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Topic: Finding out an Aquarius stereotype is true the hard way!
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The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 05:33 PM
 
It's pretty amazing when something you read from Linda's books seems to be uncannily true in people you know in real life.It can suck if it's not a particularly promising stereotype though! Just beginning to think I might have fallen victim to the very thing Linda mentions about Aquarians in Sun Signs. I think I could be an experiment he has lost interest in. Just wish I knew how you are meant to stop them losing interest!
Especially after he was so keen... and now, of course, there are still charming smiles and waves and (although not the last two days) very charming conversation. But how do I know if this means I am demoted to 'friend' now?  Is it positive body language? Flirting or friendliness?? Flirty text or just a joke?? Were those reasons for not being able to go out genuine or not? Why keep saying hello but not invite me out?
Anyone experienced something similar? With an Aquarian or otherwise?
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Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 05:36 PM
hmmmpersonally l would not reply to his texts/phone for a couple of days to put space between you and let the attraction have time to build again. If mr aqua wants you he will find you  ps. yes l have experienced this a lot with Aqua. It drives me insane, or it used to. Now l just get on with my life and Mr Aqua comes whoosing back! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 05:46 PM
Ah really??Well haven't been any texts since Saturday but I see him every day at college and have been trying to not be the one making an effort to go over and talk. Just been getting on with things but smiling back if he catches my eye... only problem is he has hundreds of friends (mostly girls!) so god knows when he will come over of his own volition again! Do you really think that will work?
Just worried about ignoring cos of that thing Linda said about it not being the best course of action... or they forget you with insulting ease...? Something like that! Thanks for the reply Lara!
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cheshirekat
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posted March 17, 2009 05:47 PM
Reminds me of my Aqua cousin, he'll go as far as to ignore phone calls and texts from a girl and he always goes, "Man..I love her I just wish she'd stop blowing up my phone."or "I'd wish she stop confusing (me time) with cheating..because Im not cheating, Im just taking a breather.."Idk if it's cause he's an Aqua or it's just him but he values his personal space but he as a crapload of friends/aquatances/admirers. He's like a backwards loner, wants to be alone but can't be alone. Though he's a pretty caring guy when it comes to just him and his girl, if she's not clingy and blowing up his phone lol. So I guess you would have to detach yourself from him, for him to become attached to you, it's strange but it seems to work with him. IP: Logged |
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From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 05:48 PM
Well yes, it's the old Aqu thing. Lara is right. Never approach an Aqu, it shows to them that you are needy and desperate. Let them do to the calling and communicating. I've had this problem with an Aqu guy once and I'm an Aqu girl. I also don't like people "pursuing" me either. If he wants you, he will get you. He has to know that he is in control or be tricked into it, so leave it up to him. Always keep your cool. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 05:58 PM
ok major tips and agreeing with 23.1. never text back straight away. Let them wonder.
2. never text first.
3. never phone unless phoning back.
4. let them call you twice before you phone back.
5. say you are busy but DONT elaborate.
6. be cool calm collected.
7. have your own life.
8. dont ask questions!!!!!
9. if they wanna go out for the night occasionally say no.
10. DONT give a reason. pretty soon you are playing it cooler than the Aqua and he will come running. when he does, be TOTALLY into him. Don't be needy but look happy to see him, wag your tails etc  and be light, fun and sexy cuddly. spontaneous is good so sometimes leave a heart on the mirror, an "X" in his shoes, sometimes text him to say "can you ring me urgent!" when he does say "i wanted to hear your voice" actually all these tips work for all men... oh, and finally....
the most important tip.
DON'T SLEEP WITH THEM FOR AT LEAST 5/6/7/8/9/10 dates.
Kiss and grope but then go home ALONE! It will drive any man wild. It's the law of attraction IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 52
From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:03 PM
Oh ok!Sound advice, guys, thank you. Yes... last Friday my Scorp friend went "He looks lonely, you should go up to him", which I wouldn't normally do (I TRY not to look too eager!) but I went up to him and I suppose, unsurprisingly, he wasn't half as focused or attentive as if he'd decided to talk to me.
Suppose he has to be in the mood!  So this definitely isn't a sure fire way of insuring he ignores me back then? I am sick of asking him out but I don't know if he will ever ask me. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:05 PM
If you go silent on him, an Aquarian will always wonder where you are and what you are doing. When it eats them up enough they reach for the phone!If they don't... well, next!!!!! Good luck! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted March 17, 2009 06:08 PM
"actually all these tips work for all men..."Hahaha! Ahh probably very true Lara! Ooo those are difficult. I'm too damn insecure for this! Well I never text back instantly but that's cos I don't check my phone! What's no. 8 mean?? Thanks Lara, nice rules  Oh well.... been distant for two days now though. Don't know if it's got me anywhere. How long does this thing take?! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:09 PM
Sorry btw, only just read your last post after I'd posted mine! Crossed wires!IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:11 PM
Nr 8 means don't ask where they've been, what they've been doing etc.
No "who, why, what, where and how" If you don't ask, they will offer up info themselves. IP: Logged |
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posted March 17, 2009 06:13 PM
Yes Lara is spot on. Fantastic advice. And I wholeheartedly agree with it being applicable for all males. Never ever sleep with a guy. Sex for them = conquest. It's a mind game, it's a war. Only the strong willed women win!IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:14 PM
yup 23. I never met a man who married a woman he slept with too soon.
One has to let the kettle boil!
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The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:17 PM
Ah it's a shame that old rule is true!What is someone meant to do if their main objective is sex though?! Hold out having sex.... to ensure the possibility of lots in the future? I've probably already given away that I want sex with him..... actually that was mutual... was this a bit of a slip up?? IP: Logged |
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posted March 17, 2009 06:21 PM
Well I can't speak for him and I'm not a guy but logic would say that saying that you wanted to sleep with him = need, which is a no-no. Never tell a guy you want to sleep with him from my experience. You have to let them know that you are to be earned.IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:27 PM
yes, you are a trophy (metaphorically) so make him do the full tennis tournament before he picks up the prize. Make him work for it! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:34 PM
Oh well probably messed that one up already then.
Thanks for the help though guys.I wish that people were straightforward and if you say "I fancy you, I want you" it didn't 'mean' something else. A need for sex doesn't equate neediness... So the best way to get sex is to pretend you don't want it? I try remember that in future. Stupid Aries Moon. Too open. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:36 PM
No the best way to get SEX is to just grab a guy lolThe best way to get LOVE and SEX is to show a guy you are worth it, and build him up till he can think of nothing else 24/7... then you can give him his prize IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:47 PM
Ohhh I want to be able to do that!Teach me all you know. My love life has been a spectacular failure so far in my young life! IP: Logged |
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posted March 17, 2009 06:53 PM
Well Lara gave you all the secrets! Simple, be a flirt, be a tease, be a player. A female player is one that doesn't put out. It's a game and play to win. Follow what Lara says and you'll always win, I've always used her strategy and no guy can ever call me or has called me a harlot or a loser LOL. They've lost, not me. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 06:54 PM
Well mine has too and i'm 40 but i've known my aqua guy for 4 months now and not slept with him and he's hitting pre-boil lolMy libran guy l stupidly did sleep with too early.... hmmm and now i'm in the position where l am not sure if he just wants me for sex or something more! He keeps coming back so maybe for a couple of dates l will go home alone and see if he gets bored or not lol I wish they'd just be honest and we could be but it never happens! IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 250
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 06:58 PM
Oh btw self-control is essential. Self worth is essential too. Self-control. Keep your sex drive under control. Absolute must. Never show your emotions, smile and flirt but never open up until later. These are all Aqu mind games but seems to be the most effective strategy of the lot. IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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From: England
Registered: Oct 2009
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posted March 17, 2009 07:10 PM
Like I said, I've already opened up!
Actually he did too a fair while ago now... we shared a bed but no sex...
He was saying how apparently his mum had always told him never to get emotional in relationships or give his emotions or something! And how I seemed different "nicer" than the other girls in college! Oh and something like he wished people could just read his mind or what he was really feeling.Well I bloody wish I could!  So reckon if I start the hard to get game now it would work after previous availability? Lara, sounds like the Libra probably does like you if he's coming back. Well, more than once always signals some kind of success I'd say. Might want 'something more' gradually perhaps..? IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted March 17, 2009 07:28 PM
yes lets hope so Mutable You want to be running the show with your man whilst he thinks he is, you see? So if he texts you he has power... then you don't reply until you want to which gives you the power again and because you wait and demand respect, when you text back it leaves him wanting to create action. So he will then maybe phone you or invite you to dinner IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted March 17, 2009 07:42 PM
Mutable Night Force, please, please, please just be yourself. If you play at something you're not, and he completely falls for you, then he wouldn't have fallen for who you really are. He will see this eventually, as you can't keep up this charade the rest of your life. If he can't see you and fall for your wonderful true qualities, then it's his loss. Don't change yourself for any man...please! IP: Logged |
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