posted July 25, 2015 11:18 PM            

We only met up once again after that first date. It's been about 2 weeks since I've last seen in him person (which seems short, but so long at the same time). He's kinda bad at responding at texts/calls quickly, which bothers me a bit. He's also busy and "on the run" most of the time. We tried to meet up last week, but it ended up being canceled because he had last-minute plans. We continue to text/video chat, but it's bothering me how it seems as though he doesn't make the effort for us to actually see each other in person. I suggested to him that we should hang out this weekend. He said he'll see. His phone is broken so I haven't heard from him (it's been a day so I'm taking it easy).

I'd just like to see him put more effort in us spending time together, especially since we'll be starting college again soon and we'll be apart. I'm also craving physical affection from him.

And with Venus retrograding, I'm nervous as to how things will play out between us because I really like him and I know he likes me, but I just wish more effort was put in...It feels as though I haven't seen him in forever...Perhaps part of the reason I feel this way is because when a guy is interested in me we'll talk very frequently, almost everyday. But with D, it's like once every 2/3 days, which is maybe something I have to understand and get used to...(that every guy I interact with will be different and that there's nothing wrong with D's communication methods, it's just that I'm not used to it..)?

What are D's intentions? Does he want a long-term relationship?

posted July 26, 2015 09:30 AM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I can't offer a reading just some advice from my own experiences. I would pull back a bit if you can. Don't text or call him or make the plans and see what he does. He will begin to wonder where you are. Also when he does text try not to respond immediately, let him wonder a bit what you're doing. He might like the chase. Either that or you can totally throw yourself at him and see what he does lol. Either way has worked and backfired for me lol. But do what you feel is best. You could even try talking to him about it and see what he says. Good luck!

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Thank you! And yea, I've been thinking about pulling back for a while.

posted July 26, 2015 02:21 PM            

I don’t see him as a bad person or a person with bad intensions. Only that right now he perhaps wants to explore the world of relationships and doesn’t want to be attached to people.

My advice to you would be to simply wait. I know, I know – it could be painful if patience isn’t your middle name – but it will play out the best for you if you do so. Otherwise you may end up getting hurt with your hopes too high. Allow time to do its job.

posted July 27, 2015 03:01 AM            

Guys can be busy but generally they make it quite obvious if there's interest. He cancelled a meetup and then when you suggested a new time he said he'll see. He doesn't appear interested IMO :/.

posted July 27, 2015 03:44 AM            

Trust me, I am a guy, and of course there are exceptions. But if he hits you up out of the blue, plays you hard on that date (You had an amazing time.. lol) and sex isn't in the forecast than he is reverting. He knows that you're a bit crazy, and that's why he isn't trying to talk or meet up for dates that aren't sexual. You're on a forum asking advice, he's won you over in a sense. At some point in his mind he'll make you so desperate that he'll invite you over and you'll probably have sex. Guys aren't busy lol, too busy to talk to you? He probably realized that his tactics weren't working and heading toward a long term relationship (seems that's what you want) We call it throwing out a line when you reach out to random people that you used to know. If he was interested in your personality why weren't you into each other back then...

posted July 27, 2015 07:42 PM            

Just details for clarity:

We speak often, it's just that he doesn't reply immediately. He is busy because he's doing a summer program at college (a college in our city...he didn't go away for college, whereas I go to a college out of state). But it's more of a commute thing, him going to his college til the afternoon, then wandering off somewhere in the city, to the park, bookstore, etc. We speak to each other about 3 days a week.

He's also very spiritual and ambitious..maybe he wants to focus on himself for a while...?