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Topic: You Know when you get angry...?
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Christinaeavynwarner
Knowflake Posts: 306
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 01, 2005 09:32 PM
 
And words just kind of come out, and you'd think things that you wouldn't want to normally? And you act how you don't want to? How do you just...kinda erase all of that? Like, sometimes you get so angry you just lose it, and you start saying and doing all sorts of things you would never ever do, and doesn't all those thoughts provoke negative energy or whtnot? And how do you get rid of those negative-ness? IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph
Knowflake Posts: 823
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Registered: Jul 2004
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posted August 01, 2005 10:47 PM
I don't have this problem, largely because since I was 14 years old, I was aware I am a very angry person and I work on that every day. I find outlets for my anger and meditate. I do various "exercises" to keep myself humble and aware of the consequences of my actions. It's been my experience that people who "blow up" usually do so because they are not very in touch with their anger and so things build up insided until they, well blow up. Then whatever the trigger is becomes the target for a lot of anger that has nothing to do with it. If a residue "negative" feeling remains, that's probably due to lingering, deep anger that has been stirred up but not appropriately expressed. As the saying goes, anger is a poison that does the most harm to the vessel that carries it. All that built-up anger that's looking for some release is why people in this state often say things they don't mean and so on. It's largely about a lack of self-awareness combined with a failure to recognize the underlying issues. This is often the result of the person simply not having the coping skills of self-examination and impulse control, both of which can be learned through counseling and behavior modification. In rare cases, it's due to a problem with rage response. This is primarily a psycho-physiological issue involving testosterone, and so it's mostly in men (sometimes women). That needs more aggressive treatment. Please know that, even if you think this is acceptable behavior, that "once I get it out of me, I'm OK," that it may in fact not be OK for those around you. So if you're having this kind of problem, I'd suggest seeing a psychotherapist or a trustworthy minister or spiritual teacher for guidence and help coming to see what is the underlying cause of this explosive temper and learning the necessary coping skills. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 1496
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 01, 2005 11:14 PM
Also, as an alternative.. I have seen threads here devoted to the word 'Cancel'.If you have negative thoughts about yourself and others, and you think in retrospect they are not positive ones to have 'out there'~
by 'cancelling' them willfully, you are aware of the force that created them and by naming it and nullifying it, you are reasserting positivity.
Handling anger can only be done once you've established that you have anger.. you can't handle something you own without acknowledging/recognizing and naming it.
Check out the threads about 'Cancel'. IP: Logged |
SunChild
Moderator Posts: 1795
From: .:*~*:. Australia.:*~*:.
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted August 02, 2005 02:04 AM
I like your post Pixie!  Christina~ Sometimes I have words that I wish wouldn't come out. If only I had recognised the thoughts before they turned into words- it really wouldn't be so bad. But in anycase, acknowledging the thought is a great step, recognising it, and then 'cancelling' it totally neutralizes the negative energy. I also believe that the genuine intention to rid 'the negative' is the potion already made.
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zoso
Knowflake Posts: 544
From: Nevada
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 02, 2005 02:20 AM
Apologizing profusely (even to yourself as well) helps somewhat.IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
Knowflake Posts: 900
From: piopolis, quebec canada
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted August 02, 2005 02:26 AM
Christina,
I also believe you can "CANCEL" all the negative. As for saying and doing things we regret. There is no one to blame, but our selves "elves" For what we do and say.
This is a rage you must control, or you could lose everything in one roll.
It all comes down to Karma, you reap, what you sow.
Love and Light to you all.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 2239
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 02, 2005 12:45 PM
In my experience I find it healthier not to control my anger, but to let it out, I am also teaching this to our 6 year old son. We bought him a punch bag for his room, he even invites me in to have a go sometimes - its great. Dont the japanese employers have these in the workplace (what a fab idea)!!So what I do is drive up to the mountains, get out of my car (or stay in it) and SCREAM for all I am worth!! It may be different for others, but me being very passionate and fiery at times I HAVE to let it out. Of course there is always the danger of hurting the other - I have learned that is wrong.What I do after Ive let all the madness out is to THEN challenge the other person who has angered me - it feels calmer and kinder that way! Other things I have found great to channel it into is dancing, playing the fiddle like a mad one, singing and best of all crying - I can cry my anger out, it feels gentler and not so exhausting!! Also I find sex and orgasm a fantastic release and lastly a good old belly laugh really helps to calm. Good luck and love to all Sue xxx IP: Logged |
Christinaeavynwarner
Knowflake Posts: 306
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 02, 2005 02:32 PM
I dont know..I haven't been this angry in a long time...and yeh, I know its not...eh..acceptable..thats why i'm asking. Do you think PMS counts? Or is it just an excuse? Because I was...PMS-ing...and whenever I do, I get all hormony and all..specially since i'm 15. BUt yes, I know. I did the whole cancel thing and the apologizing thing. And then I've also had some..past issues I didn't know were there...were there. lol..tahnks againIP: Logged |
artlovesdawn
Knowflake Posts: 171
From: midwest USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted August 04, 2005 11:58 PM
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Svetlana
Knowflake Posts: 137
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted September 05, 2005 06:53 PM
In my experience, when I started practicing detachment one of the benefits was that when I'd get angry and could observe myself at the same time from aside, I'd realize (in some instances) that my anger was stemming from ideas that I didn't really support. Ideas that I was taught to believe in and made a part of my belif system, but which were not my own. Once I got rid of those ideas, I had no need to get angry over them.I also noticed that I can get easily irratated if I'm hungry. Something chemical? ------------------
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