posted July 10, 2019 02:13 PM            

What are your thoughts?

Edit: maybe your daughter was not trying to "get away" from transference, but you express a fear of her disappearing, and your need to be in control of the situation.

posted July 12, 2019 03:26 PM            

If I could 'add' to this excellent conversation?

In a broader and more-general perspective, you left-out a phrase when you pasted this dream in a separate thread.

This dream was first mentioned here--
Why I stopped seeing/remembering dreams?
March 27, 2019
Still_Hopeful
- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum15/HTML/004223.html

From post of July 8, 2019 at 4:18pm LL-time
"Finally , I dream today. Dream was strange though.
I , with my mom and my daughter at the plastic surgeon office (lol),
for some reason I have to see him ... beats me , why... "

The THREE generations are represented--
your mom, you, and your daughter.

There are thoughts, attitudes, values, and 'traditions' get "passed down" from one generation to the next.

You sound like an excellent mother, as you place the care of your daughter over your own needs -- as a woman, as an 'available' woman (after divorce .. so sorry).

I know what that's like-- In the 1980s, I became a 'single-mom' of two very very young girls, while needing to hold down a full-time job. Exhausting. Your 'time' HAS to be devoted to them, as well as being ABLE to carve-out (cut) some TIME for your 'own' selfcare (very important!!).

Trying to date and have romantic connections, when you have a younger child, is difficult.

And 'one' of those difficulties is finding a partner who would accept a young child into his life (were you to become 'serious'). Some men view women with children as having 'baggage'. Some men who fall for women with children, can 'resent' her child being part of the relationship.
(This could be unconscious on his part; and, IF he doesn't have Love in his Heart for children, then this could surface and become used as an 'ugly issue' in the relationship later-on... adding more hurt upon you.)

So in a way, that 'surgeon' can represent that dilemma of wondering if a man will accept you being 'occupied' and his need to share his time with you (and vice versa).

You perhaps could be feeling as though your Beauty and youth had also been spent on a man that you had to divorce. He got the 'you' that was young, and fresh, and attractive, and unattached.

I wonder if that could a part of it?

PINK is "younger" … your "younger" looking years.

Now. To the reference that included your "mother", who may have role-modeled the values you now have and keep?

I could see PINK as being the "traditional" feminine role, expected to be played-out? Now that you're divorced, that "traditional" dream had to be 'adjusted', after injury? "Tweak" (surgery)? Healing is necessary. *Heart*

Your "image" on those walls, was excellent! *thumbsup*
Good self-esteem. (Wonderful!!)

Mothers hand down traditions to their daughters on 'how' to mother. What proper mothering looks like.

From the point of your separation in prep for your divorce, you entered another world with other women going through the hardships of raising their children un-attached (no father/mate around to rely on for emotional support, and hands-on help with the child). It's difficult when you-yourself have the need for recreation (to be able to wipe out of your mind the constant weights of duty and attention).

Also too.... how in your own childhood with your mother, life was sooo much simpler. Pink. You could Play without the weights of responsibility.

I hope your mom is helping you with your child, and giving you the mental-time-off you NEED from time to time, in order to self-care.

I know the difficulties of trying to date and have romantic affairs, when you have children. Your attentions/affections in a way are split.

"Time" DOES go by. Yes, you DO have other Priorities now.

If a man can't "deal" with it, then PLEASE find someone who completely 'accepts' and loves children, as well as your self. You cannot surgically alter her. She's your Life, and a "committed" relationship you have for at least 20 more Beautiful Years.

Children are Valuable.
She is "learning" from YOU,
just as you learned from your mom.

You come as a Complete and Total Package Deal --
haha, 'he' gets cut-out, before your relationship with your Daughter.

And.... Your Beauty is outside, yes of course.
The most IMPORTANT Beauty comes from within.
You have right-values and priorities.

I don't know what belief-system you practice, but the WORDS in this song, about a man who sees your HEART rather than shallow valuing of your 'flesh' is a treasure that I HOPE you'll find or attract.

True Love in your life.
Keep good Priorities, and attract someone with same.

Pay attention to the words of the lyrics.
Good advice for women, about their Heart, and having someone Value you based MOST on what's Beautiful INSIDE of you. Someone who 'see's your Heart, and loves and 'commits' to you for ALL that you are-- including that you have a younger child!

Keep good Values and Priorities

(music) Charm Is Deceitful (Kim Hill, lyrics, Prov 31 scriptures) [2:18] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZYV1t8zyws

btw-- word 'fears' is old-term for 'respect and honors' (not actually being afraid)

posted July 15, 2019 01:22 PM            

This is synastry with my little one

posted July 15, 2019 02:55 PM            

You are Fierce!

posted July 15, 2019 04:02 PM            

So many '0' (zeros) in our aspects, for better or for worse we are definitely connected on a deep level

posted July 15, 2019 10:51 PM            

Look at those beautiful shared aspects-- Sun Neptunes connections, your Venuses, her Jupiter and Moon on your IC, your 5th House Moon conjunct her IC.

Beautiful really-deep child, with her Scorp Sun trine Moon and Jupiter-Uranus late Pisces. Good sense of humor (Merc-Mars and Asc Sag)?-- her words-- She could wind up with speaking abilities, for a cause she'd be interested in. Might be good at debates (when she gets to that grade in school). She's still young! *smile*

She may have healing and perception abilities, good intuition.

You know.. going back to your dream?
Through the divorce, your daughter may have inadvertently absorbed some of the atmospheric issues dealing with the 'disappointment in love' that you've had.

You might want to do some age-appropriate child-development research into how to support her learning to identify and express her deep inner emotions? (But, you're probably on-top of all that, already!! *smile*)

I am VERY glad you shared your feelings.
You are not whining... You are open, and have had a lot on your plate.

As far as dealing with your own sense of aging? Yeah... That happens!!
(I'm 64.) Face changes can happen from time to time-- I remember an Oprah program where she had women in their 50s come and share what changes happened to their looks. Some women's face shape changes a lot. Get's rounder. Was interesting to see. Doesn't happen to everyone.

It has to sink in sometimes. You're 'growing older' with your looks. If you're getting any wrinkles?.. I like what an Oriental royal person said once-- told an artist painting her portrait to PUT the wrinkles in her face there-- To her, it was a sign of wisdom.

You take quantum leaps in your soul, as you age. It 'feels good' to feel the fullness of life. It's a kind of calmer and palpable feeling.

You are now in the midst of transit called your Chiron-Return. You had your first pass of it months ago. Chiron will go retrograde, and come nearer to your own Chiron again, then go forward once more.
(I haven't checked the ephemeris for your degree and dates.)

This Chiron in Aries, is highlighting the issues pertaining to your 4th House = the roots of your identity, family, traditions. The 4th house is a 'psychological' house.
(Also, real estate, and work environments.)

You'll emerge from this with a Gift of having sorted/healed facets of your Identity, clarifying traditional views your mother passed down to you-- you can keep it, or gently change or affirm-inwardly what is not really consistent with you?

Take good care of your health during this time too. Selfcare. Image-wise, psychologically.. breathe-in and accept the changes happening to your body, your face. You are Perfect as you are.

haha. What you are 'seeing now' as being older?, will one day be your 'younger look'. Time rolls on. Appreciate who you are. You're 'just right'! *smile*

(Sounds like you try to burn that proverbial candle at both ends?.. Not good to do that for too long of a time. Too much pressure, can catch up on you!) See if another idea can come to you, on how to help organize your efforts.. simplify? (haha.. *grin*)

Yes... I can appreciate the shock you must have felt. And you're handling it.

What a Beautiful friendship?! " "

It goes faster than you think-- she'll be older. Enjoy her {{{hugs-for-both}}}.