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Topic: Finding out an Aquarius stereotype is true the hard way!
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Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 07:44 PM
 
Gem, she's not changing! Geez, you think i'd change for a man?If she puts out at the beginning or is too eager beaver ALL men will run! Doesn't mean you will change. I am an really cute and sweet, sensitive person and l know that if l give more than he does i'm going down! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted March 17, 2009 08:00 PM
I had a look at this interesting "Jane Austen's Guide to Dating" a while back... and that said forget the 'rules' and show a man you like him when you like him.Well, that's all I've been doing... and yep, Gem! being myself.... which is open, honest and straightforward... unfortunately, this hasn't got me very far with men so far so maybe being myself is a crap approach. I'm not being desperate I hope but I can't deny it breaks my heart a bit that I haven't got to go out with him since... ooo four weeks ago? I mean, either this guy is honestly very busy (quite possible with this number of friends) or playing some silly 'I like you/like you not' game... Still, fact remains he texted me loooaadds when I was ill during the week off four weeks ago... and now, oh well. I just don't know. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 08:04 PM
Thing is Mutable,, these are not rules. These are LIFE SKILLS for having respect for yourself.For instance, if you have lots of respect for yourself you won't naturally call someone back immediately if you are busy. you won't sleep with a man before you've met at least some of his friends if not his best friend. Just because a man is nice doesn't mean he's going to treat you the way you treat yourself nor be right for you. You don't hve to worry if you are right for them. Also, l never listen to men's words... they are just ways to charm. I am deaf to words. I actually told my libran "look i'm deaf, so if you want my attention you will have to act-action it" Only listen or take note of a man's actions. Any man can say "you are so beautiful" and you melt.... not many men can hold you like you are a beautiful rose though  IP: Logged |
Jugular
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posted March 17, 2009 08:20 PM
Lara OMG you are hysterically entertaining. Pre boil!!!! And in this case spot on! You need your own talk show, I swear. You'd be tons better than OprahIP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted March 17, 2009 08:20 PM
Right. Thanks Lara! You've been so helpful!Oh well I guess I will just carry on not actively pursuing him but being friendly if he is to me. If nothing does happen I suppose he must have gone off me. In which case, I will NOT be friends with him. haha I don't much like this idea of Aquarian 'friendships'.
Opposite sex friendships.... ridiculous 
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MyVirgoMask
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posted March 17, 2009 08:33 PM
Heck yeah, listen to Lara. I don't pay much attention to a man's words so much anymore either (unless he's got a ton of 3rd house stuff LOL) - but I am more concerned with *actions*.
If what he says doesn't match what he does, wash your hands of him!You get to set the pace - don't let him take you for a ride! It's all well and good to be yourself, and be honest - but it's also about someone who DESERVES the attention you give him  IP: Logged |
leapinglemur14
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posted March 17, 2009 08:59 PM
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GemGemGem
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posted March 17, 2009 10:22 PM
"I am an really cute and sweet, sensitive person and l know that if l give more than he does i'm going down!"LOL! I know what you mean Lara. I'm just speaking from personal experience, because like Mutable Night Force, I am an open book when I like a guy. I like to make it known that I like him. If he doesn't like me back because of that, then so be it. But I want a guy to like me not only because of the whole thrill of the chase but because he genuinely has feelings for me. I would never go out of my way to return his call in 5 minutes if I'm busy. But If I'm not busy, I won't go out of my way to keep him hanging a few hours just to make him wait. If he's not interested because I show interest, then he's not for me. Simple as that. I like what you said though about only seeing his actions. That's true...words are cheap! I hate guys who talk the talk, but can't walk the walk. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 11:39 PM
yeah Gem and if they don't walk the plank they talk about then they can take a LONG walk off a SHORT plank hahaha IP: Logged |
mblover
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posted March 18, 2009 12:11 AM
I don't know if I am giving any valuable info. But as a Scorp, I have never liked chased by a woman. It's just no challenge and there is no fun or thrill. I think it also explains how mood shifts in my Cancer wife continues to keep me excited. I always love the challenge presented by Moon. She gets moody and then gets very emotional and then gets excited then gets agitated then highly insecure then extremely clingy then extremely manipulative the list goes on.. BUT IT IS FUN CHASING HER EMOTIONS  I am so glad she is not so predictable .. LOL or is she? IP: Logged |
Belage
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 12:24 AM
If you're going to be in love with an Aqua, you cannot afford to be emotionally needy, unless he has Venus in Pisces or moon in Cancer or Pisces. You really have to be your own person, not dependent on his moods and quirks, not hanging by your phone waiting for him to call or text. In other words, get a life of your own, and an interesting one at that. IP: Logged |
leapinglemur14
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posted March 18, 2009 09:49 AM
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Lara
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posted March 18, 2009 09:54 AM
yup.
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sevannah
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posted March 18, 2009 10:23 AM
Listen to Lara! It works! On almost any sign. Aquarian men love mental stimulation! As Aquarius myself, I always attract Aquarians! They love great coversation and something that stimulates their intellect! Turn on their mind first! I know you said you don't want to do the friend thing, but that is the important part and something that they look for in their relationships. Lara's tips work really well for Aquarian and Libra men! You need the mystery, the allure, fasinate them. Also, just wanted to add about the having sex part. Even after you have sex, don't always give it to them. Basically keep him on his toes and keep doing what Lara says even in the relationship. Always have your own life and things to do. Never be clingy or dependant. This will make him run. You need to set yourself apart from those other girls, put on display your unique tastes and quirks. Aquarian men love quirks! Trust me I know! I hope this helps you some what! Good Luck!IP: Logged |
Dani California
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posted March 18, 2009 11:19 AM
Holy Hell, this is a good thread!! This sounds so much like my aqua male friend, he drives me bloomin' nuts.......I'm just ya know, getting on with my own thing, yep a STREAM of texts, what ya doing, how are ya, all chatty/friendly, really into the friendship....etc etc but the MINUTE you show interest and start acting all friendly........POOF.........they just go a bit cold and distant like they don't want to know........ Always leaves me really confused, like what the heck did I do? I'm gonna follow some of your tips guys
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amowls
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From: Falls Church, VA, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 11:27 AM
Don't think of it as a demotion to friendship. He always saw you as a friend, but possibly a friend he could be romantic with.Aquarians are fixed. Once they decide something about you, they stick with it generally. He's probably busy. IP: Logged |
Dani California
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posted March 18, 2009 11:31 AM
Yeah, I know what you mean Oh btw, what linda book am I meant to be reading for all the interesting aqua stuff? Its been ages since I've read my linda stuff, my books are just up on my shelf, might hunt them down. Might learn summat useful lol Aquas are a confusing bunch at times, I mean I'm a gemini, but heck I cannot work them out lol........you're right they're very fixed in their ideas.....makes you wonder exactly what they think of you! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 01:36 PM
Well, thank you and well done to everyone for making this such a lively informative thread.I think it's too late for me but loads of other are finding it useful so that's good. Yeah. Hasn't come up to talk to me for three days now. And to make it worse he's been hanging out non-stop with this really annoying 'cool' girl. I say cool with inverted commas because she thinks she's it and for some bizarre reason so does everyone else, despite the fact that she looks like a little boy who's raided his mad aunt's wardrobe.
But yeah. Although Aquas are meant to be fixed and you would expect this to mean not changing your mind, it apparently does....
I just wish when we were chatting about astrology and he asked me what my chart said I hadn't said "er.... it kind of says I'm sex obsessed." Stupid stupid. It's true, but I didn't need to say that.
Maybe it was that...? Maybe it was some other mistake...??
Sorry for all these dramatics.
It's just this now totals three love failures in the past nine months, one of them the end of a major relationship. And before that I'd already had my heart broken once.
I'm just sick of it. But can't seem to be happy without a relationship! haha
Venus in 7th you know... Sorry bout that. IP: Logged |
sevannah
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Registered: May 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 02:24 PM
The oddness of the other girls look is what attracts him. Fixed doesn't mean he doesn't change his mind about a love interest. 3 days of no contact is not long. My libra will sometimes go 2 weeks without a boo to me, and just when I think I should give up, bam there he is again all charm and smiles. Dam I hate that, and I get sucked in. But then our mars/venus trines one another, so there is always this magnetic pull to each other. Aquarian men can take a long time to make up their minds about love, depending on other aspects in their chart it might be longer or less. Go out do your own thing, let him see that you have fun no matter what. Continue to follow "Lara's Rules". My experience with Aquarian men is that they don't normally like to talk about sex openly, they like the hints and suggestions but not the directness of it. Be his friend, you can even say to him "I'm glad we are friends, because I don't think I'm ready for the relationship thing" Aquarian men tend to be committment phobic. The less it seems like you want one or that it's heading that way the better your chance is of getting one with him. Trust me on this Aquarian men and women are turned on more by mental stimulation than anything esle. For me personally a guy can be hot and sexy on the outside, but if there is no brain with that braun then forget it! I know that the perfect man is out there for you. If you decide to cut your loses just think of the lessons you have learned from this one and others and apply them to the next. Sometimes we have to go through some duds before our prince comes IP: Logged |
amowls
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From: Falls Church, VA, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 04:19 PM
UghI say these in all of the "What do I do with my Aquarian??" threads. DO NOT PLAY GAMES. AQUARIANS DO NOT REALLY CARE FOR GAMES AND IF WE THINK YOU'RE PLAYING GAMES WE'LL THINK THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO CONTROL US. IT IS A HUGE TURN OFF. AND WE WILL NOT THINK TWICE ABOUT MOVING ON BECAUSE IT IS VERY EASY FOR US TO DO SO. Stereotypically speaking, Aquas like to keep it casual. Playing games is a sign that you are most definitely not keeping it casual. We appreciate genuineness. If you're too evasive, we'll disappear. Signed,
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Mama Mia
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posted March 19, 2009 10:30 AM
TMNF:I have learned ALL of this stuff that is being expressed here..Now after about 5 years I am seeing some wonderful results from my Aqua man..It was a long road and I went through some crap with him and trained him as well as learned him is what I like to say and now we both finally understand each other..But also in doing so I still give him his space and I like my space as well. We do what I call a lil dance. We get together for a day or a night of fun or whatever then we break away from each other we may not talk for a day or two after that nothing more then two and it gives us both time to regroup and do other things. But all the while that we are away I can feel him smiling and thinking about me and vise versa and then when we get together again its much stronger then it was the time before..Our relationship is a lil more rooted so I now understand and feel secure and comfy at doing this with out fear that he has lost interest or blah,blah,blah.. So you and him just got started and trust me it maybe a nice lil while before he is the way that you want him to be with you..Your best bet is to not have any expectations from him have your own life and do your own thing and give him space.. When I first started talking to my Aqua I did not at all understand him but I was very close to his best friend who is a Gemini and that to is an advantage being close to one of his best friends bc there is where you will get some answers if the best friend like you..Anyway One time I was like man what is wrong with him and his best friend says to me he likes you alot Give him time and space and he is yours..Walla...Good luck girl, if you have any questions hit me up I have become almost an expert on these Aqua men... IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 19, 2009 01:53 PM
Helooooo people.... (feel like I should visit the thread I started regularly now haha).sevannah- Yeah I figured her unusual look might be the interest factor. I'm banking on her not having an amazing personality though
Two weeks with nothing from your libra? Strange Librans... what kind of relationship do you have going on?
How would a Capricorn Moon and Pisces Venus affect the decision making process then?
Thanks for the tips, I agree you have to try and learn, don't you? amowls- I agree I do instinctively think games are dangerous and silly with all men. And I'm rubbish at them! haha. I think maybe it's okay if you're a pro, but if you're a hapless idiot like me maybe it's best to just stick at being straightforward. Mama Mia- Hello! How are you doing?
Your relationship pattern sounds pretty cool. I'm glad something so unique can work in real life. And hey snap! His friends told me he liked me too. I wasn't really sure at all, but then I am quite dense (don't pick up signs well)...!
Anyway, hope he still does like me cos I still like him. Anyway anyway... did get to talk to him today so. I am stupid and should stop being an idiot. Don't spose there are any giveaway signs that they are still interested? And what if you do mostly want sex? I've found Lara's "Just grab a man" approach hasn't worked for me as of yet!!
I guess there's no quick way to get sex with an Aqua is there?? ------------------
I'll sail the Stygian swamp to the duties of this momentary life
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blue moon
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posted March 19, 2009 03:49 PM
Aqua. Tell him to stop pestering you, because you have things to do, you're busy. He will soon be panting after you like a dog. This will only work if he pays you the slightest bit of attention. If he ignores you, then it would seem he isn't very interested and you will have to accept this, there's no point trying to force an Aqua. Or anyone else for that matter, but particularly not an Aqua. IP: Logged |
Lana29865
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posted March 20, 2009 01:36 AM
Mama Mia, good for you if you are happy. Your 'dance' sounds to me like a typical Aqua thing (closeness and distance taking turns). IP: Logged |
alvarella777
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posted March 21, 2009 03:47 PM
This is really an interesting and enlightening thread on the AQUARIAN principle!"Detached", "mental stimulation", "casual", "commitment phobia" ... What do you guys'n'girls think: How would a person with his/her JUNO in AQUA would behave in a relationship? What would be their objective in coupling up with a person? What would they expect? What would they hope for, what would they run away from? I surely know how the text books describe "Juno in Aqua" ... but I guess it would be more helpful to take some wisdom from all these real life AQUA-people here.;-) Honestly: How could the AUQARIAN pirnciple translate into the field of Juno/relationship/marriage? IP: Logged |
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