posted March 31, 2009 04:16 AM         

I agree with your theory. I have had a nodal connection with every single man I have ever been in love with, whether it was my North Node or South Node.

And in my case, it almost always involves a Sun or Moon contact. For example:

1st Boyfriend: My NN conjuncts his Moon - we were together for 3 years in high school and eventually mutually agreed it was time to go our separate ways.

2nd Boyfriend: My NN conjuncts his Moon and his SN conjuncts my Sun/Venus - we were together for 7 years, lived together and broke up when I was 26. I didn't want it to end at the time, but once I moved out I felt a huge sense of relief that it was over.

3rd Boyfriend: My NN conjuncts his Sun - we were only together for 6 months during my Saturn Return and I knew from the beginning that it wasn't going to last, but I still think about him with love and I got alot from that relationship.

4th Boyfriend: My NN conjuncts his Sun - again, only together for 6 months but I fell really deeply in love with him. (He actually had the same b-day as #3) He's the one who ended the relationship, but I'm the one who cut the ties off completely in the end because he was holding me back in a sense. I couldn't move on from him while still remaining his friend.

5th/Current Boyfriend: My NN conjuncts his NN, my Moon (which conjuncts my own SN) also conjuncts his SN. As far as I'm concerned, it feels like this is the man I am meant to be with and he agrees (Thank God!) so although it's very early on in our relationship, it seems to me that SN contacts are indeed a supporting influence. Who better to offer a supporting influence than a lifelong partner? And a Moon aspecting a lunar node is, in my experience, a very emotionally supportive contact.

I personally feel that both nodal contacts are equally important. We need to find the balance between the two - the NN people do pull us forward toward growth and change and evolution, but we need a soft place to fall or a place to call home while we work through much of that growth. I think this is where the SN people come in.

In fact, most of the truly supportive people in my life have their Sun or Moon conjunct my SN. I don't think they hold me back at all, they just hold my hand when my NN lessons get a little too scary.

posted March 31, 2009 05:02 PM         

My 2 experiences with NN conjunct SN in synastry were very different. In the first case, my stepmother and I have this aspect and we are very good friends. Early in our relationship we has a somewhat vicious fight (very strange). After the argument we talked, reached an understanding and have been very close ever since, never to argue again.

In the other case, I dated someone for 2 months although it was a (very) long distance relationship so although we spoke on the phone constantly, we only saw one another two times. We also had some horrible arguments during our time together and that was the end of that.

posted April 01, 2009 06:46 PM         

I don't recommend it, mainly because she refuses to learn independence except when forced to at gunpoint, and her dependence makes me a lot less willing to learn how to depend on others, because it makes me want to RUN! But if either/both of us were more cooperative about learning the other's lessons, it could work well. Depends on the person.

posted April 04, 2009 10:24 AM         

With my new boss I got my Mars, Sun conjunct his NN and my Jupiter conjunct his SN.

But it's one-sided... his personal planets don't aspect any of my Lunar Nodes.

So what does that mean or how could these conjunctions play out?

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posted June 01, 2009 08:12 PM         

I don't think that he has ever held me back - in fact, I've learned a lot with him.