posted June 05, 2016 11:29 PM            

Our 1st meetup turn out to be fine like went out for dinner and later movie and even sat down in a park and chit-chat. I can say we left both of us kinda good impression. Later on we continue texted each other for the following day. And this continue for the weeks, I would go to find her either to have dinner after her work or movie average on once every 3 days(upon she agreed to see me). For some time, she would suggest that to watch movie at her home. Sometime, we would chat till her sleeping time then I would only back home. Some time when she's on her way back home from work, she would suddenly call me up and talk till she reach home (even I told her not to talk over the phone when driving) or when I'm having OT, she would call me when I told her I'm bored at work from data analysis. So far things proceed very smooth and I guessed it's time for me take another step since we're both interested in each(what I assume after all those activities).

So on our last date which also when we watch movie together in her house, I hold her hand and nothing happen till I went home. So the next days onward, things started to change. She started to be cold to me till I ask is "there anything happened to you". She responded that I was too rush and freak her out and mentioned that we should stop see-ing each other. We talked this out and I stepped back a little but things turn to worse. She only reply to me once a day and later become once every 2 days. I get frustrated and talk with her trying to sort things out. End up I "scolded" her that "Are you trying to play with my feeling towards you". She would just say "Thing turns out to rush for me" and later on no more reply. So I tried to reduce my pressure on her by only text her once every 3 or 4 day. But she would only reply like after a week. I'm never so hooked to any girl till I met her and this is the place where I end up to look for advice. I am seriously want this girl but I'm so lost on what should I do? I don't wanna lose her

posted June 06, 2016 09:34 AM            

She's 24 and I'm 25 this year. Both of us are from same cultural background.

That's what I thought since she showed me so much positive sign. She would be so happy when I went over to meet her. But few days before she said that we should not see each other so often. I give her facial care pack as present.

I think this might be one of the reason for her to be freak out.

posted June 06, 2016 12:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Welcome!

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posted June 08, 2016 01:16 AM            

From what you said, personally I don't think that you were too rush.

One hour drive, and still you went to see her every three days. Ah. So sweet.

I think that there is a possibility that she is fearful in relationship. Whatever it might be, the issue lies on her end imo.

Lol the facial care pack. Idk, to me it seems like a perfectly fine gift.

In my experience (myself included), it's easier for the other party when the caps know what they want and go for it. Otherwise, they'll blow "hot and cold" as they struggle to figure out their feelings and try to balance it with other things in their lives. This type may like a person to the point of sobbing into their blankets every night, but still keep their distance.

You can choose to stay around and wait. In that case, be prepared to deal with the one-step-forwards, three-steps-back dance.

posted June 08, 2016 01:53 AM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
I'm a cap sun/asc/venus/etc... And I know plenty of caps, so I'll try to see if I could be of some help.

From what you said, personally I don't think that you were too rush.

One hour drive, and still you went to see her every three days. Ah. So sweet.

I think that there is a possibility that she is fearful in relationship. Whatever it might be, the issue lies on her end imo.

Lol the facial care pack. Idk, to me it seems like a perfectly fine gift.

In my experience (myself included), it's easier for the other party when the caps know what they want and go for it. Otherwise, they'll blow "hot and cold" as they struggle to figure out their feelings and try to balance it with other things in their lives. This type may like a person to the point of sobbing into their blankets every night, but still keep their distance.

You can choose to stay around and wait. In that case, be prepared to deal with the one-step-forwards, three-steps-back dance.

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posted July 10, 2016 10:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Maybe that it was unexpected?

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I'm not so sure on this. Kinda confused

posted July 11, 2016 08:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
If you were dating for weeks or months and the only thing you did was hold her hand and she suddenly started acting differently, in Western culture that would mean that she only liked you as a friend. I have moon and AC in Capricorn and that is what it would mean for me. You are going to have to write her a letter revealing your strong feelings and asking her how she feels about you... or do it in person.

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Actually what I can think of is that might be she's still hesitating and unsure.
Or might be the past still troubling her.
Write her letter? As in snail mail kind of letter?

posted July 13, 2016 09:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
I would hand-write it to make it more personal.

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posted July 14, 2016 10:16 AM            

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Originally posted by zyuan24:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Randall:
[b]I would hand-write it to make it more personal.

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posted July 25, 2016 01:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Update?

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