posted January 29, 2013 06:16 AM            

I've met someone wonderful! We've been dating for about 5-6 months now and I can see a future for us. But, as Waterlilly said I have doubts because he's just so different from what I thought the One would be like! will this be a problem or is it right just because of that? I would like to know my true feelings about this... because honestly I enjoy his company so much and I'm in love so I can't decide if it's right or if I'm just lonely and needy. Love clouds judgement...

So, don't know if Birdy and Waterlilly are still around or if someone else have any input or ideas how to know what to do... Thing is, I can't really just go on forever because time is an issue for me if I want to start a family with someone.

I don't know what I feel! I thought I would just "know" but I guess that's a fairy tale..? How do you guys "just know"?

posted January 29, 2013 05:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Nyah:
Thing is, I can't really just go on forever because time is an issue for me if I want to start a family with someone.

I don't know what I feel! I thought I would just "know" but I guess that's a fairy tale..? How do you guys "just know"?

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posted January 30, 2013 03:57 AM            

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Originally posted by birdy:
Hey I remember you. Can you post the charts again?

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Hello birdy! nice to see you again! how are you?!
I'm posting the links here to my charts:

Solar return 2013/2014 (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/solar_nyah_1314_zpsb5b45e16 .gif

Progressions (Equal): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/progress_nyah_2013130 _zps82568a9a.gif

Progressions (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/progress_pla cidus_nyah_2013130_zps8e45072d.gif

Transits (Equal): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/transits_nyah_2013130 _zps4461867a.gif

Transits (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/transits_nyah_placidus_zpsdb9a5f8a.gif

Natal chart (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/j-natalchart.jpg

Natal chart (Equal): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/natal-j-equal.jpg

posted January 30, 2013 04:17 AM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
for whatever reason it always bothers me when i see a woman write/say this, because that desire to start a family/get married trumps all else, to the point you're not working on being a complete person, but racing against a clock. anyway... you will 'just know' - it's the most bizarre thing to hear someone say, but until you've actually had it happen, you haven't. your whole body will know when you meet the right person and it doesn't normally happen after the relationship has gone on for some time. it's (generally) immediate - you 'just know' right away - and you feel it with every part of you - your mind/heart and spirit all come together and point you at the one person. in my own case, i heard a voice, it might sound ridiculous, but the first time i met my guy i heard (internally) 'he's the one.' and, while he didn't hear voices, he felt the same. you will 'just know.' don't settle because you think you need to get going with another part of your life. make sure. the fact that you're questioning it means something is amiss - you wouldn't question 'it' if it was right - everything aligns so that you don't even have to ask. my own personal opinion is that while opposites might initially attract, it's similarities that keep you together, so if he's too dissimilar that could be problematic... good luck :-)

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Hi Starmoon! Thanks for your reply! I couldn't agree more with you, I don't like hearing about girls stressing over marriage and kids either when they should focus on themselves first. I actually made this decision for myself 6 years ago (!) when my last serious relationship was over. I said to myself I wouldn't ever settle again, I would go for my dreams and nothing less would do.

posted January 30, 2013 04:33 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
my own personal opinion is that while opposites might initially attract, it's similarities that keep you together, so if he's too dissimilar that could be problematic... good luck :-)

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posted January 30, 2013 05:19 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I agree with Starmoon. Although I haven't met that person, I've had the same kind of all over sensation that I was meeting someone important. It was like I was him. His soul was inside me, and effortlessly. That's also not me being cheesy as I can't stand such communication, but matter of fact. It was the most bizarre thing to experience as starmoon said. We didn't date, he was afraid of me for some reason and ended up going back to his Scorpio ex-gf. Ah well. I learned that I wasn't completely intellectual and my intuition DOES in fact work on some level.

As for something else she said - [b]don't settle because you think you need to get going with another part of your life. I love that. Hard. I struggle with this kind of thing even only being 23 due to my environment and expectations of myself. I lived in Utah when I went to middle school, and finished out high school and college in Oklahoma. Both places that focus heavily on religion and marriage, the latter taking place as early as possible. My friend and I (who, oddly enough, both moved out of Utah with our families to Virginia at the same time.) look at the girls from middle school who are all pregnant and married now and can't believe it. We're not even in our mid-twenties yet! It's wild. But to each their own. My life is going at the right pace for me.[/B]

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Hi hannaramaa!
Would you say that you are in tune with your intuition generally or were those feelings standing out? Because I feel off and it's been years since I felt in tune... I mean, would I even be able to have such experience when I'm so blocked?

posted January 30, 2013 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
hey i'm sorry for chipping in, it's just that..... i'm really scared i might fall in love with someone who is the wrong age/line of work etc. would you mind telling me how it can stop mattering?? because i feel like i'd shoot myself if it happened to me.

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posted January 30, 2013 05:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Nyah:
Hi hannaramaa!
Would you say that you are in tune with your intuition generally or were those feelings standing out? Because I feel off and it's been years since I felt in tune... I mean, would I even be able to have such experience when I'm so blocked?

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Mmm... I wouldn't say I was in tune with it. But at the time I was certainly more spiritually unguarded and open. It was a lot easier for me to absorb things and pick up impressions because I was recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship. For me, my intuition works best when I'm exhausted. Otherwise I think about it too much.

posted January 30, 2013 05:47 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
hey i'm sorry for chipping in, it's just that..... i'm really scared i might fall in love with someone who is the wrong age/line of work etc. would you mind telling me how it can stop mattering?? because i feel like i'd shoot myself if it happened to me.

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posted January 30, 2013 05:56 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Mmm... I wouldn't say I was in tune with it. But at the time I was certainly more spiritually unguarded and open. It was a lot easier for me to absorb things and pick up impressions because I was recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship. For me, my intuition works best when I'm exhausted. Otherwise I think about it too much.

Honestly, I think to have such experiences you have to be very internally at peace (calm.) If you're looking for it your mind is concentrated on your expectations, and expectations are closed doors for what can actually happen. Try and squash as much of your fear and doubt as possible, because those are ego based and your ego is what gets in the way of your true potential and experiences.

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posted January 31, 2013 04:30 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
You're too riddled with fear. You have to believe you'll find the right match for you. The fear of not finding the right person is stopping you from finding that person. If fear was an object it would be a brick wall. How are you ever going to see the right person if you're always hugging the brick wall? You couldn't. So work on trusting the universe and yourself and you'll be miles ahead to finding the right person suited for you.

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posted January 31, 2013 01:10 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Hanna, imagine you really trusted and the next thing you knew was a midget-like wannabe songwriter asking you out? Or my favorite fat 36 year old cocaine addict acting languidly wistful? How would you feel?

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posted January 31, 2013 01:44 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Okay argue with me, I don't really care. It's your love life. Just because a midget asks you out doesn't mean you have to accept - seems kind of obvious.

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posted January 31, 2013 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Of course. But these things make me lose faith. Without meaning to make this thread about me. Have you heard of gratification? Now imagine you've had none for years.

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posted January 31, 2013 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
just focus on being positive and not looking at your lack of gratification/love as negative. you're being given time to work on yourself and work towards attracting the right partner for you. you will absolutely attract who you want when you are in a place of calmness and positivity within yourself. like seems to attract like - if you're negative you'll be attracting negative - ie midgets and other creatures you'd rather not have :-)

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posted January 31, 2013 03:56 PM            

You need to be cautious about keeping your feelings to yourself too much and not discussing your feelings with him. You might push him away without realizing it. Your SR for the year looks good for marriage to me or at least a engagement.

posted January 31, 2013 05:03 PM            

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Originally posted by birdy:
I dont normally use equal. What is progressed ASC degrees/sign in placidus? Doubts are normal.
You're very strongly Capricorn influenced. The inner dialogue you're having sounds about right for you.

You need to be cautious about keeping your feelings to yourself too much and not discussing your feelings with him. You might push him away without realizing it. Your SR for the year looks good for marriage to me or at least a engagement.

The synastry is interesting and looks good from what I can see. Can you post the composite? It looks fated with those NN connections, vertex, and IC/MC conjunctions. Is this equal house for the synastry?

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Well hello there!!

I prefer Placidus as well, but sometimes my houses gets so ridiculously different in size in Placidus (like my huge natal 6th and 12th house.. geez!). I've added some links to the collection I had in the beginning of the thread. The progressed ASC in Placidus is at 17°46 Cancer. I am very Capricornian yes...

The thing you said about letting him know my feelings is a struggle for me. I am much more open with him than I've been before with other people, I think we keep each other open by having mutual feelings and we're still so in love that it's not a problem - we show affection and appreciation so that words aren't needed that much (yet). We are both guarded people in general. But I don't think I should tell him I have doubts, should I? that doesn't sound like a wise plan. Fears and doubts are contagious and I don't want to make him unsure about me...

Good time for marriage! nice! a bit soon maybe but ok! what about moving in together? that should be a first step... we don't even live in the same city, it's frustrating and honestly I don't think I can move to his (small) town, no work for me there..

I'm posting the composite here (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/composite_nyah-j_placidus_zpscc4dd586.gif

posted January 31, 2013 05:57 PM            

Your progessed Venus is at 0 degrees Pisces...conj your natal Sun. This is suppose to a potent time for love. A lot of people meet significant partners at this time. Your progressed IC is about to change into Virgo. IC=Home. This could indicate a move. Saturn will conj the IC which rules your 7th. Living with a partner. Maybe when Moon progresses into Taurus or right before it does you'll notice a move or talks/plans of it at least.
In your SR, you have Saturn in 4th in Scorpio/NN. Scorpio=change/transformation. Also the ancient ruler of Aquarius(SR-7th), is Saturn. So again that partner/home theme comes up again. Look at his chart as well to see if you see any connections.

Take your time, relax, enjoy being in love.

Check out the recent and upcoming eclipses and look for connections to angles and/or planets in both of your charts.

-2012-
Solar Eclipse: 13 Nov 2012 21Sco56
Lunar Eclipse: 28 Nov 2012 06Gem46

posted February 01, 2013 07:37 AM            

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No.. definitely dont tell him your doubts. lol..I meant just emotionally. Even if you feel like you're purging/opening up yourself more with him, there might be a tendency
for you to hide how you're feeling, sending out confusing conflicting messages ..Maybe it doesn't show itself right away, but it's just something to keep in mind during this solar return. He might intuitively feel your doubts. Look at how you reacted about thinking I meant telling him your doubts. You want him in your life. Look at both of your Asc rulers are conj each other's Vertex double whammy. I like Vertex.
It's a very intense point in a chart and when another connects to it, it feels fated, and not like most connections. The composite is interesting. Your feelings will develop with time. Capricorn needs time.
The longer he is with you, I feel like the more your feelings will get more comfortable and relaxed without as many doubts or if any at all. Is he more shy than you are?
A issue that might arise is that they're might be a feeling of inequality and imbalance. One doing more for the other..with no balance. Do you guys talk a lot? Even if one or both of you aren't naturally inclined to talking a lot, you guys can talk A LOT. I think that's a huge attraction for you both.

Your progessed Venus is at 0 degrees Pisces...conj your natal Sun. This is suppose to a potent time for love. A lot of people meet significant partners at this time. Your progressed IC is about to change into Virgo. IC=Home. This could indicate a move. Saturn will conj the IC which rules your 7th. Living with a partner. Maybe when Moon progresses into Taurus or right before it does you'll notice a move or talks/plans of it at least.
In your SR, you have Saturn in 4th in Scorpio/NN. Scorpio=change/transformation. Also the ancient ruler of Aquarius(SR-7th), is Saturn. So again that partner/home theme comes up again. Look at his chart as well to see if you see any connections.

Take your time, relax, enjoy being in love.

Check out the recent and upcoming eclipses and look for connections to angles and/or planets in both of your charts.

-2012-
Solar Eclipse: 13 Nov 2012 21Sco56
Lunar Eclipse: 28 Nov 2012 06Gem46

- 2013 -
Lunar Eclipse Apr 25 2013 20:06 05° Scorpio
Solar Eclipse May 10 2013 0:24 19° Taurus
Lunar Eclipse May 25 2013 4:09 04° Sag
Lunar Eclipse Oct 18 2013 23:49 25° Aries
Solar Eclipse Nov 3 2013 12:46 11° Scorpio

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Hello again!
This was really interesting! I think maybe I'm sending mixed messages and he's very good at reading people so I'm sure he's confused from time to time. I will try to communicate more with him so we don't end up misinterpret each other.

I feel more and more comfortable with time, but isn't that normal for everyone? I can imagine my doubts go away with time because I think much of my doubt has to do with the process of letting down my guard and being vulnerable and all that... and trust someone.

The imbalance you mentioned might be that I think he has a sense that I could get someone "better" than him.. He's very normal in most ways and he doesn't think he's anyone special at all. I guess he has a "medium"-life, BUT he has great traits in relationships that I don't think he realizes (a few exes want him back so that's a hint!). He is very respectful, a good listener, keeps the home tidy, good hygiene, great taste in clothing and furniture, helps out with everything that needs to be done, he's got everything under control! so, a great life companion for most people I guess!

Interesting about my stuff lining up there in the progression.. wow! I will check those eclipses out since the solar eclipse last spring really was a turning point for me.. I wish I knew when to expect things to go to the next level.. I might need to sell my apartment.. and find a new job? lol!

Would you mind looking at his charts to see if any move or changing of job is visible in his near future? or anything else of interest (marriage, kids ) .. I appreciate your time and effort so much and you don't have to do this! but if you have the time, here are some links

His natal (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/natal_jo_placidus_zps1a03 bbcd.gif
His progressions (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/progress_jo_placidus_zpsb59ff54a.gif
His transits (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/transits_jo_placidus_zps27ab7814.gif

posted February 03, 2013 04:32 AM            

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Can you post his solar return for 12/13 and 13/14?

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Ofcourse! yay!

His Solar return 2012/2013 (Placidus): http://i385.photobucket.com/albums/oo292/Nyah_photobucket/solar_jo_201213_zps5cda7a57.gif