posted February 16, 2020 07:26 PM            

I think you have a deep subconscious emotional issue because your char shows a very attractive person. your venus/mars midpoint is square the node, so you have plenty of guys interested in yo. also your venus/mercury midpoint is conjunct to juno which also tends tto bring guys who enjoy being with you and might e interested in a serious relationship...... so something doesn't add up for your relationship problems.

what i noticed is that the Saturn/Pluto midpoint is conjunct to the node and square to your venus/mars MP. that does indicate problems with relationships but it because of destructive emotional environment as child especially with the father.

your venus/mars is very attractive but when attention is shown to you, negative emotions arise. it is as if you are unconsciously afraid of or do not what the attention. this psychological dynamic makes me think of your father as a very cruel person.

posted February 17, 2020 12:00 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
hi SunAscendant

I think you have a deep subconscious emotional issue because your char shows a very attractive person. your venus/mars midpoint is square the node, so you have plenty of guys interested in yo. also your venus/mercury midpoint is conjunct to juno which also tends tto bring guys who enjoy being with you and might e interested in a serious relationship...... so something doesn't add up for your relationship problems.

what i noticed is that the Saturn/Pluto midpoint is conjunct to the node and square to your venus/mars MP. that does indicate problems with relationships but it because of destructive emotional environment as child especially with the father.

your venus/mars is very attractive but when attention is shown to you, negative emotions arise. it is as if you are unconsciously afraid of or do not what the attention. this psychological dynamic makes me think of your father as a very cruel person.

todd

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My dad has definitely been a source for many of my issues. He was not physically abusive, but he was and is verbally abusive. I think that I have in turn gone for men who were also not physically abusive, but tended towards verbal abuse at times, or were just very cold. With Capricorn on my 7th house I have noticed that almost all my relationships have been with men who had Capricorn ascendants AND had their Sun in Capricorn as well. That translates to a man who is cold. My dad is Virgo dominant and has no planets in Capricorn, but he still acts very domineering as Capricorn men do. I don't want men who are tough and unemotional like Capricorns are, but since my 7th house is in Cap, I tend to unconsciously just gravitate towards them.

posted February 17, 2020 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
... I find that many men think I'm too boring after a short time. I am always there for them emotionally and am extremely kind, but yet they still don't stay. I have my own hobbies, but they are solitary (sewing, embroidery, astrology and tarot), but I am always willing to learn about their hobbies (I did indoor rock climbing with my last ex for example). I always find myself saying that the exes who have broken up with me were stupid and didn't know a good woman when they saw one!

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The pattern is yours and you can change it by a simple conversation with the universe in a place of peaceful meditative focus. You can insist on only crossing paths romantically with men who can appreciate you as you are.

I am familiar with being overlooked or underappreciated. Please, don't wait as long as I did to change the pattern. I was nearly 39. It's never too late and none of this depends upon astrology.

That conversation with the universe can happen anytime, the sooner the better. Go into it with love in your heart for yourself and for that unknown person who can appreciate you as you are. See it happening (without names or faces involved) and say out loud what you want. Keep doing it for a full month if you must. At some point you'll see a change, especially if you communicate that you want to be shown so clearly that there is no mistake and no doubt where you must go and what you must change to have a partner who appreciates you as you are. This will take time to unfold.

posted February 17, 2020 04:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
The pattern is yours and you can change it by a simple conversation with the universe in a place of peaceful meditative focus. You can insist on only crossing paths romantically with men who can appreciate you as you are.

I am familiar with being overlooked or underappreciated. Please, don't wait as long as I did to change the pattern. I was nearly 39. It's never too late and none of this depends upon astrology.

That conversation with the universe can happen anytime, the sooner the better. Go into it with love in your heart for yourself and for that unknown person who can appreciate you as you are. See it happening (without names or faces involved) and say out loud what you want. Keep doing it for a full month if you must. At some point you'll see a change, especially if you communicate that you want to be shown so clearly that there is no mistake and no doubt where you must go and what you must change to have a partner who appreciates you as you are. This will take time to unfold.

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posted February 18, 2020 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I will try. I have tried before to speak my ideal relationship to the universe, but perhaps I didn’t do it right. I certainly don’t want much, just a kind and caring man who loves me and my solitary hobbies.

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Don't try - DO! ... Make happen what you want to happen.

"I will try" = I expect to fail.

posted February 18, 2020 05:33 AM            

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I always find myself saying that the exes who have broken up with me were stupid and didn't know a good woman when they saw one!

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This translates as "my father STILL does not know what a good woman I am" ... which the Universe interprets as "I NEED to show men-made-in-the-image-of-my-father what a good woman I am".

And, the Universe proceeds to deliver what is needed (subconsciously desired) rather than what is wanted (consciously desired).

posted February 18, 2020 05:29 PM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
My dad has definitely been a source for many of my issues. He was not physically abusive, but he was and is verbally abusive. I think that I have in turn gone for men who were also not physically abusive, but tended towards verbal abuse at times, or were just very cold. With Capricorn on my 7th house I have noticed that almost all my relationships have been with men who had Capricorn ascendants AND had their Sun in Capricorn as well. That translates to a man who is cold. My dad is Virgo dominant and has no planets in Capricorn, but he still acts very domineering as Capricorn men do. I don't want men who are tough and unemotional like Capricorns are, but since my 7th house is in Cap, I tend to unconsciously just gravitate towards them.

I find that many men think I'm too boring after a short time. I am always there for them emotionally and am extremely kind, but yet they still don't stay. I have my own hobbies, but they are solitary (sewing, embroidery, astrology and tarot), but I am always willing to learn about their hobbies (I did indoor rock climbing with my last ex for example). I always find myself saying that the exes who have broken up with me were stupid and didn't know a good woman when they saw one!

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just a note.. the 7th rule love affairs but marriage is ruled by the 9th house/legal documents...so you might stop going out with caps and look for Pisces/ or whatever is on the cusp of your 9th house, to try to form a serious relationship with.

todd

posted February 18, 2020 05:58 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
just a note.. the 7th rule love affairs but marriage is ruled by the 9th house/legal documents...so you might stop going out with caps and look for Pisces/ or whatever is on the cusp of your 9th house, to try to form a serious relationship with.

todd

todd

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I never seem to meet Pisces sun men. As with Cap sun men, I don’t actively seek out men who are Caps, I just seem to come across them and happen to like them enough to want to date them. I would prefer a more emotional Pisces man though.

posted February 18, 2020 05:58 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
just a note.. the 7th rule love affairs but marriage is ruled by the 9th house/legal documents...so you might stop going out with caps and look for Pisces/ or whatever is on the cusp of your 9th house, to try to form a serious relationship with.

todd

todd

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I never seem to meet Pisces sun men. As with Cap sun men, I don’t actively seek out men who are Caps, I just seem to come across them and happen to like them enough to want to date them. I would prefer a more emotional Pisces man though. My Mars in Pisces would enjoy it as well.

posted February 19, 2020 09:49 AM            

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look for Pisces/ or whatever is on the cusp of your 9th house

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Aquarius is duplicated on the cusps of your 2nd/8thand 3rd/9th house axes. ... So, a (childhood conditioned) problem in your 2nd and 8th houses is adversely affecting your 3rd and 9th house activities - and (until resolved) it will prevent you from using the positive qualities of your (intercepted) signs of assertive-Aries + cooperative-Libra, and the planets within them (Venus + Mercury).

In reality though ... since you are pointedly avoiding replying to my iron-fist-in-an-iron-glove comments ... my guess is that you are not yet psychologically "ready" to change your Saturn conditioned behaviour.

posted February 19, 2020 10:48 AM            

[ * Note how the lead singer (Eric Burden) delivers one message, whilst the organ player (Alan Price) delivers another. ... Yet, the band were completely nonplussed when Alan began a solo career soon after this record was released - because of "artistic differences" with Eric. ... Much like the subconscious mind needing something that the conscious mind is not aware of.]

posted March 13, 2020 02:35 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
you have a romance coming up in late march...the 20th thru the 24th are most likely days

todd

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posted March 14, 2020 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
So March 20-24 is fast approaching and I have yet to meet anyone. Every social area is shutting down because of the coronavirus, so that makes meeting new people even harder! Are you sure March 20-24 is a favorable time for me? What transits show this?

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posted March 14, 2020 07:22 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
your venus/mars midpoint is at 4aries26. the sun will conjunct that point on 3/24.
but actually the most opportune day would be on april 4th when the transiting node will square the mar/venus midpoint

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posted March 14, 2020 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
your venus/mars midpoint is at 4aries26. the sun will conjunct that point on 3/24.
but actually the most opportune day would be on april 4th when the transiting node will square the mar/venus midpoint

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posted May 17, 2020 09:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Many of us felt similar at your age, and I'm speaking as a guy. But I'll say it again ...

[b]There is a mate for everyone who wants one. The most powerful force in the universe is the desire to love and be loved.

But that is very different from the timing, which in your chart is by nature at least a bit unpredictable because of Uranus's position opposite/contra-parallel your Asc. Crucial meetings happen when you're not looking or expecting it. The person will likely not match your expectations and stir a change of outlook.

I don't think any of us can tell you for certain exactly when. Just trust the process that is at work naturally because of your intention, because it is that -- a process of your growth. See other decisions as connected to it. See it as joined with other decisions you can make to move your life forward.

Now is the time to grow as an individual -- to be ready for the kind of relationship you actually want. Just getting someone seems like the big deal. Trust me, it isn't. That's the easy part. The relationship is the real challenge.

As to prog Moon and Jupiter's transit, prog Moon won't enter your 7th house until March (using topocentric position, and your correct Asc is closer to 15°). Note that - neither of them have yet entered your 7th house. I've read many of your posts over the last few years and watched your chart. In some ways I know it better than you do. Give it more time.

You're literally about to enter perhaps the biggest window of opportunity of your lifetime for changing the dynamic of your relationships. But that window of opportunity hasn't opened up yet. Don't collapse emotionally now just when you need that emotional drive and optimism to reach out and give permission for developments to take place.

If you focus on negatives like 'Jupiter is in detriment in Capricorn' then you might as well start collecting stray cats and preparing to be a spinster. You'd be better off not even tracking astrology.

I understand the worry, but extreme worry is fear. Deal with the fear -- now! Now is the time to deal with that much fear inside you. Cleanse it away. It starts by enacting the intention to be free of it and working from that intention on a consciousness level. Make that commitment to yourself. That amount of fear is dangerous in intimate relationships. It'll cause you to be clingy and controlling. Now is the time to start cleansing the fear and healing to open up the space for a love of mutual acceptance and joy.

Act as if it is going to happen. That is what will keep your spirits up and leaning into the next opportunity.

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posted May 17, 2020 09:19 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
you have a romance coming up in late march...the 20th thru the 24th are most likely days

todd

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posted May 18, 2020 03:15 PM            

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