posted February 01, 2020 02:30 PM            

I thought transit Jupiter entering my 7th house would bring a relationship, but so far I’ve got nothing. Jupiter is in detriment in Capricorn, so maybe that’s why relationships may not happen while Jupiter is transiting in Capricorn . My progressed moon also just entered my 7th house in early December and I just had my progressed moon return in December as well. The progressed moon into your natal 7th house is said to almost always bring a romance into your life, but no such luck for me . Transit Jupiter and my progressed moon in my natal 7th will be here for about a year give or take a few months, but I’m extremely worried that I’m still not going to find anyone. So many of the planets are transiting in my 7th house and the Christmas 2019 solar eclipse even conjuncted my natal Capricorn north node which is not in my 7th, but is in the sign of my 7th.

Birth chart: http://i.imgur.com/BYiqAkS.png

2020-2021 solar return chart: http://i.imgur.com/251B4Pe.png

posted February 01, 2020 03:47 PM            

There is a mate for everyone who wants one. The most powerful force in the universe is the desire to love and be loved.

But that is very different from the timing, which in your chart is by nature at least a bit unpredictable because of Uranus's position opposite/contra-parallel your Asc. Crucial meetings happen when you're not looking or expecting it. The person will likely not match your expectations and stir a change of outlook.

I don't think any of us can tell you for certain exactly when. Just trust the process that is at work naturally because of your intention, because it is that -- a process of your growth. See other decisions as connected to it. See it as joined with other decisions you can make to move your life forward.

Now is the time to grow as an individual -- to be ready for the kind of relationship you actually want. Just getting someone seems like the big deal. Trust me, it isn't. That's the easy part. The relationship is the real challenge.

As to prog Moon and Jupiter's transit, prog Moon won't enter your 7th house until March (using topocentric position, and your correct Asc is closer to 15°). Note that - neither of them have yet entered your 7th house. I've read many of your posts over the last few years and watched your chart. In some ways I know it better than you do. Give it more time.

You're literally about to enter perhaps the biggest window of opportunity of your lifetime for changing the dynamic of your relationships. But that window of opportunity hasn't opened up yet. Don't collapse emotionally now just when you need that emotional drive and optimism to reach out and give permission for developments to take place.

If you focus on negatives like 'Jupiter is in detriment in Capricorn' then you might as well start collecting stray cats and preparing to be a spinster. You'd be better off not even tracking astrology.

I understand the worry, but extreme worry is fear. Deal with the fear -- now! Now is the time to deal with that much fear inside you. Cleanse it away. It starts by enacting the intention to be free of it and working from that intention on a consciousness level. Make that commitment to yourself. That amount of fear is dangerous in intimate relationships. It'll cause you to be clingy and controlling. Now is the time to start cleansing the fear and healing to open up the space for a love of mutual acceptance and joy.

Act as if it is going to happen. That is what will keep your spirits up and leaning into the next opportunity.

posted February 01, 2020 03:57 PM            

Bach Flower Essences

posted February 01, 2020 04:02 PM            

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Many of us felt similar at your age, and I'm speaking as a guy. But I'll say it again ...

[b]There is a mate for everyone who wants one. The most powerful force in the universe is the desire to love and be loved.

But that is very different from the timing, which in your chart is by nature at least a bit unpredictable because of Uranus's position opposite/contra-parallel your Asc. Crucial meetings happen when you're not looking or expecting it. The person will likely not match your expectations and stir a change of outlook.

I don't think any of us can tell you for certain exactly when. Just trust the process that is at work naturally because of your intention, because it is that -- a process of your growth. See other decisions as connected to it. See it as joined with other decisions you can make to move your life forward.

Now is the time to grow as an individual -- to be ready for the kind of relationship you actually want. Just getting someone seems like the big deal. Trust me, it isn't. That's the easy part. The relationship is the real challenge.

As to prog Moon and Jupiter's transit, prog Moon won't enter your 7th house until March (using topocentric position, and your correct Asc is closer to 15°). Note that - neither of them have yet entered your 7th house. I've read many of your posts over the last few years and watched your chart. In some ways I know it better than you do. Give it more time.

You're literally about to enter perhaps the biggest window of opportunity of your lifetime for changing the dynamic of your relationships. But that window of opportunity hasn't opened up yet. Don't collapse emotionally now just when you need that emotional drive and optimism to reach out and give permission for developments to take place.

If you focus on negatives like 'Jupiter is in detriment in Capricorn' then you might as well start collecting stray cats and preparing to be a spinster. You'd be better off not even tracking astrology.

I understand the worry, but extreme worry is fear. Deal with the fear -- now! Now is the time to deal with that much fear inside you. Cleanse it away. It starts by enacting the intention to be free of it and working from that intention on a consciousness level. Make that commitment to yourself. That amount of fear is dangerous in intimate relationships. It'll cause you to be clingy and controlling. Now is the time to start cleansing the fear and healing to open up the space for a love of mutual acceptance and joy.

Act as if it is going to happen. That is what will keep your spirits up and leaning into the next opportunity.

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posted February 01, 2020 04:03 PM            

PS - I have extra Larimar. Just let me know if you want a couple or three and I'll mail them to you. You can email me through my website linked above and below.

posted February 01, 2020 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Consider getting regaining your emotional balance with the help of something like a flower essence. Mimulus addresses fear of known things, things you can name. Consider combining it with another flower essence that also addresses where you are psychologically right now. Maybe Crab Apple as it is a cleanser, but read through them and see what fits the most.

Bach Flower Essences

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posted February 01, 2020 04:07 PM            

But I'd much rather know that you are feeling better and more confident -- healing. I'd give up any reading and any fee to know someone is healing in a more direct way.

You are part of our Lindaland family and we care about you. I know I'm speaking for more than just myself here. We want you to be happy and know the love of a man who appreciates you as you are. That is worth more than anything.

posted February 01, 2020 04:32 PM            

Rumi, the sufi master, has said once -

You have to keep breaking your heart...until it opens

very illuminating words

posted February 01, 2020 04:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
I do readings all the time and we can do that by phone. No need to take up time from your friend while you're in Portland.

But I'd much rather know that you are feeling better and more confident -- healing. I'd give up any reading and any fee to know someone is healing in a more direct way.

You are part of our Lindaland family and we care about you. I know I'm speaking for more than just myself here. We want you to be happy and know the love of a man who appreciates you as you are. That is worth more than anything.

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posted February 01, 2020 08:15 PM            

I missed your age on the first paragraph of your post, but in reading the rest you made me think you were closer to my age. I also have Uranus nataly in my 7th house and I can relate to the changing relationships and lack of stability there. I'll be 59 this year and I've struggled with finding or being with the right one over all these years. Much wiser now, though. Sun, I believe that when you go through your Saturn return in the coming years, the relationship you do find before that period will bring you the stability you seek.

I don't think some of the people on here are ignoring you or others, they are just in a busy period of their life. A number of them, including me are going through their Saturn return along with Pluto near by, which has presented some interesting challenges for me.

I focus on the things I enjoy when the thoughts of some of the past relationships I have had come to mind and often I find that I'm better off without most of them. You have to put yourself first and take care of you. Don't let other people drag you down.

posted February 02, 2020 02:18 AM            

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I’ve been on here for six years now and I never felt as though I really was accepted since I’m not a professional astrologer, but I am glad at least one person is glad that I am here and have been contributing the knowledge I can over the last six years. I really want things to get better for me as well and will try and update if it does.

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[ * "The (magic-cap) person is naturally very sensitive, conciliatory and helpful and is incapable of harming anyone. She likes to let her imagination wander in conversation and in nature, is outwardly approachable and rather strict with herself. She rarely likes to talk about herself and withdraws in amazement if she provokes a reaction or leaves a trace behind her." (From Aspect Pattern Astrology, by the Hubers.)]

The Magic Cap is a quadrilateral ... so it's purpose can be found by drawing a line from the centre of the circle, through (and at a right-angle to) the two parallel lines of the figure. In this case, that takes us to Pisces 4 ... the Sabian Symbol for which Lynda Hill gives the following interpretation :-

"HEAVY CAR TRAFFIC LINKING TWO SEASIDE RESORTS

This shows moving about, getting from destination to destination in a free flowing manner. Driving or flying or in a bus; there’s lots of activity going on. There's also a need for space sharing, patience and give-and-take as people have their own needs. This can show communications and linkages between separate worlds leading to increased pleasure, OR, frustration, confusion or psychic indigestion and the need for a holiday. There's a lot going on and confusion can set in if one doesn't follow the rules to ensure a smooth flow of operations. Being 'squeezed-in' can bring a sense of panic but it can also bring pleasurable interchange between people and a chance to tune out. Communications. Linking between separate worlds. Pleasure or psychic indigestion? Going with the flow. Cars, traveling. Traffic control. Nervous and digestive systems.

The Caution: Distrust of connecting elements. Creating barriers. Constant traffic. No real human interchange. Road rage. Traffic works. No time for leisure. Accidents. No escape."
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posted February 03, 2020 12:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Graham:
[QUOTE][b]I’ve been on here for six years now and I never felt as though I really was accepted since I’m not a professional astrologer, but I am glad at least one person is glad that I am here and have been contributing the knowledge I can over the last six years. I really want things to get better for me as well and will try and update if it does.

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[ * "The (magic-cap) person is naturally very sensitive, conciliatory and helpful and is incapable of harming anyone. She likes to let her imagination wander in conversation and in nature, is outwardly approachable and rather strict with herself. She rarely likes to talk about herself and withdraws in amazement if she provokes a reaction or leaves a trace behind her." (From Aspect Pattern Astrology, by the Hubers.)]

The Magic Cap is a quadrilateral ... so it's purpose can be found by drawing a line from the centre of the circle, through (and at a right-angle to) the two parallel lines of the figure. In this case, that takes us to Pisces 4 ... the Sabian Symbol for which Lynda Hill gives the following interpretation :-

"HEAVY CAR TRAFFIC LINKING TWO SEASIDE RESORTS

This shows moving about, getting from destination to destination in a free flowing manner. Driving or flying or in a bus; there’s lots of activity going on. There's also a need for space sharing, patience and give-and-take as people have their own needs. This can show communications and linkages between separate worlds leading to increased pleasure, OR, frustration, confusion or psychic indigestion and the need for a holiday. There's a lot going on and confusion can set in if one doesn't follow the rules to ensure a smooth flow of operations. Being 'squeezed-in' can bring a sense of panic but it can also bring pleasurable interchange between people and a chance to tune out. Communications. Linking between separate worlds. Pleasure or psychic indigestion? Going with the flow. Cars, traveling. Traffic control. Nervous and digestive systems.

The Caution: Distrust of connecting elements. Creating barriers. Constant traffic. No real human interchange. Road rage. Traffic works. No time for leisure. Accidents. No escape."
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So ... I guess what I am asking you is ... "has your loneliness now brought you to the point where you are ready to use astrology as a mechanism for actively improving your life?" ... Or are you still expecting transits like "Jupiter entering your 7th house" to bring a relationship, even if you have done nothing to change your life by changing yourself?[/B][/QUOTE]

posted February 03, 2020 01:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Sun,

I missed your age on the first paragraph of your post, but in reading the rest you made me think you were closer to my age. I also have Uranus nataly in my 7th house and I can relate to the changing relationships and lack of stability there. I'll be 59 this year and I've struggled with finding or being with the right one over all these years. Much wiser now, though. Sun, I believe that when you go through your Saturn return in the coming years, the relationship you do find before that period will bring you the stability you seek.

I don't think some of the people on here are ignoring you or others, they are just in a busy period of their life. A number of them, including me are going through their Saturn return along with Pluto near by, which has presented some interesting challenges for me.

I focus on the things I enjoy when the thoughts of some of the past relationships I have had come to mind and often I find that I'm better off without most of them. You have to put yourself first and take care of you. Don't let other people drag you down.

Best wishes,
Spring

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posted February 03, 2020 03:42 AM            

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Oh I definitely wasn’t suggesting that I felt angry. I guess I mean that I am not as known on here as others despite being here for a long time. It is hard for me to ignore intrusive past thoughts. That’s the hard part

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posted February 03, 2020 03:53 AM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
This is not at all the first time I’ve posted my chart.

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The Caution: No real human interchange.

posted February 03, 2020 12:23 PM            

My advice is to be optimistic and patient. This eclipse cycle through your 1st/7th house axis (Cancer/Capricorn) IMHO usually indicate that you are being prepped for better relationships. I would really take this time if I were you to do the deep work on yourself to prepare yourself for a relationship.

You are not pathetic or weak, I have been just where you are and it's one of the most challenging places to be in. It will make you stronger in the long run.

I am also 28 and when I recently went through the Leo/Aquarius eclipse cycle (my 1st/7th) I felt as though I was stretched out of some really terrible dating habits. I, like you, wanted love more than anything and ultimately had to get super real with myself on why I was attracting unavailable or toxic partners over and over. It's not fun and I know everyones situation is different but it helped me to take responsibility in the role I was playing (agreeing to these dynamics, hoping they'd turn out better then my best judgement knew). All I can say is don't let your need for a relationship over power your own self-respect. When I figured this out, my current partner whom I met during that eclipse cycle appeared and we've been together now for two years.

Also, we met a few months after a Solar Eclipse near my 7th house, they can sometimes take a couple months to evolve. In those two months I was really working on my self-esteem.

Lastly, you have our generational aspect the Uranus/Neptune conjunction in your 7th. Your relationships might not look exactly like others and I do believe there are some hard lessons here around boundaries, illusions and seeing others clearly. Don't sacrifice yourself too much for others and keep striving to use the positive of these planets as inspiration for your partnerships. You'll find someone eventually though that helps balance all that out, just know when you do it might not be super conventional seeming to others.

posted February 03, 2020 12:47 PM            

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has your loneliness now brought you to the point where you are ready to use astrology as a mechanism for actively improving your life?

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posted February 03, 2020 08:07 PM            

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I’m turning 28 in April and have had so many failed relationships that I’ve begun to believe I’ll never find true love. Over the past year my depression has gotten worse because of my sh*tty love life circumstances. I feel completely empty and alone and have told my therapist I do not want to live if I don’t have a man. I know that sounds so gross for you feminists who don’t think women need a man, but it’s how I feel. Please don’t try to say anything to change my mind and please do not go off and tell me how pathetic and weak I am to need a man. I’ve been yelled at so much by my mom who thinks it’s just an absolute atrocity that I’m depressed over being single when she was able to be fine being alone and independent when she was my age. I know I’m only in my late 20’s and have time to find a husband, but I just cannot shake the feeling that I’m doomed to be alone forever, and that shakes me to my very core. I can’t think of anything else worse than being alone forever, other than having a debilitating or terminal illness, or being dead. I’m not being dramatic.

I thought transit Jupiter entering my 7th house would bring a relationship, but so far I’ve got nothing. Jupiter is in detriment in Capricorn, so maybe that’s why relationships may not happen while Jupiter is transiting in Capricorn . My progressed moon also just entered my 7th house in early December and I just had my progressed moon return in December as well. The progressed moon into your natal 7th house is said to almost always bring a romance into your life, but no such luck for me . Transit Jupiter and my progressed moon in my natal 7th will be here for about a year give or take a few months, but I’m extremely worried that I’m still not going to find anyone. So many of the planets are transiting in my 7th house and the Christmas 2019 solar eclipse even conjuncted my natal Capricorn north node which is not in my 7th, but is in the sign of my 7th.

[b]Birth chart: http://i.imgur.com/BYiqAkS.png

2020-2021 solar return chart: http://i.imgur.com/251B4Pe.png

Current progressed chart as of February 1st, 2020: http://i.imgur.com/z0HQK72.png [/B]

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you have a romance coming up in late march...the 20th thru the 24th are most likely days

todd

posted February 04, 2020 10:01 PM            

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Oh I definitely wasn’t suggesting that I felt angry. I guess I mean that I am not as known on here as others despite being here for a long time. It is hard for me to ignore intrusive past thoughts. That’s the hard part

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posted February 05, 2020 12:58 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
you have a romance coming up in late march...the 20th thru the 24th are most likely days

todd

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posted February 05, 2020 04:42 AM            

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I pray this happens!!!

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Stop praying … and start making happen what you want to happen in your life.

When astrology is allowed to become a crutch that is used by the chart owner to dream rather than to do/engage-in-life, harm is done. [And the kind of depression that you are currently experiencing occurs when harm is being done by not making a behavioural change that now NEEDS to happen.]

posted February 05, 2020 04:19 PM            

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Originally posted by wayfinder:
You also have a New Moon at 4 degrees, one degree away from your Sun/Moon midpoint at 5 degrees in the sign of Pisces, happening on February 23rd....there is a very likely chance this spring could bring something for you.

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posted February 05, 2020 04:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Graham:
Stop praying … and start making happen what you want to happen in your life.

When astrology is allowed to become a crutch that is used by the chart owner to dream rather than to do/engage-in-life, harm is done. [And the kind of depression that you are currently experiencing occurs when harm is being done by [b]not making a behavioural change that now NEEDS to happen.]

However … having fulfilled my ethical obligation to point out that "astrology may be doing you harm", I accept that this is a cup that should now pass from my lips. [/B]

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Well I am putting myself out there and dating. I have always been proactive about my dating life. I am depressed because I have not had a relationship that lasts.

posted February 05, 2020 05:11 PM            

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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
Well I am putting myself out there and dating. I have always been proactive about my dating life. I am depressed because I have not had a relationship that lasts.

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So ... what do you need to change (about yourself/habitual behaviour) that will make a lasting relationship more likely in the future?

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I’m turning 28 in April and have had so many failed relationships that I’ve begun to believe I’ll never find true love. Over the past year my depression has gotten worse because of my sh*tty love life circumstances.

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