posted May 10, 2016 10:33 AM            

We've each been there at one time or another. The decisions we make in moving past it are what separate the fearless and the fearful, one from another.

I can't help feeling that sadness in him. I can't help feeling he's searching - often in the wrong places - for solace instead of solution.

This is a long road. I don't feel like he's anywhere near his crossroads. I think that, unless your constitution is remarkably strong, he'll do more damage to you than the good you may do for him. The potion has a sell-by date and storing it away in a cool, dark place doesn't extend it. We can only be true sources of what we're supposed to be to people who are willing to drink the elixir in one big gulp, not tiny sips at a time.

None of this makes him a bad person. It just makes him weak, lost and fallible, as we all are to varying degrees.

So to answer your question directly: If you continue to make yourself available, will he avail himself of you? Yes. To expound upon why: because you're a source of positive, bright and gentle energy - hope - and that's sometimes what he needs. You are the potion, but he's only taking sips.

posted May 15, 2016 01:26 PM            

I don't miss that cocoon. I suspect you don't either. It's hard for those of us who've shed it to understand why everyone we care about wouldn't want to do the work, no matter how painful it may seem at the outset. Some just aren't up to it.