'm not surprised, I'm so 'weird' by most people's standards..." But it wasn't anything about my personality, it turns out. Few years later, I met someone who had had the same experience, and that person explained to me why I got that message: they won't even bother with anyone who answers the "what's your yearly income?" question with less than $50,000. To this day I would like to burn their headquarters down with every employee inside. That's hateful discrimination of the worst kind. The implication that those of us who aren't slaves to the money game aren't deserving of a chance to find happy partnership is... so wrong I can't even articulate it! To **** with eSnobbery.
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Vajra
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posted July 17, 2015 11:54 AM
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elixir
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posted July 18, 2015 02:12 AM
@aqua guy what nationality?IP: Logged |
margym0o
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posted July 20, 2015 03:44 PM
quote:
Originally posted by the7thsphere:
A long time ago, I tried eHarmony. Well, I tried to try it. I don't know if they still do it this way, but you could sign up and take their profile test for free, but you had to start paying to actually get into contact with anyone who liked yours, or something like that. The profile test was (probably still is) LOOOOOOOOOONG, it took me an hour or more to complete (and I am a fast reader, thinker, and typer/mouser). Which was fine, I appreciated the thoroughness. Know what I got for that hour of my time and energy?"We're sorry, but we would be unable to match you with anyone." I was disappointed, but thought, "Well, I'm not surprised, I'm so 'weird' by most people's standards..." But it wasn't anything about my personality, it turns out. Few years later, I met someone who had had the same experience, and that person explained to me why I got that message: [b]they won't even bother with anyone who answers the "what's your yearly income?" question with less than $50,000. To this day I would like to burn their headquarters down with every employee inside. That's hateful discrimination of the worst kind. The implication that those of us who aren't slaves to the money game aren't deserving of a chance to find happy partnership is... so wrong I can't even articulate it! To **** with eSnobbery.
[/B]I don't think this is true anymore. Plus, the way it works, it takes a few days to get "up and running" so to speak. It may take time for the system to produce matches for you. Some days there are more than others. At least for me it was this way. The first week I was ready to give up because I was getting either very few or poor quality matches (ie. not in line with my basic criteria) but it got better. IP: Logged |
margym0o
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posted July 20, 2015 03:46 PM
quote:
Originally posted by the7thsphere:
they won't even bother with anyone who answers the "what's your yearly income?" question with less than $50,000.
I don't think this is true anymore. Plus, the way it works, it takes a few days to get "up and running" so to speak. It may take time for the system to produce matches for you. Some days there are more than others. At least for me it was this way. The first week I was ready to give up because I was getting either very few or poor quality matches (ie. not in line with my basic criteria) but it got better. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted July 21, 2015 09:39 AM
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Originally posted by the7thsphere:
A long time ago, I tried eHarmony. Well, I tried to try it. I don't know if they still do it this way, but you could sign up and take their profile test for free, but you had to start paying to actually get into contact with anyone who liked yours, or something like that. The profile test was (probably still is) LOOOOOOOOOONG, it took me an hour or more to complete (and I am a fast reader, thinker, and typer/mouser). Which was fine, I appreciated the thoroughness. Know what I got for that hour of my time and energy?"We're sorry, but we would be unable to match you with anyone." I was disappointed, but thought, "Well, I'm not surprised, I'm so 'weird' by most people's standards..." But it wasn't anything about my personality, it turns out. Few years later, I met someone who had had the same experience, and that person explained to me why I got that message: [b]they won't even bother with anyone who answers the "what's your yearly income?" question with less than $50,000. To this day I would like to burn their headquarters down with every employee inside. That's hateful discrimination of the worst kind. The implication that those of us who aren't slaves to the money game aren't deserving of a chance to find happy partnership is... so wrong I can't even articulate it! To **** with eSnobbery.[/B]
Wooooow. That is seriously messed-up. Well, it affirms to me I did the right thing with not even ever signing up on that cheesy-ass site. However, my cousin met her husband on there in 2009. They both make over 50 grand a year. 
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PixieJane
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posted July 21, 2015 05:52 PM
I don't think I'd ever use one (even if looking), and so far haven't. So you'll have to say just how spot on this is as it describes every dating site as if it were a live person:
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HoodBlaze
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Registered: Jul 2015
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posted July 28, 2015 08:44 AM
Terrible, luckily now I have an awesome social circle and meet a ton of cool women.I just think it's the women in Las Vegas though haha. I don't drink, can't pick up chicks at the yoga studio I teach at, and am too focused while in my university classes to start hawking. So I tried once and the chicks I met were just horrendous lol. Not ugly at all, just they expected me to have a f-350, never have read a book, and spend some real dough when I barely knew them. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 01, 2015 02:46 PM
Interesting article on Tinder and the brain!
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34962498 quote:
Apps like Tinder have transformed dating. How well-equipped is the human brain to deal with this cultural shift?
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Sibyl
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 01, 2015 05:29 PM
I have heard allot of people say that they only meet people who want a hookup on Tinder, but that is not my experience. I have dated numerous men from Tinder, and they have all sought to pursue a relationship with me. It's all about the signals you send really. There is really no way to misinterpret my intentions (dating) and they have always been accepted. Anyway I think it's important to meet up as soon as possible. I would never chat to someone for more than a maximum of a few days before meeting them in person. I need to look people in the eye when I talk to them. IP: Logged |
madelineleo23
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posted December 02, 2015 08:41 PM
I did OkCupid once because my old coworker said she met a lot of great guys on it. I deleted it in less than 24 hours of making it. I had a lot of weirdos messaging me and even ones from out of state. Besides the weirdos I had some nice guys try to talk to me but even so it didn't feel genuine. Thats how I knew I was meant to meet someone in person. IP: Logged |
Healing Mystic Melody
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posted January 02, 2016 07:10 PM
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