posted January 11, 2013 07:52 AM
i found that article on inner wheel blog", what to think of this powerful symbolism in the composite chart?
Like individuals with 12th house planets, couples with a lot of twelfth house may feel that there is something fated about their lives together. Something is whispering in their ears. It is not so much a question of choice, more that the universe has chosen for them to be together (at least, that’s what it feels like). It’s a bit like getting knocked off your feet by a powerful wave–you and your partner are going to have to swim in the tide for a while, and deal with whatever watery beasties swim your way. I”ve seen couples with a heavy 12th house influence utterly befuddled and bedazzled by their lives (which don’t go the way their friends’ lives go). It isn’t that they’re unhappy–no, they seem to go more the extreme of bliss altering with despair. On the one hand “We are meant to be…” on the other, “But if we are, why is it so hard?”
When a couple has planets, or an important planet, in the 12th, it can go a couple of ways. One, that planet’s energy can be confused and diffused in their lives, especially when in difficult aspect to other things in the composite. You don’t want, on the whole, a composite Mars in the 12th square to Neptune, unless you are missionaries or you plan to open up a swimming pool installation company. It usually indicates that there is something karmic surrounding that planet that needs fixing–it is, in a prior life, something that was missed or misused between them. It’s the last chance to get it right, and there will be a struggle to use this planet’s positive expression easily. In contrast, couples who come together to create something for the collective often have the appropriate planets in the composite 12th, there for all to see. (One expression does not contra-indicate the other.)
This ‘last chance’ element, sadly, often leads us to relationships that are destined to exist only to fix this thing–when the lesson is learned, both these people move on. It often indicates couples who seem to have a lot of shared experience and shared history–even if they are new to one another, it feels ‘old.’ They recognize one another when they meet. They seem bonded before a word is spoken. We romanticize all of this (and well, a little romance never hurt anyone) but the truth is that this familiarity is there to ‘hurry up’ the bonding process so that the lessons and the challenges can be quickly assimilated. These are the couples who are magnetically attracted to one another and who, after making the necessary commitments, find themselves on strange and unfamiliar territory.
Couples where the 12th is strong can often experience–well, let’s say it–Neptunian weirdness. Telepathy, visiting one another out of body, lucid dreaming where they communicate with one another, strange psychic links and melding of the two energetic bodies. (You can have this without the 12th of course, but the 12th is inclined to it.) This can happen in composites of unrequited love, where one person loves another who doesn’t know he or she exists. Now, you can either say it’s karma, or you can say that person A is psychologically hooking onto the archetype formed with person B’s chart, but whatever it is, it can be a very powerful pull. I’m not quick to say its an illusion, but it’s not quite ‘real’ either, and you can get into some dangerous territory in the 12th by telling yourself things that aren’t really true. The weirdness of the 12th usually happens when one or both of the other parties has a heavy 12th influence in the natal.
Again, sadly, this being the 12th, most of the time the lesson is learning to love and then let go. Neptune’s great teaching is that love is a powerful force in and of itself, and should not be used as a binder. Neptune, as the higher octave of Venus, is all about connections, and the 12th house allows us to dissolve the boundaries of ordinary life in order to reach out beyond our mundane reality. Those of us with composite 12th emphasized will be asked to step away from the mundane and step into the world of the extraordinary, where unlikely connections are day to day things. Sometimes we will be asked to make leaps of faith. Oftentimes, once we surrender to the powers of the 12th house, our lives are transformed by meaning, because those unlikely connections have brought us a wisdom beyond our time together. Eventually, we learn that life is not as random as we thought, but full of purpose and meaning. It may have felt like chaos, but later on we know that there was method to the madness.
Couples with a heavy 12th house/ 6th house polarity have to find a way to put their wisdom to some practical use. It often helps to work together on projects they find meaningful, or to spend some time doing community or charity work. Once they have hammered out their imbalance (too little, too much is often a theme with the 12th) they must find a way to make something real of their inspiration. Find a way to bring the god down to the day to day world, so that it, too, is considered sacred. It’s a huge task, but often one the 12th house couple is uniquely suited for.
You may now be more confused about the 12th house than you were at the beginning of this piece, but such is the nature of the 12th, beautiful and terrible. We are fated, but we are meant to part. We have a meaningful journey to take together, but we must ultimately be alone. Our lives are silly and sublime at once. We have the ultimate intimacy side by side with the knowledge of ultimate separateness. We grasp for the handrail, and find nothing to hold on to. We fall, and find the world."
http://theinnerwheel.com/2012/09/01/the-composite-chart-and-the-12th-house-the-ghost-at-the-door/
The 12th house is about surrendering, and letting go. In some instance, and sadly more often, it is about letting go of the relationship.
But imo there is yet another way, that this relationship propells you to let go of preconception how a life or relationships "should" be.
There definitely is a choice to make. Either people stay attached to their preconceptions and ideas about how relationships ideally should be, then they will lose the 12th house relationship.
But if they can detach from their ideas and surrender to going with the flow of the relationship, it might be a beautiful experience.
Also could mean a past life relationship of course.
BTW my parents have Moon in the 12th house of their composite.
They have been married for 39 years this year. They have very different temperaments (Dad is an Aquarius, Mum is a Scorpio, their Suns are closely square), but they are emotionally very close as well.
it`s not a "usual" relationships though in the sense that it is extremely tightly knitted, very very family oriented, almost "tribal", as I would see it and extending to the whole family.
And they have had to face bumps and challenges and mastered them all so far.
First my 2 year younger brother has the Down syndrome, which totally changed all plans my mum had about her life, of course, and my Dad´s as well.
Then they took in my mum`s younger sister and brought her up in our family.
they had a foster-child (temporary), also a kid with Down syndrome, for a few weeks when his grandma had to go to hospital (the mother was a drug addict and not able to take care of her son, or herself for that matter).
They took my grandfather in, after his stroke, and my mom nursed him at home, beside everything else that was going on.
they were co-founding and participating in two non profit organizations helping mentally handicapped people, especially in terms of integration into the social culture.
my dad at several points had to choose between career and family. He was being asked to take over some diplomatic or political function, but this would have meant that he would have been away from home a lot. It was clear to both my parents that this would have been the end of their relationship, in the long run, as they need to stay together somehow.
They have only been separated for 6 weeks, when my dad was transferred to another job temporarily (his superior wasn`t to pleased my dad dared declining the offer to a great career. 
), and it was really straining for them.
Lindaland
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posted January 08, 2013 05:47 PM
posted January 08, 2013 07:58 PM
. So that fits very well.