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problematique
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posted February 23, 2024 05:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for problematique     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i just sort of need to open myself here a lil bit because thereís no other place for me to do that. last year a very special, lovely bond happened between me and someone and due to reasons, it abruptly stopped. we havenít spoken since october and itís been really hard but as time went by i managed to sort of pull myself together.

recently, in the past 10 days, itís been unbearable. i started having dreams about him and the girl i think heís with,
(maybe) waking up in the middle of the night, crying, having the urge to vomit etc. during the day i can barely
eat properly. yesterday i missed my bus stop because i zoned out so hard. a woman started talking to me and i could barely contain myself not to cry in public.

my soul feels tired, i feel used and neglected and itís been months but it seems itís only getting worse especially nowadays. i literally skip lunch because i canít make myself to eat. my entire body feels like dying. an educated lady told me this is someone elseís energy being projected onto me if it completely obstructs my life. what do you think about that? and have you ever felt this way?

i know times heals it all and thatís not what iím asking but. why is all this happening to me and it just keeps going on and on. is it unfinished business?

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posted February 25, 2024 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted February 26, 2024 09:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It might be that you have not fully faced the pain of separating from him, perhaps it was buried deep within you until now and now it is coming up very intensely. It takes quite some time to heal from the pain of separation for me too, takes many years. Were you two involved in physical intimacy? I have found deep intimacy can merge someone else's energy with me. My usual go-to solution for that to ground myself from it is meditation, as well as time.

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posted March 13, 2024 10:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Mystic~Melody
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posted May 26, 2024 02:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic~Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know this is an old thread but in case anyone reading this ever has the same issue...

I recently went through a traumatic situation with my daughter (Pluto has been conjunct/square and now trine all of my personal planets for about 20 years so the trauma is pretty much never-ending) and during the worst emotional pain that caused me to doubt my sanity I prayed. I didn't know what to do and I asked the wisdom/intellect of the Ages to guide me.

The answer I got was to do something about it.

It doesn't even matter if what you do yields the results you hope happen. Something inside is crying out to be heard. Telling you to take action. It could be anything. It could be he is also thinking about you and hurting deeply over it. It could be that he is not thinking about you at all and has so moved on and happy that he never thinks of you. It could be that he is is sick or dying. What matters is that you take all actions you possible can to discover the truth.

Of course, you don't do illegal things etc but don't be afraid to reach out and see how the person is doing. Ask if they are happy. If they are then you have your answer, time to move on and find the person who is really meant to fill that space in your life. If you let go what is not good for you, there is room for good to come and fill that space. Even if it is growing parts of yourself that will take you to point of meeting the correct person who will have all of the good qualities you see in the current person and the good things you've seen in other people, plus lovely surprises that you didn't realize you wanted.

Silly example would be that you are a dedicated scrapbooker (do they even exist anymore lol) and you have neglected your craft so you decide to focus on yourself and sign up for a class and then you meet someone there who also loves scrapbooking. This could be your person or the person who ultimately puts you in touch with your person.

You just do everything you can to learn the truth of the situation so you can then determine your own next steps. Hanging in limbo can be extremely damaging and painful so just make the call or write the message. Be honest. Tell the person that you have been feeling that you need to connect and see if they are happy or if they need you for anything. If they are not happy about your call or if they tell you that they are happy then you can fully grieve and then take steps towards your future.

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