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Topic: An empty love life
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 01, 2020 06:53 PM
I really want someone to look at my chart and help me understand why I haven't had any relationships all my life! Reach out to me if you're willing to take a look at my birth chart. Thanks!IP: Logged |
Saille Knowflake Posts: 1342 From: N/A Registered: Apr 2015
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posted April 01, 2020 08:43 PM
can you post your chart?
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 03, 2020 12:28 AM
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 03, 2020 12:29 AM
Thanks for your help in advance!IP: Logged |
Graham Knowflake Posts: 1323 From: Registered: Apr 2019
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posted April 03, 2020 03:57 AM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by newastrobaby: Image link - https://ibb.co/k0ykgMw [img]https://ibb.co/k0ykgMw[/img][/QUOTE http://ibb.co/k0ykgMw You appear to be living in Canada, but born in a country with a very different culture. Could that be affecting your relationships in some way?
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 04, 2020 01:00 PM
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implosions Knowflake Posts: 542 From: canada Registered: Aug 2017
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posted April 04, 2020 03:56 PM
I see Chiron in the 11th house of friendship, nothing of note in the 7 or 8th houses, their rulers in the 3rd house- more short term or localised relationships.Saturn in the 5th house of flirting, friends and romance, meaning it's an uphill learning scape and often treated very seriously. Your chart overall looks much more self-oriented, especially having North Node conjunct to Pluto and the Moon in the 2nd house. Essentially here to learn more about how to have your own personal security and resources that are deeply meaningful to you, rather than necessarily sharing or relying on another person. Learn how to be cherished friends with people above and beyond the idea of 'romance' and you'll probably see more success. Also you're young still! Once your Saturn return passes, you'll likely find exploring that area of life a lot easier to navigate. IP: Logged |
Graham Knowflake Posts: 1323 From: Registered: Apr 2019
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posted April 05, 2020 04:57 AM
quote: Originally posted by newastrobaby: Not really
Note how you have responded with a closed answer to my question, rather than using it as an opportunity to open up a dialogue between the two of us. This tells the other person that you do not want to interact with them. ... So, might it be something which is discouraging potential suitors in your real-world social interactions? IP: Logged |
newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 05, 2020 08:15 PM
@Implosions thanks for the details, I def identify with it. It's hard for me to keep up with the best of friendships if I move away. I get stuck with life and almost like forget to stay in touch. @graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general. IP: Logged |
newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 05, 2020 08:15 PM
@Implosions thanks for the details, I def identify with it. It's hard for me to keep up with the best of friendships if I move away. I get stuck with life and almost like forget to stay in touch. @graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general. IP: Logged |
Graham Knowflake Posts: 1323 From: Registered: Apr 2019
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posted April 06, 2020 04:16 AM
quote: @graham I see what you're saying, I guess, I will try and be more open, I dont think it was cultural but like implosions suggested, I am def more self reliant in all of my relationships in general.
My own (admittedly, very limited) experience of Canadians is that they reach out to others by asking open questions, and assume that a closed response means the other person does not want to interact. You have 4 personal planets clustered at you Capricorn IC, indicating a natural tendency to 'keep yourself to yourself" - which is astrospeak for "giving closed responses to open questions". ... And that is exasperated by the cluster being sextile to Moon in secretive Scorpio. Hence ... at http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/241760.html ... you made the following comment :- my ice breakers tend to catch people off guard. "What is the epitome of comfort for you?" "If you could put any two animals together, what would you create?" "If you could make the moon any flavor of ice cream, what would you choose?" When I get REALLY anxious, then I start complimenting people...and then i run away. Which left me wondering if Canadians might see those kind of ice-breakers as you not wanting to interact with them seriously. IP: Logged |
newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 06, 2020 01:15 PM
quote: Originally posted by Graham: My own (admittedly, very limited) experience of Canadians is that they reach out to others by asking open questions, and assume that a closed response means the other person does not want to interact.You have 4 personal planets clustered at you Capricorn IC, indicating a natural tendency to 'keep yourself to yourself" - which is astrospeak for "giving closed responses to open questions". ... And that is exasperated by the cluster being sextile to Moon in secretive Scorpio. Hence ... at http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/241760.html ... you made the following comment :- [b]my ice breakers tend to catch people off guard. "What is the epitome of comfort for you?" "If you could put any two animals together, what would you create?" "If you could make the moon any flavor of ice cream, what would you choose?" When I get REALLY anxious, then I start complimenting people...and then i run away. Which left me wondering if Canadians might see those kind of ice-breakers as you not wanting to interact with them seriously. [/B]
A generalized statement might not fit here because by default I am admitting to being "reserved" but speaking from only personal experience. I wouldn't want to make an umbrella statement on the whole country. IP: Logged |
implosions Knowflake Posts: 542 From: canada Registered: Aug 2017
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posted April 06, 2020 01:55 PM
Canadians have responses as across the board as any other country Although we do typically try and play 'nice' a little longer than some. Capricorn is just business mindset- does it serve the purpose? The long term goal? No? Well, no sense waffling longer than needed. IP: Logged |
Graham Knowflake Posts: 1323 From: Registered: Apr 2019
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posted April 06, 2020 05:29 PM
Yes. ... My point is only that closed responses can discourage potential suitors.Currently though, a temporary poleaxe configuration* is adversely affecting my ability to express the point correctly/effectively. [ * Transit Pluto is currently activating my natal Moon-Mars 165/quindecile aspect.] IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 129600 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 17, 2020 12:40 PM
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 23, 2020 09:58 PM
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newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted April 28, 2020 08:06 PM
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Ashes2Phoenix Knowflake Posts: 124 From: New York,NY,USA Registered: Mar 2015
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posted May 06, 2020 03:51 PM
I have nothing of value to add, but I also have Saturn in the 5th and Chiron in the 11th. I also have a stellium (mostly outerplanet) in Capricorn.I too have an empty love life and I believe it's related to Saturn in my 5th. I am in the shadow of my Saturn return and haven't seen any improvements. However, as soon as Saturn passed, I was hit with hard outer planet and Chiron transits. Take a look at your progressed chart to see if there is anything else going on. Your chart link has also expired. IP: Logged |
newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted May 09, 2020 03:24 AM
Thanks! That actually makes me think it is Saturn thenIP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 129600 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 20, 2020 09:53 AM
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 129600 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 04, 2020 04:22 PM
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Still_Hopeful Knowflake Posts: 729 From: Boston,USA Registered: Aug 2009
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posted June 15, 2020 02:15 PM
My 2 cents. Saturn in 5th DOES NOT preclude having a love relationship. Not at all, I had long terms relationships and I have Saturn in 5h. However I noticed, Saturn in 5th could delay parenthood (it happened to me). But now I am proud and happy Mama . Having said that, imho, Saturn in 5th makes you a loner. Not by circumstances but by choice. (unconscious or conscious). Another example. I have a friend who has saturn in 5th as well. She had some drama in her love life when she was in her 20. It took her 20 years to get over it. She CONSCIOUSLY stayed single for 20+ years. She is smart and very attractive. So it is up to a person. IP: Logged |
newastrobaby Newflake Posts: 24 From: canada Registered: Jan 2020
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posted June 20, 2020 12:00 AM
quote: Originally posted by Still_Hopeful: My 2 cents. Saturn in 5th DOES NOT preclude having a love relationship. Not at all, I had long terms relationships and I have Saturn in 5h. However I noticed, Saturn in 5th could delay parenthood (it happened to me). But now I am proud and happy Mama . Having said that, imho, Saturn in 5th makes you a loner. Not by circumstances but by choice. (unconscious or conscious). Another example. I have a friend who has saturn in 5th as well. She had some drama in her love life when she was in her 20. It took her 20 years to get over it. She CONSCIOUSLY stayed single for 20+ years. She is smart and very attractive. So it is up to a person.
That's actually very helpful. Your example and your friends experience really did resonate. Thank you!
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 129600 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 30, 2020 10:14 AM
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Lalafortunaea Knowflake Posts: 1280 From: Registered: Jul 2017
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posted June 30, 2020 04:53 PM
It all depends on what your initial intentions are when it comes to the opposite sex.Also I can't see your chart. "this page doesn't exist" Can you repost it? IP: Logged |