posted May 21, 2014 10:36 PM            

Thank You.

posted May 21, 2014 10:45 PM            

Your ex is violent and can't control himself. You're lucky that he broke up with you and gave you freedom so you could meet someone better.

posted May 21, 2014 11:03 PM            

How scary!

I know that you are trying to work your way through what happened, which must be a shock, by trying to make sense of it astrologically(synastry).

But his tendency toward violence has NOTHING to do with you. It is innate within him.

I sincerely hope you are not thinking you set him off in anyway--people are responsible for their own actions.

His violence will be reflected in his OWN chart.

posted May 21, 2014 11:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Bby_Scorpio:
@littlecloud- No, we have not always been long-distance. I've known him since middle school and we are now in college. We've gone to school together and everything. Although I know he has a temper, I have to take part of the blame too. I have a attitude and mouth on me as well. I can't help but think I provoked atleast SOME of it.

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posted May 21, 2014 11:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Bby_Scorpio:
@littlecloud- No, we have not always been long-distance. I've known him since middle school and we are now in college. We've gone to school together and everything. Although I know he has a temper, I have to take part of the blame too. I have a attitude and mouth on me as well. I can't help but think I provoked atleast SOME of it.

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posted May 22, 2014 01:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Bby_Scorpio:
I have to take part of the blame too. I can't help but think I provoked atleast SOME of it.

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Most abusers want you to think the same way you are thinking, with their rationality: "I wouldn't have hit you, if you didn't MAKE me hit you" Classic guilt tripping.

Please understand that no matter what you say, no one has the right to hit you!! No one. Do not take the blame for this at all. No one has the right to lay hands on you. Period.

posted May 22, 2014 01:59 PM            

But you're a Scorpio an you didn't whoop his ass?! I'd be asking for Horary to see when the cops will come for me. Keep your paws to yourself.

I understand where you're coming from. I REALLY do. As a Scorpio moon, I find there's a fine line between a fight and an abusive relationship. If me and my mate had a fist fight, would I stay? TO ME, it depends. If it's recurring, it's an abusive relationship.

HOOOOOOOWWWEEVER!!!!, if you put your hands on me, it's now a fair fight. Put your dukes up. If a man is beating you and you're not fighting back, he's a sadist. Not cool. I'm talking about you pushed me once, hit me once.... Not beating me to death.

I'm saying this to say that I understand that violence is not a dealbreaker for everybody. If you feel you're in serious danger, you need to let him go.

You have a lot of hard aspects to some angry planets. Pluto/Pluto, Saturn/Saturn, Saturn/Mars, double Neptune/Uranus.... This doesn't look like the last go.

See, I have a Libra Pluto in 5th and Libra 5th house ruler. As long as the fight is fair and not recurring, I COULD move past it. If I get him down, I'll even give him a chance to get up. Fair fight.

posted May 22, 2014 03:18 PM            

I'm not encouraging abuse in relationships, but the notion that siblings can fight, but spouses can't just makes no sense. I'm your lover, brother and sister, too.

I just don't think this will be the last time since you want to look at synastry for an answer. I can give you the benefit that he feels bad, but this is twice already, the synastry is grim and HE broke up with YOU.

Pisces don't like to fight. I will tell you that. Drama is a dealbreaker for them. CONSIDERING your natal, I'd say this isn't the only context he's "put his hands on you". I leave that to imagination.

No man has put his hands on me. They KNOW they don't want that problem.

I think this will happen again and you should move on to someone else.

posted May 22, 2014 03:35 PM            

Spill it, Scorpio Sun/ Leo Mars.

Because I come from a culture that if you start the fist fight, you don't get to talk afterwards. You decided to solve the problem with your fists, it's now over, done and dusted.

Spill it, North Carolina.

posted May 23, 2014 12:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Bby_Scorpio:
@LoadedPistil- Lol, in this recent situation, NO I didn't put my hands on him first but I did fight back. But in other situations which were not so violent, I have because I can't lie, I do love aggressiveness and aggressive men to a CERTAIN EXTENT! But this past week, made me want to kill. I, in no way fear for my life though.

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Ok. I could sense you were part of the problem. But I can also tell the will happen again I can only recommend to keep people around who bring out your best, not worst.

posted May 24, 2014 10:29 PM            

Loaded- sorry but I don't agree with this. Abuse of any kind in any relationship is not healthy. It only serves to perpetuate more violence and unhealthy behavior. There's a reason why Greek drama, soap operas etc, are filled with stories of family betrayals, killings and things I could never do to my siblings.

Although I am happy and in agreement with what you said about keeping people around who bring out your best.

Bby_Scorpio
I was once in a relationship with a guy that did a 180 as soon as things became official. He became mentally and emotionally abusive. When I mentioned his behavior to some school mates they looked at me in shock because he doesn't seem at all like what I described. Very laid back. But it was always there lingering beneath the surface. Eventually I broke up with him. Afterwards I realized how miserable he had been making me. That I hadn't even smiled in months. So yes, you can hangout with a person and not truly know them until you get into a closer relationship with them.

If you like aggressive men and aggression in general that's what BDSM is for. You have a safe word and you can get all the aggression you need. There is no reason to get into arguments over laundry for a taste of aggression.

posted May 24, 2014 11:35 PM            

Using violence against your partner because you can't control your anger? I'm sorry I'm assuming you guys are adults and not children.

Yes, children use violence against one another because they can't express themselves with words - adults should know better.

This thread is a bit sad really - finding ways through astrology to justify his behavior? Making excuses for him?

The guy threw you around, choked you, shook you and bit you?!!! How is this ok??? This has red lights flushing all over 'danger! danger! danger!'

posted May 25, 2014 12:56 AM            

Violence happens in life. It's not even human nature. It's nature nature.

posted May 25, 2014 12:57 AM            

Astrologically I see more a tendency for emotional abuse and manipulation between the two of you. But you should post your natals for more astrological input.

posted May 25, 2014 01:30 AM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Ok. Agree to disagree. Children aren't the only ones that fight. That's what armies are for. It's some ridiculous brainwash the we teach children that violence isn't the answer until they turn 18. And sharing. More nonsense.

Violence happens in life. It's not even human nature. It's nature nature.

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I totally agree with this. At 18 you can go get married, join the army, but can't drink. I find it illogical. And yes, nature nature is violent, in regards to animals it's a bit more logical. They will compete for mates and if it comes to physically fighting their own species they avoid killing each other because it makes no sense to. In humans we've completely screwed up the situation. We claim intelligence over all the animal kingdom yet we destroy each other and our resources any chance we get.

Living under a constant threat of violence every time we get into an argument is not healthy. It'll create a constant surge of adrenaline and cortisol which would limit our bodily functions preventing us from eventually mating and bringing up our young. Which is the complete opposite of what Nature wants. If we were to do this we would die out as a species very quickly.