posted December 22, 2003 10:06 PM         

You feel like she is "killing" your cousin. While the dream reflects these feelings, it also suggests that there is more to your grandmother's actions than can be seen on the surface. The roots of this problem run deeply within her psychology and therefore perhaps within the family foundation.

Do you have any idea why she acts this way?

Do you suspect any "secrets" that may lie hidden beneath the surface?

How did your grandmother treat her children when they were growing up?

How was/is your grandmother treated by your grandfather, and by her own parents?

I keep feeling like she needs prayers.

posted December 23, 2003 07:13 AM         

y she acts this way...quite a few reasons i guess...some of them justified some of them not, in my view anyway. my cousin's mother died (my grandma's daughter). it was the daughter she always perhaps liked more than my mother. there was always a doulbe standard in that household...i wont go into it i dont really feel comfortable discussing it seeing as im still quite...mad..about that.
my cousin has some health problems,nothing life threatening but problems none the less and my grandma has taken it to herself to "improve" my cousin and make her hte perfect daughter my aunty always wanted...but she doesnt do it in a way that would encourage my cousing to help herself, it is threatening and controlling (she literally calls my cousin every 10 minutes...ive seen the phone bill!). i cant really explain evertyhing she does, but they all pretty much go against MY fundemental beliefs. i have always somehow wanted to protect the ones i love, but i cant do anythign here so I get confused and mad and frustrated because she is still a grieveing mother...

i havent really wanted to admit it but i also sort of resent her, the double standard has now moved on to the next generation, me and my cousin...i my mothers daughter who gets good grades and is responcible, and made to feel that i can have no flaws, while she the poor unfortunate daughter needs to look up to me, but hten i feel bad because im NOWHERE near perfect, and hten i am made to feel bad by my cousin becaue my grandma torments her....so it seems this problem is more selfish than anything else

my grandma grew up in an orphenage...she worked as a servant for some time...i dont really know the full story. she was a very well known teacher later on in her life...known city wide and loved...i know she had a brother but he died very young.

my grandfather and grandmother have a good realtionship i guess. they seem to fight quite a bit but thats just because granpa has diabetes and grandma worries about him. but grandpa gets mad because if he looks at something that could put his blood sugar elvels up grandma starts crying and making a scene.

im quite upset with myeslf now, because even as i was writing this i could feel the resentment rise in me...ive been trying very hard to stop that..

umm is it alright if after youve analyzed this, this post b deleted? i dont feel very good about it being up...

posted December 24, 2003 10:02 PM         

I will delete whatever you wish, but there is certainly nothing wrong with being honest! Your feelings about your grandmother are definately reflected in the dream, but I am not in the business of analyzing what you think, only what you dream. What, how, and why you think/feel is not for me to judge ... and I do not feel like you are wrong in any way, that is your decision.

That said, I will delete your post if you wish.