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newastrobaby
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posted April 01, 2020 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I really want someone to look at my chart and help me understand why I haven't had any relationships all my life! Reach out to me if you're willing to take a look at my birth chart. Thanks!

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Saille
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posted April 01, 2020 08:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Saille     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
can you post your chart?

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newastrobaby
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posted April 03, 2020 12:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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newastrobaby
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posted April 03, 2020 12:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for your help in advance!

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Graham
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posted April 03, 2020 03:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Graham     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
[QUOTE]Originally posted by newastrobaby:
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http://ibb.co/k0ykgMw

You appear to be living in Canada, but born in a country with a very different culture.

Could that be affecting your relationships in some way?

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newastrobaby
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posted April 04, 2020 01:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not really

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implosions
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posted April 04, 2020 03:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for implosions     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I see Chiron in the 11th house of friendship, nothing of note in the 7 or 8th houses, their rulers in the 3rd house- more short term or localised relationships.

Saturn in the 5th house of flirting, friends and romance, meaning it's an uphill learning scape and often treated very seriously.

Your chart overall looks much more self-oriented, especially having North Node conjunct to Pluto and the Moon in the 2nd house. Essentially here to learn more about how to have your own personal security and resources that are deeply meaningful to you, rather than necessarily sharing or relying on another person.

Learn how to be cherished friends with people above and beyond the idea of 'romance' and you'll probably see more success.

Also you're young still! Once your Saturn return passes, you'll likely find exploring that area of life a lot easier to navigate.

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Graham
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posted April 05, 2020 04:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Graham     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by newastrobaby:
Not really

Note how you have responded with a closed answer to my question, rather than using it as an opportunity to open up a dialogue between the two of us.

This tells the other person that you do not want to interact with them. ... So, might it be something which is discouraging potential suitors in your real-world social interactions?

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newastrobaby
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posted April 05, 2020 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Implosions thanks for the details, I def identify with it. It's hard for me to keep up with the best of friendships if I move away. I get stuck with life and almost like forget to stay in touch.

@graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general.

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newastrobaby
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posted April 05, 2020 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Implosions thanks for the details, I def identify with it. It's hard for me to keep up with the best of friendships if I move away. I get stuck with life and almost like forget to stay in touch.

@graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general.

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Graham
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posted April 06, 2020 04:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Graham     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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@graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general.

My own (admittedly, very limited) experience of Canadians is that they reach out to others by asking open questions, and assume that a closed response means the other person does not want to interact.

You have 4 personal planets clustered at you Capricorn IC, indicating a natural tendency to 'keep yourself to yourself" - which is astrospeak for "giving closed responses to open questions". ... And that is exasperated by the cluster being sextile to Moon in secretive Scorpio.

Hence ... at http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/241760.html ... you made the following comment :-

my ice breakers tend to catch people off guard. "What is the epitome of comfort for you?" "If you could put any two animals together, what would you create?" "If you could make the moon any flavor of ice cream, what would you choose?"
When I get REALLY anxious, then I start complimenting people...and then i run away.

Which left me wondering if Canadians might see those kind of ice-breakers as you not wanting to interact with them seriously.

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newastrobaby
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posted April 06, 2020 01:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Graham:
My own (admittedly, very limited) experience of Canadians is that they reach out to others by asking open questions, and assume that a closed response means the other person does not want to interact.

You have 4 personal planets clustered at you Capricorn IC, indicating a natural tendency to 'keep yourself to yourself" - which is astrospeak for "giving closed responses to open questions". ... And that is exasperated by the cluster being sextile to Moon in secretive Scorpio.

Hence ... at http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/241760.html ... you made the following comment :-

[b]my ice breakers tend to catch people off guard. "What is the epitome of comfort for you?" "If you could put any two animals together, what would you create?" "If you could make the moon any flavor of ice cream, what would you choose?"
When I get REALLY anxious, then I start complimenting people...and then i run away.

Which left me wondering if Canadians might see those kind of ice-breakers as you not wanting to interact with them seriously. [/B]


A generalized statement might not fit here because by default I am admitting to being "reserved" but speaking from only personal experience. I wouldn't want to make an umbrella statement on the whole country.

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implosions
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posted April 06, 2020 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for implosions     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Canadians have responses as across the board as any other country

Although we do typically try and play 'nice' a little longer than some.

Capricorn is just business mindset- does it serve the purpose? The long term goal? No? Well, no sense waffling longer than needed.

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Graham
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posted April 06, 2020 05:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Graham     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Yes. ... My point is only that closed responses can discourage potential suitors.

Currently though, a temporary poleaxe configuration* is adversely affecting my ability to express the point correctly/effectively.

[ * Transit Pluto is currently activating my natal Moon-Mars 165/quindecile aspect.]

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Randall
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posted April 17, 2020 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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newastrobaby
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posted April 23, 2020 09:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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newastrobaby
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posted April 28, 2020 08:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ashes2Phoenix
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posted May 06, 2020 03:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ashes2Phoenix     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have nothing of value to add, but I also have Saturn in the 5th and Chiron in the 11th. I also have a stellium (mostly outerplanet) in Capricorn.

I too have an empty love life and I believe it's related to Saturn in my 5th. I am in the shadow of my Saturn return and haven't seen any improvements. However, as soon as Saturn passed, I was hit with hard outer planet and Chiron transits.

Take a look at your progressed chart to see if there is anything else going on.

Your chart link has also expired.

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newastrobaby
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posted May 09, 2020 03:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks! That actually makes me think it is Saturn then

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Randall
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posted May 20, 2020 09:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Randall
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posted June 04, 2020 04:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Still_Hopeful
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posted June 15, 2020 02:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Still_Hopeful     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My 2 cents. Saturn in 5th DOES NOT preclude having a love relationship. Not at all, I had long terms relationships and I have Saturn in 5h. However I noticed, Saturn in 5th could delay parenthood (it happened to me). But now I am proud and happy Mama . Having said that, imho, Saturn in 5th makes you a loner. Not by circumstances but by choice. (unconscious or conscious). Another example. I have a friend who has saturn in 5th as well. She had some drama in her love life when she was in her 20. It took her 20 years to get over it. She CONSCIOUSLY stayed single for 20+ years. She is smart and very attractive. So it is up to a person.

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newastrobaby
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posted June 20, 2020 12:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for newastrobaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Still_Hopeful:
My 2 cents. Saturn in 5th DOES NOT preclude having a love relationship. Not at all, I had long terms relationships and I have Saturn in 5h. However I noticed, Saturn in 5th could delay parenthood (it happened to me). But now I am proud and happy Mama . Having said that, imho, Saturn in 5th makes you a loner. Not by circumstances but by choice. (unconscious or conscious). Another example. I have a friend who has saturn in 5th as well. She had some drama in her love life when she was in her 20. It took her 20 years to get over it. She CONSCIOUSLY stayed single for 20+ years. She is smart and very attractive. So it is up to a person.

That's actually very helpful. Your example and your friends experience really did resonate. Thank you!

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Randall
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posted June 30, 2020 10:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Lalafortunaea
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posted June 30, 2020 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lalafortunaea     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It all depends on what your initial intentions are when it comes to the opposite sex.

Also I can't see your chart. "this page doesn't exist"

Can you repost it?

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