posted January 08, 2019 05:02 AM            

I came across a picture of him recently and he has met someone else - he looks so happy and smitten and just content - although I wish him all the happiness I can’t help but feel defeated/used/like I meant nothing.

posted January 28, 2019 12:31 PM            

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Originally posted by DRVM614K:
transmute those energies into other endeavors. doesn't have to be another romantic relationship.

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posted February 01, 2019 12:23 AM            

You said you feel used and like you meant nothing to him. If this is true then you are much, much better off without him in your life. If it was truly one-sided, then the connection you felt with him was probably more about something you needed to learn through him. Moving on may be easier if you figure out what those lessons are.
And next time you can save your affection for someone who cares about you in return.

However I hope it's not true - in which case, keep reminding yourself that the relationship had meaning to the both of you. Just because he looks happy in pictures doesn't mean he has forgotten you. That's impossible to do if you truly cared about someone, in my opinion.

posted February 08, 2019 11:55 AM            

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Originally posted by sc0rpioRising:
I had a connection with someone 5 years ago - it was real - intense - painful - but had a lot of growth from it - and I think about him everyday since he left; I also haven’t seen of heard from him and he has stopped all communication

I came across a picture of him recently and he has met someone else - he looks so happy and smitten and just content - although I wish him all the happiness I can’t help but feel defeated/used/like I meant nothing.

How do I move on from this? I thought I had until I saw the picture. From the picture it looks as if he has found his true soul mate - and I feel like a plain old karmic one - which he would rather forget. I feel so sad and empty.

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Relationships that are painful but have a lot of growth have a profound effect on us because they paint a veryvivid picture of who we really really are.

Its like you have been "dead" for long or living a mundane existence for so long etc.that when someone comes along to jar you out of that rut, you discover you have a pulse.

It can indeed be very addictive and can feel like a rebirth to life: Strong vibrant feelings, senses and thoughts. Where have you been all my life? Etc.

Now separating from that person can feel like an addict being separated from their "fix". Very very hard and extremely painful. So its better to do it slowly and gradually than "cold turkey".

You need closure. To find a neutral place from which to operate from. Not this sense pain level that you plugged into. So i think you can make contact and ask to friends. Get communication going from that point.

posted February 08, 2019 01:41 PM            

I very much agree with
what you wrote

Learning and Growing!

posted February 08, 2019 08:48 PM            

Truth is, we have never
been separated from the
Other Half of us, it's
an ILLusion, our oversouls
in Heaven are happy and
content, living through
us...

posted April 13, 2019 05:18 PM            

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Originally posted by ballerina:
I'd like to add that
soul pieces can move
from one body temple
to another, til all
7 pieces are Re-United
in one body temple,
the 7 fold spirit...

Truth is, we have never
been separated from the
Other Half of us, it's
an ILLusion, our oversouls
in Heaven are happy and
content, living through
us...

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Ballerina, I'm curious about what you wrote about the seven soul pieces...can you explain more?

posted April 13, 2019 07:32 PM            

Once in human body, and much
time and lives past, the karma
became too much to balance,
and one could not possibly atone
in one life or several..
To help this move along, God
created the 7 fold spirit, so
we could be in more than one
body temple at a time to balance
our karma/\actions...
We have to attain these 7 pieces
for our soul to be whole..
So..each has 7 pieces, a pair
14..the number of pieces of
Osiris, that Isis found...

Feel free to ask me anything,
especially if that didn't make
sense...

posted February 27, 2020 08:11 PM            

He stopped communicating with me after a weekend visit. Literally just shut the door on the whole thing with zero explanation.

I thought I was going to lose it.
I didn't want to get out of bed, or eat, or anything. The same old "love sick" symptoms many people get.
I was still able to see his FB, and I watched him meet someone else. They seemed so happy.

Then she was gone, poof.

And he met someone else, and WOW, they seem so happy.
And then she was gone.

FOUR of them in five years, not to mention his side chicks. You know how you can just tell when two people have been intimate by the way they comment to each other's FB.

It got to the point where I couldn't stand myself. I was making my own self sick. It had to stop.

An old 90s movie I watched and loved had a saying that I never forgot, and it's this:
"The cure for melancholy is industry."
I finally accepted I wasn't going to get closure from him, so I'd get it from myself.

First thing I did was leave Facebook. My cyber stalking was keeping me in the energy of despair. It had to go.

Then I burned everything except one photo. I put it all in my firepit with some crunchy fall leaves, some lighter fluid, and a good amount of tears. WHOOSHHH! gone.

Then I did a ritual where I wrote all my feelings for him, good and bad, and rolled up the paper, and placed it into a bottle. I put the cork in the bottle and sealed it shut with blue candle wax. Blue is good for healing. While the candle was lit, I let myself think of the things we'd done together.. and I wished him well. I threw the bottle into the river. [I hate any type of littering but since I regularly pick up litter I thought... just this once..]

I removed his number from my phone, and eventually got a new phone & number.

The dreams still kept coming though. I just let them. Once in awhile I'd tell my BFF what he's doing in my dreams, and what he'd say... but nothing like I did at the start.

So I guess I just forced myself to do *something* because doing nothing made me feel so powerless.

And guess what happened? A month ago he moved to my town. He hunted me down, and asked me if it was too late. And I said yes. Of course I wanted to take him back. But when people treat you this way, they show you what you're worth to them. I want to be worth more. Because I'm worth more to myself, than to be someone's fling... sidepeice...Fk buddy...even "girlfriend." I saw how important "girlfriend's" are to him. He changes them more often than I change my air filters.