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Topic: Never been in a long-term relationship..
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virgolotus Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 11, 2015 01:44 AM
I'm 23 and it's about that time where I'm craving a partner to share my life with. Never have I gotten the chance to experience Love intimately. There have been instances where I think I might have found someone special but somehow it always seems to crumble. I would really like some help regarding this problem of mine. I feel lonely and as if I'm missing out. A teller once told my mother that I would be "very successful" but lack in the Love aspect... I don't want to believe it to be true. Anything helps, I used to practice Wicca, I'm very proficient with stones, and I do believe in magic and astrology (of course). Here's my chart just in case.. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad Moderator Posts: 2975 From: The Harvest Registered: Mar 2014
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posted September 11, 2015 01:19 PM
Ohhh, honey, love is just around the corner! I can't promise it will be very long term, but expect butterflies and all that, in less than 1 year because Solar Arc Sun will conjunct natal Venus. IP: Logged |
virgolotus Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 11, 2015 01:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dancing Maenad: Ohhh, honey, love is just around the corner! I can't promise it will be very long term, but expect butterflies and all that, in less than 1 year because Solar Arc Sun will conjunct natal Venus.
I didn't realize that! I have about two more degrees to go. Hopefully it's a good one. Do you see anything else? IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad Moderator Posts: 2975 From: The Harvest Registered: Mar 2014
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posted September 11, 2015 05:54 PM
2 degrees, really? Your Sun is slow-ish..Hey, next year you'll also have t-Jupiter conjunct your Venus, in your 5th!! That's 3 hints! Age 31 will also be significant (Solar Arc DC conjuncts NN/SA Asc conjuncts SN..). Karmic one, most likely. IP: Logged |
HoodBlaze Knowflake Posts: 107 From: Las Vegas, Nevada, United States Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 12, 2015 04:35 PM
Why can't you find love? You're a woman.... Are you shy? Read some books and practice being social. Are you over weight? Get on a program, find a workout group or hire a personal trainer. Are you too entangled by magick to just go be normal? Take a break for a month and do other hobbys or get some new ones. Preferably in groups. By looking at your chart I can see you do have a lot of potential, you just worry too much girl. Chill for once and actually put in an effort and it should be easy.
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HoodBlaze Knowflake Posts: 107 From: Las Vegas, Nevada, United States Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 12, 2015 04:39 PM
Also don't bank on your friends and media perceptions of love. I'm 22 and I know it's hard to fight, but sometimes you need a period of growing before you settle down. Things could be worse, I'm a guy.... You know how hard it is to find chicks in university that have any intellectual or spiritual beauty?? Really really hard, and being the guy I have to initiate all the cold convos and I'm pretty shy. So you're in good shape, just remember to make an effort to love yourself first IP: Logged |
Soltze Knowflake Posts: 616 From: Registered: Mar 2015
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posted September 12, 2015 05:07 PM
I like your chart. You have the ability to build something solid when the timing is right. You have Venus trine Saturn...Have some patience. I only met my first love when I was...23! I'm 26 now, so you're doing good. Keep in mind that it would be better to build something lasting after your saturn return. Why do you think most people only settle down around 30? And pay attention to that DSC. I'm sure there's a hot scorpio in the back of the room staring at you xDDD IP: Logged |
virgolotus Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 12, 2015 09:43 PM
Since I was a kid and even now I've always had that inner-knowledge of romance. Friends always come to me for advice on their relationships and I somehow can always understand the situation without ever experiencing it. I'm a 23 year old gay dude who's never had a serious relationship and it's pretty sad. I don't settle for one and also not to be rude but most gay men out there are just mindless dogs. It's just frustrating that I have never been with someone at an intimate level. Sometimes it feels like I'm not meant to be in a relationship. I still love at home with my mother... I guess my Venus just wants that partnership and the Libra wants to depend on that someone. I've always been extremely independent but nowadays I just want to be dependent. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 57046 From: Saturn next to Charmaine Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 13, 2015 12:56 PM
You will.IP: Logged |
athenaia Knowflake Posts: 172 From: USA Registered: May 2015
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posted September 13, 2015 08:13 PM
Venusian ASC with a chart ruler in the home of the other Venusian sign in the 5th house of romance Ruler of the 8th house also in the 5th house.. conjunct the Sun at that! Ruler of the 7th in the 6th - most likely you'll end up being drawn to people you're surrounded by for long periods of time in close proximity, be it coworkers, fellow gym/hobby goers, mentors, classmates, etc. That or you're drawn to fellow Virgo types - would be unsurprising given its already prominent presence in your chart. All the people I know with strong 5th houses always end up being in long term relationships one way or another. Once you hit your stride, everything will slide into place for you. Your chart wills it. NN in the 8th - sexual and psychological exploration is something you will have a strong intuitive understanding and an inclination towards Moon in Aquarius - you're naturally mistrusting of the intention of others. You need to vet people for a long period of time before you even allow anyone a glimpse into your inner life. Consider befriending many people and watch which seeds will bear the most rewarding fruit in due time. You need to be friends with someone before you can ever love them romantically. Mars on the south node - This is always dangerous. People with natal SN connections often fall into self defeating ruts and screw themselves over by never learning from a hard lesson. Be leery of this. This is the only truly negative aspect I see in your chart. Chiron conjunct the IC opposite Saturn - a narcissist in your childhood has done a lot of psychological damage to you (father figure? grandfather, uncle?). Maybe there was consistent emotional abuse. Consider everything that causes you anxiety and look for its root. Work on eliminating that pervasive pain from your life - it will be the ruination of many a relationship. You have a deep vulnerability that makes you keep people at arms length. Sensing the hesitance, people back away and this hurts you further. You won't be able to have a successful relationship until you work on forgiving yourself - maybe an abuser from your past convinced you that you brought the abuse upon yourself. Not true. Work on this. IP: Logged |
virgolotus Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 13, 2015 11:12 PM
Thank you! That reading was great and gave me the reassurance I needed. All is true what you said about my hesitance and self-defeating behavior. I need to work on that a bit more... or maybe a lot more. I really can't pinpoint the abuser but there are a few I suspect, mainly my father who was never there. Being gay that takes a huge toll. I'll keep everything you mentioned in mind. Thanks again!IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion Moderator Posts: 2398 From: PA, USA Registered: Apr 2012
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posted September 14, 2015 01:11 PM
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virgolotus Moderator Posts: 1345 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 14, 2015 02:35 PM
Thanks, scorpion. First of all I'm a dude... Second I completely disregarded that post. I'm sorry but I don't need a life coach or anything like that I just needed a few insights. There's nothing wrong with my psychically I think it's something way deeper than that like what has been mentioned here. I will try to mediate more and find the source of my pain. IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion Moderator Posts: 2398 From: PA, USA Registered: Apr 2012
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posted September 14, 2015 08:59 PM
quote: Originally posted by virgolotus: Thanks, scorpion. First of all I'm a dude... Second I completely disregarded that post. I'm sorry but I don't need a life coach or anything like that I just needed a few insights. There's nothing wrong with my psychically I think it's something way deeper than that like what has been mentioned here. I will try to mediate more and find the source of my pain.
Sorry, I must have confused you with someone else! I probably misread your username... LOL! OMG, how awkward. You're welcome, I can just go back and delete my comment. I felt bad reading the other post, since, well, it was just plain negative to me. Anyway, I'm sorry for all the confusion! :P
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