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Topic: What do you do if you love and nobody loves you back?
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TINK
Knowflake Posts: 584
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted May 14, 2004 09:47 AM
 
Lovely Libra ~ you more than live up to your name. What wonderful things you said! "I am no longer a walking need, I am me"  I am fortunate enough to be in a good marriage but my dad was abusive. For many years I was full of hate, bitterness and resentment. But now I'm playing it like you do with your mom. I forgive him and I wish him well but I will not let him hurt me anymore. Such a lovely observation about the graffiti. I never thought of it that way. So it really is true that wisdom can be found just about anywhere if you know how to look. The Angels leave clues all over the place. "when I stop looking for someone to rescue me then my soul mate will appear" That is so true. Your 5 year break was both brave and wise.
Sometimes, we need to tend to our own gardens before we invite guests over for a visit.  miranda ~ gosh there is so much wisdom here for you to gather. There isn't anything I can add except forgiveness is a hard one to master. Give yourself time. It will come. Practice on small things 
It's true that you will lose alot listening to your Higher Self - but you will gain even more. Better things. More important things. Trust yourSelf and take the leap.  tink IP: Logged |
miranda23
Knowflake Posts: 28
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 14, 2004 11:48 AM
The information is valuable here. They truly can answer almost all our questions. Tink that is wise I never thought of that (listening to your Higher Self you may loose but you'll gain even more.) I will try hard to listen to my self, it's just that in my example with my ex. I don't know what to listen to myself or my heart, do you have any answers--they're in conflict? He truly did the unforgivable-he abandoned me when I needed him the most, and I don't know if it really is right to forgive.  IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 584
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted May 16, 2004 06:03 PM
What do you define as "myself" and what do you define as "my heart"? You can forgive him and stay, you can forgive him and leave, or you can stay but not ever really forgive him. Is he a good person who made a mistake? Is he someone you would be better off without? Is this his first transgression or has he made a habit of this sort of behaivor? Reflect upon the difference between the person he IS and the person you would LIKE him to be.
It is always right to forgive. None of us are perfect. We have all asked for and received forgiveness. What right have any of us to deny it to someone else? But that doesn't mean we need to knowingly put ourselves in harm's way. I too was once abandoned in a time of great need. A few lifetimes later and I'm still heartbroken. "How many times should I forgive my brother? Seven times?" "No. Seven times seventy. Forgive your brother as many times as your Mother and Father in Heaven have forgiven you" 
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miranda23
Knowflake Posts: 28
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 16, 2004 06:34 PM
All I know is my life force is leaving without him, I should try to forgive. Everywhere I go people are giving me the message that I should forgive. The subject keeps coming up without them knowing anything about me? I guess you've kind of convinced me I'll try. I don't know if he's a good person he showed me both, maybe I sense he will still hurt me, maybe you brought up the real problem, that it's not about forgiveness but that it just won't work between us it's passed, too late, and holding on to this grudge between us keeps the passion alive for both. I need to ask God to take over it's too much for me I can't figure it out by myself  You where really helpful IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 584
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted May 18, 2004 08:13 PM
Leaving is hard - even when you know it is the right thing to do. Something about us feels it is better to stay with a not-so-right-for-us someone than it is to be alone. We find excuses to stay. Funny how even a grudge will do the trick.I have no doubt you will get your answer. Keep your eyes, ears, and heart open. Good Luck
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rusty
Knowflake Posts: 1
From: sacramento
Registered: May 2004
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posted May 19, 2004 02:10 AM
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miranda23
Knowflake Posts: 28
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 19, 2004 12:53 PM
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Randall
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From: Columbus, GA USA
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posted May 19, 2004 01:19 PM
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