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Topic: What's wrong with me? Need advices
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Claudine
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posted June 04, 2018 09:58 AM
  
I know, I know, nothing is wrong, but
Could you look at my chart?
My love life is absent. I've had only one serious relationship that have been lasting for 1 year and it was on Neptune transit.
and this relationship was unhealthy.
Is also affected my physical and mental health.
For several months I'm trying to find someone to connect with, I am in need of some romance and warmness of other person. I think I'm ready to give it back too. But nothing works. I'm trying really hard, like never before.
And nothing.
I like someone but they never like me back or they have some issues. If I am liked, I can't reciprocate. and it happens rarely.
I'm going through pshycological theraphy now, I know myself better now, but I don't have answers why it just doesn't work.
I'm trying to be serious and respective to other people and being true to myself, I'm looking for committed relationships, but Idk maybe I'm doing something wrong.
My looks is ok, I'm friendly and really interested in people. I'm shy sometimes, and need some time alone, but not that passive. I am responsible too.
Yeah, I have my flaws, I'm aware of them.Ok, astrology. My 7th house is empty, so relationships don't really matter for me? don't know really. Especially with Jupiter transiting my 5th house.
But 11th house (Aquarius house) is kinda strong I guess. 5th House is strong too?
Ruler of my 7th house is Uranus...But I think maybe it's Saturn instead. Uranus is strong, but in conjunction with Neptune, at the same time it has some harmonious aspects. Saturn has one negative aspect with Mars.
Well, My Sun is in 12th House, so it makes me distant person? I have troubles with opening to other people, I need some distance, but I don't think that this is the main issue why am I so unlucky. Or I'm not sure that I can change myself so drastically in order to be like someone with Sun in for example in some other house. *laughs* What do you think?
The question is am I really unlucky and what I need to change or know in order to change something in my love life? Which types of people could accept me? I can to talk to anyone, but here I mean someone who can bear me *laughs again* I've never met one I think x)  Thanks!! ------------------
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Radium
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posted June 04, 2018 10:33 AM
Chart ruler is Sun, your Sun is in 12th house.
Awwww, there's nothing wrong with you  I love cancers. I am a Pisces and I can imagine you feel like one as well because of that placement! IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted June 04, 2018 11:18 AM
Are u out and about though? Socializing? Mingling? The thing is that the chart can describe our potential. But opportunity is still required. For instance, if you are single. The chances of finding someone greatly increase when you are attending social functions and out in society. Venus/Pluto limits frivolity. This doesn't make you anti social. But you can be unimpressed with social activities. The irony is of-course that even though you can be weary of the social scene when meeting someone, Venus-Pluto people are unmatched in their commitment when they get into a relationship with someone. Things progress relatively quickly and it can feel like a freefall into love. Also consider people outside your immediate race. I know I may be controversial in saying this but sometimes its not that there is "nobody" for us.
But because we tend to limit our fishing area i.e we choose a pond instead of a river etc. IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted June 04, 2018 11:22 AM
you have beautiful planets especially that Moon in Scorpio conjuct Pluto (Scorpio overdose) is to die for, I know it can bring difficulties to the native but it is my favourite Moon sign. I am going to paste a reply of mines from another thread because I've written this stuff so many times..
"People who have problem with relationships have Capricorn DSC/ Saturn in 7th H/ Uranus in 7th H / Venus in Aqua and there are some other problematic combinations too but like 80% of the time it's Saturn in 7th / 7th H in Cap/ Uranus in 7th H.
I've seen 3 posts the last few days of different people asking why they haven't been in a relationship or why it's so difficult for them to find someone and I can't cound how many I've seen through the last 6-7 years..
Like i said 80% of them if not more have one or more of the above placements I mentioned.
Luckily you don't have Cap/Saturn in 7th H.
Uranus in there doesn't deny relationships like Saturn does.
Uranus is attracted to foreigners/weird/intelligent/detached/independent/unavailable. Uranus loves freedom and unconvetional relationships.
You may attract people with Aqua personal planets, or personal planets in aspect to Uranus or planets in 11th H.
Relationships via internet / relationships with a big distance or people who are unavailable offer Uranus the freedom he needs while keeping him mentally stimulated. You have to understand that you are attracted to those people because they show you parts of yourself you haven't understood/accepted."
Many Uranians do not understand their need for freedom before it's late. In your case you have so much water it makes it a bit difficult to feed your water needs and Uranian ones too because they are different.
Now let's go to to that Aqua 8th H of yours woth Saturn in it.
Saturn denies things at least in youth.
8th H in Aqua like your 7th H is hard enough to begin with because Aqua being the most detached sign in 8th H which is emotional as deep as it can get. I have aqua 8th H and Saturn in it too.
Saturn makes someone a late bloomer
Saturn in 8th H is enough by itself to block intimate relationships.
I hope that you won't be like me, your Saturn is in a mutable water sign Pisces which is romantic, it is not as bad as Saturn in Aqua (I have that) which is a fixed sing and the most detached one.
All people I know with Saturn in 8th H have never had sex but they all happen to have 8th H in aqua with Saturn in it. You don't really have any other problematic aspects in your chart other than Saturn opposite Mars which would not be enough by itself to block something. Saturn also squares your venus and moon but those aspects are loose so they wouldn't be enough by themselves to block relationships. They just add a little something to the existing difficulties. Aqua 7th H/Venus, Uranus in 7th/8th H
Uranus in hard asoect to Venus
Saturn in 7th/8th h
7th H Capricorn are enough by themeselves to block/delay intimate relationships. You have to understand how these placements work. EDIT: I just saw Aries23 comment. I didn't see that beautiful Pluto opposite Venus.. YOU'RE DEEEEEEEP IP: Logged |
Claudine
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posted June 04, 2018 12:01 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Radium:
Chart ruler is Sun, your Sun is in 12th house.
Awwww, there's nothing wrong with you I love cancers. I am a Pisces and I can imagine you feel like one as well because of that placement!
thank you <3 quote:
Are u out and about though? Socializing? Mingling?
The thing is that the chart can describe our potential. But opportunity is still required.
Yeah, I'm trying! I'm not super social active, but I've met many new people this year. I have some social projects, so I interact with people. I mean, I understand, that I should do something. maybe I'm not doing enough... quote:
Also consider people outside your immediate race. I know I may be controversial in saying this but sometimes its not that there is "nobody" for us.
But because we tend to limit our fishing area i.e we choose a pond instead of a river etc.
I thought about it too. Still thinking what can I do about this.
Thanks!Plut0nian2,
haha, thank you <3 it gives me some hope I'm sure, people with the same dsc and planets on 7th cusp cried a lot about what's wrong with them  seen it too and you're absolutely right about Aqua DSC and people that I meet. and the type of relationship that I might have. The thing about Saturn in 8th House is right too, but I guess, that it is in Pisces (0 degrees!) helped me a little. Okay, I have to think about everything you wrote. Thank you very much for your input and your sweet comments. I really needed to see that there are people who know the problem and can understand me. I wish you all the best too.
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SimplyLuna
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posted June 04, 2018 08:50 PM
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llewsacm
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posted June 04, 2018 10:37 PM
Changing yourself? Is that even possible???lol?You don't need to...you are just fine the way you are. You really need someone who is intense and deep as you are..and there are plenty of people like that. I think the key here is to embrace your intensity to really just be secure within yourself and then you will draw relationships based on that. If you start "changing" it will be artificial and people won't get you... cuz it's not you! Any insecurities about yourself must be accepted and understood. Accepted and understood..ok? Know that and work on it. In no time, you will attract those who "get you". You have a fascinating chart and should be proud of who you are. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted June 05, 2018 02:29 PM
Saturn rule your seventh house and aspects (wide orbs) moon, venus, and sun. That makes you insecure about relationship. Like you think you need to “do something” to gain someone affection. The fact is you DON’T need to. Whoever is going to fall for you is going to get the package in evolution. The lesson with Saturn is about learning boundaries, who you are, what you want and what not. Sometime we learn what we want by having those things denied to us. But also Saturn is about independence, reliance on yourself. That may be difficult for someone with sun in cancer and venus aspecting Neptune. There a romantic in you, but Uranus (co-ruler of 7th) like the excitement and the unavailable (not necessarily you want someone unavailable) but you need newness, excitability and lot of space in relationship. If you are not aware of that side of you (oppositions tend to project) with venus in Taurus and moon in scorpio and sun in cancer, you may be more leaned toward security and emotional dependency, but Uranus does not like that… you see the conflict? It is inside you. You need to integrate inside yourself all these characters.
I also see something here with the moon-venus opposition. Moon in scorpio itself suggest certain untold rivalry with your mon. the opposition support that theme. It may be that you denied yourself of all your femininity just not compete with your mother. You may attract men who you find emotionally supportive but not attractive or the opposite, attractive but not supportive. The conflict is internal. There is a conflict between what you find beautiful and what you find nurturing or you may think that if you behave too sexy you wont get the emotional support you wish. Or… that they search for your quality of heart, but not your attractiveness. The lesson here is to find your likes (venus) and go for it without shame while also making conscious your strong emotional needs. Cancer sun, moon scorpio conjunct pluto oppose venus.. do you want more intensity? That part of you clash with your uranian side in relationships, but Uranus is also strong as it rules your 7th house. Here you need to start acknoleging one by one the energies that you have and the needs you have. You need to honor them and start liking ALL of them. At some point you will become more friendliers and compassionate toward yourself. At that point the right person will come along. In the meantime, just enjoy being by yourself and use time to get to know you better, so you know what you want. At the end of the day it is about what you want…
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Randall
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posted June 05, 2018 02:44 PM
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Claudine
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posted June 06, 2018 03:41 PM
llewsacm,
yeah, I think we can change our views or see something from the different side sometimes. But of course we cannot change who we truly are.
Thank you for your input.
With your replies, gyns and guys, I can see now what causes contradictions inside me. nordicsoul, (I like your nickname)
Did you really see that from my chart? wow I really do try hard to maintain someone's love or I try to pay back somehow for person's affection in a romantic relationship.
We've had some rivarly theme with my mom. It is true. It was hidden, but I felt it.
and it is sad tbh. And still it is an unresolved matter. I mean, I am more conscious now than when I was a child and I see how it works, but I can't resolve it somehow.
"There is a conflict between what you find beautiful and what you find nurturing or you may think that if you behave too sexy you wont get the emotional support you wish."
Haha, that was in a bull's eye. I try to focus more on my Moon side now, because I don't feel it at all :\ I don't pay enough attention to it. in a relationship, I mean.
I've had an "intense" relationship, didn't like it after all (maybe it was some wrong "intensity"). I knew I need some space, but couldn't manage to get it. Thank you for your knowledge and advices
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Claudine
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posted June 06, 2018 03:43 PM
Randall,
I am sorry, I've remembered about this one special forum after I've already posted to Astrology 2.0.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 08, 2018 11:20 PM
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Springtimeflower
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posted June 08, 2018 11:40 PM
Hi Claudine,One thing I noticed was that your 7th house ruler, Uranus, was in Capricorn. Capricorn is more traditional, whereas Uranus isn't as predictable. Sounds like an oxymoron. Looks like you'll meet them at a place you are working, since your 7th house ruler is in your 6th. I have the same thing. The moon rules my 7th house, but is in my 6th. You have Neptune right next to your 7th house ruler, Uranus, and depending on how that operates in your chart--you may be overly idealistic about who would be a good partner for you or unrealistic. The Capricorn influence on Uranus could also bring delays in you meeting the right one for you.
Having your natal Saturn in your 8th house can also make you feel like you have to support yourself (maybe in a past life you were left to your own devices) and now you don't trust that someone else can contribute in a partnership with you.
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posted June 08, 2018 11:43 PM
Just saw this--you also have venus square Saturn in your chart, which is also indicative of have a delay in meeting the one for you. It will also be a karmic relationship. Sometimes this aspect can make you think that relationships are more work than they are worth. When you have your Saturn return in the coming years, this aspect will also be activated and then it's likely that you'll have a serious relationship coming to you.IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted June 10, 2018 04:34 AM
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Originally posted by Claudine:
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[b]nordicsoul, (I like your nickname)
Did you really see that from my chart? wow I really do try hard to maintain someone's love or I try to pay back somehow for person's affection in a romantic relationship.
We've had some rivarly theme with my mom. It is true. It was hidden, but I felt it.
and it is sad tbh. And still it is an unresolved matter. I mean, I am more conscious now than when I was a child and I see how it works, but I can't resolve it somehow.
"There is a conflict between what you find beautiful and what you find nurturing or you may think that if you behave too sexy you wont get the emotional support you wish."
Haha, that was in a bull's eye. I try to focus more on my Moon side now, because I don't feel it at all :\ I don't pay enough attention to it. in a relationship, I mean.
I've had an "intense" relationship, didn't like it after all (maybe it was some wrong "intensity"). I knew I need some space, but couldn't manage to get it. Thank you for your knowledge and advices
It really helps [/B]
Thanks for the Feedback Claudine. i know i is challenging to integrate the opposition moon-venus. it is life lesson, but awareness is key in any work. one way to go through it is dedicating time and focusing on learning about both planets by sign and house. so you can start sensing what you really like in relationsip (venus), what find you attractive (venus). I suspect a sun that square or aspect both planet (sun bring awareness) can help to activate both planets simultaneusly. friends with sun in leo or aquarius can be helpful in bringing that opposition to your awareness. the more you learn about how these two planets behave in your chart, you can bring more fulfilling realtionships. some people just have two lovers, one for the moon and one for venus..lol.. that is not my recommendation though IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted June 10, 2018 04:39 AM
if I were you, i would try to focus for a while on learning more about my chart. your venus-moon, and the uranian part would be a good way to start. also the saturn part.the entire chart with rulers, ruler aspect. everything... so you get to know you better and what you like, what you want, and what you dont. let yourself fall in love with you... that would release the attention in someone external to bring you happiness. it will come, but probably, the less you care about finding someone, the more likely you find a good match. IP: Logged |
Claudine
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posted June 11, 2018 06:04 PM
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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
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You have Neptune right next to your 7th house ruler, Uranus, and depending on how that operates in your chart--you may be overly idealistic about who would be a good partner for you or unrealistic. The Capricorn influence on Uranus could also bring delays in you meeting the right one for you.
Having your natal Saturn in your 8th house can also make you feel like you have to support yourself (maybe in a past life you were left to your own devices) and now you don't trust that someone else can contribute in a partnership with you.
Spring
Hi, Spring!
It seems like true to what I feel and see.
Thank you for your input. quote:
Sometimes this aspect can make you think that relationships are more work than they are worth. When you have your Saturn return in the coming years, this aspect will also be activated and then it's likely that you'll have a serious relationship coming to you.
Sometimes I really think that the risks just don't worth it.
But eventually I fall in love and can't help it, but I just do something to be with this person.nordicsoul,
Yeah, I am learning, so that's why I am here. Now I understand a little bit more, thanks to you guys and gyns.
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Randall
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Claudine
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posted August 23, 2018 09:42 AM
Hello again
Been thinking, after many fails in personal life, it seems like I can try anything, but get nothing? (at least, till some rare transits occur)
Rulers of my dsc are Saturn and Uranus, it means that I have less opportunities and relationships are broken easily.
My one and only relationship was during Neptune transit, we split up when this transit ended.
And it gives me these thoughts, that I can't just simply start or find something with only my desire.
Do you think it's true?
So I have to sit still or something...
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