posted February 01, 2014 09:18 PM            

My question: when might be a good time to have "the relationship talk" with S? Or is he going to bring it up?

posted February 01, 2014 09:30 PM            

While traditionally these cards have specific meanings, I'm getting a slightly different picture than what they imply. I'm getting that the two of you had an argument or a disagreement that might've gotten out of hand in the sense that maybe you said something that hurt his feelings. Even though you didn't mean it in that way, it's the way he took it. So he's insulating himself now - I literally see a wounded animal retreating.

But I also see that with communication, it can be 'made right'; it'll just take time. Because he's insulating, I do think you're going to have to be the one to contact him again; perhaps review some of the things you've said, so that you can clarify?

posted February 01, 2014 09:33 PM            

i think you should not initiate it. it will bring up worries and the feeling of "deceit" because it seems there is more to this situation than is evident. be cautious in not bringing it up with him. he will initiate it himself when he is ready. i think he is thinking of how to approach this situation in a better way and it will usher the new beginning between you two. you are advised however to travel/change residence. i am not sure how it fits here in this situation. could there be pregnancy involved? just curious because these cards have various meanings at the same time

posted February 01, 2014 09:39 PM            

thanks for reading losttaurus. i am just trying to figure out why all of sudden he has decided to keep distance from me.

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Okay Britannia, did you guys have an argument? I pulled 5/Hearts, King/Spades, 5/Diamonds, 2/Spades, Queen/Diamonds.

While traditionally these cards have specific meanings, I'm getting a slightly different picture than what they imply. I'm getting that the two of you had an argument or a disagreement that might've gotten out of hand in the sense that maybe you said something that hurt his feelings. Even though you didn't mean it in that way, it's the way he took it. So he's insulating himself now - I literally see a wounded animal retreating.

But I also see that with communication, it can be 'made right'; it'll just take time. Because he's insulating, I do think you're going to have to be the one to contact him again; perhaps review some of the things you've said, so that you can clarify?

Does any of this resonate with you?

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posted February 01, 2014 09:46 PM            

The day before S and I got to see each other for the first time in a couple of weeks, the housemate's boyfriend hit her - HARD. I didn't realize when S and I met to spend the evening together that my stress and strain from it was so evident; apparently it was. He pried it out of me. He was understandably concerned, but I was so happy he didn't try to "fix it", he just listened, gave me advice and URGED me to move....I've been staying with my sister at his behest, since.

posted February 01, 2014 09:54 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Wow...that you saw that is a little astonishing, really. My housemate and her boyfriend (who also lives here) have become quite combative. Add to it that he has started making passes at me the last few weeks. I've been able to rebuff him pretty effectively (though he keeps jokingly making the passes every few days...) and had just planned to wait it out until I graduate in May. I can't tell her because she's very much a "shoot the messenger"-type person. I keep telling him to leave me alone, but he keeps bringing it back up.

The day before S and I got to see each other for the first time in a couple of weeks, the housemate's boyfriend hit her - HARD. I didn't realize when S and I met to spend the evening together that my stress and strain from it was so evident; apparently it was. He pried it out of me. He was understandably concerned, but I was so happy he didn't try to "fix it", he just listened, gave me advice and URGED me to move....I've been staying with my sister at his behest, since.

...so my going back will have a bearing on my situation with him?

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posted February 01, 2014 09:57 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Hmmm...I still think someone has said something to him to make him retreat, withdraw, reassess. Maybe he could use your support because I see _your_ words making a difference somehow. I'd say check in specifically with an "is everything okay?" kind of thing. I really feel like he could use a good word from you.

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posted February 01, 2014 09:58 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Yes it does. It sounds like him - he loves to travel, does it a lot, and is a great companion and friend. Thank you Britannia.

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posted March 08, 2014 06:38 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
I pulled 4/Spades, Ace/Clubs, 5/Spades as your core reading. Clarifiers are 5/Hearts, 6/Diamonds, 6/Clubs, 3/Clubs.

From this, I get that this is a newish relationship - less than a year, so you're still learning about each other? - and that the two of you have been bickering a bit (or chafing each others' nerves?). 6/Diamonds confirms this for me. 5/Hearts tells me that there's a third person involved, but I don't get the sense at all that it's someone he's interested in, like a romantic interest; rather, it's someone in his sphere that, like, encourages his minor frustrations with you - tries to 'make mountains out of molehills' - in an effort to put a permanent wedge between the two of you.

However the 5/Spades assures that these obstacles are temporary and I get the strong sense the two of you will overcome them. The 3/Clubs promises love & happiness, a successful union; second chances. I get the feeling these are relative to the two of you, not you and anyone else.

Hope this helps! Looking forward to mine as well

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Hi Lost Taurus.. I have a minor update for you. In reference to the most recent question I asked, we haven't had an official talk because he says he'd rather do it face to face. Anyway, something that happened last night led me to do a little digging of my own and I came across some info that let me know there likely is a third person (a woman) that could be attributing to things this past month and a half -aside from other personal things he is dealing with. I know you said you didn't get the feeling he is interested in the person romantically, but this woman would be an ex gf or fiancé (but I'm certain there's more to it I don't know.. they did keep business ties as far as I can tell). This was a surprise because he has never mentioned her.. I actually thought I was seeing things.
I've been trying to tie this reading in with the most recent one you gave me and think this could make sense, assuming she knows about me anyway. I don't know what will happen with us after we talk.. The 3/clubs and 5/spades you pulled for this one give me a tiny bit of hope though. With this new information, do you think you'd interpret it the same way?

posted March 08, 2014 08:43 PM            

As to the other info you found out: stop looking for reasons this "just can't work"! Business partnerships are like marriages - from a legal standpoint they can't be resolved overnight. Even if they're not looking to dissolve the business partnership, any smart business person will hang onto a solid partner regardless of personal disagreement until (and unless) sabotage becomes an issue, making them no longer a solid partner.

posted March 08, 2014 10:18 PM            

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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Hey Kay!! Face to face is good - it shows that he has respect for you!

As to the other info you found out: stop looking for reasons this "just can't work"! Business partnerships are like marriages - from a legal standpoint they can't be resolved overnight. Even if they're not looking to dissolve the business partnership, any smart business person will hang onto a solid partner regardless of personal disagreement until (and unless) sabotage becomes an issue, making them no longer a solid partner.

Ex or not, I get no sense of personal attraction coming from him at all - in fact, in relation to this personal partnership specifically, I'm being shown a ship in the faraway distance, heading further out: it's all I need to see. So again....stop looking for reasons that this "just can't work" - just as was the case when you went digging, you manifest what you expect Everyone has skeletons. ((HUGS))

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