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Topic: Would you stop seeing someone for the sake of synastry?
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Cheshire Kat
Knowflake Posts: 147
From: Wonderland
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 21, 2009 05:05 PM
 
No, like Eve stated above me synastry aspects work differently in different situations with different people.I am pretty sure if I had a double dose of Pluto and Saturn with someone I could handle it because those two planet's energies already dominate chart. IP: Logged |
Alvarella777
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: Europe
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 21, 2009 05:47 PM
No, I wouldn't stop seeing them. Because I've had "beautiful", "strong", "fated" Synastries already - all very promising from the charts' view - but an emotional mess in real life! ;-) I also had quite a few "problematic", "loaded", "stressful" Synastries - and some of the nicest love affairs, relationships and friendships among these. ;-)I must admit: SOME aspects in a achart would make me wary - just because they turned out to create problems in my very personal, subjective experience. I'd be very careful if someone had
- his/her Venus square or oppos. his/her Jupiter
- his/her Mercury square or oppos. his/her Neptune
- his/her Saturn oppos. or square his/her Uranus and/or Pluto Too many Pisces-placements would scare me off as well, especially Mars or Mercury in Pisces - despite the fact that my own NN is in Pisces! ;-) *** edit: Oh - I missed the point a bit, sorry. As far as SYNASTRY-aspects go ... Since my own Venus is square my own Neptune already, I guess I'd put on the brakes a bit, if someone else's Neptune is squaring some of my natal planets. I'd just be ...extra-cautious. The same with conjunctions to my NN: In my experience, if you have an NN-conjunction in Synastry, the NN-person is asked to "pay his/her dues" in a way - I'd just prepare myself ... that it could become a tough and draining and exhaustive ride..;_) *** IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 99
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2009 05:56 PM
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Not if the sex is good 
 In all seriousness, you do have a point there, VirgOH. Had a relationship with someone once, he seemed interesting; he actually read books which - apparently - is hard to find among the general male population, but the sex was awesome! When he broke up I begged him to stay, who cares about synastry when the sex is good, huh? Not that our synastry was bad; our suns and mercuries sextiled, moons trined and mars (his in Scorpio, not saying that equals good sex but I have learned to this guy it equalled bondage and a fixation for power  ) sextile as well; also venus trined. Don't know his rising, but we got along nice, though. He broke it off after 3 weeks and left me with no good sex... the b*****  As for interesting lessons I've learned from synastry; here's an interesting one. I've been in two - very different - violent relationships. With the first one, I humbly admit I didn't know enough about astrology to read the signs. All I knew was that he was a Sagittarius and eventually I got his chart, but even then I didn't see the signs. Perhaps I focused on the good things too much (my mercury conjunct his sun; loads of conjuncts all-round, his moon sextile my moon). It was only after an 11 month long physical abusive relationship that I noticed where we went wrong. He was very possessive (Scorpio 7th house? Full 8th house?) and I was quite the opposite, I'm a free spirit and he had trouble accepting that, so he resorted to violence to keep me in tow. Only then I noticed that my Pluto was exactly conjunct his DC. Maybe I'm seeing something that isn't there but I pretty much blamed the Pluto aspect on his explosive violent nature towards me (he had told me afterwards that he had never been violent to anyone before me and hadn't been to anyone since.) IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 99
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2009 05:59 PM
As for composite charts, I find them very interesting too. I've always learned them to be how the world sees you as a couple and how you function as a couple. They are harder to understand, especially when you consider the individual aspect. For example a couple with mercuries square. Let's say for the sake of argument that their composite mercury is in Libra, somewhere around 15° (makes it easier for me to calculate ), and so they give off that Libra vibe as a couple. But say one person has their mercury in Cancer, the other in Capricorn. Both 1° for the sake of argument. They always argue and disagree about everything, but as a couple they come off as united minds in perfect harmony. Composite then sounds good but I wouldn't want to be in that relationship to be honest. Too much arguing to my taste.I can easily imagine that there are near-perfect composite charts out there, where the couple seems to look perfect together in every aspect, but when you look at the synastry it's all squares and opposites and arguments and tension. Unless you like that kind of thing (which my chart apparently does; it sees those things as "challenges"! A rose by any other name... ) you wouldn't survive in such a relationship even if you tried.
... A bit of anecdotal info from my side; my chart gets bored easily with trines and sextiles. Perhaps not as much sextiles, but I honestly never been attracted in any way by people who I've had more trines with. I suppose that's to be expected from someone with a chart that contains only conjunctions, squares and opposites.
Also, if I had to look for the perfect synastry, what should I keep in mind? Someone with similar individual aspects for certain? With similar aspects in the synastry so I would feel comfortable with the situations we place ourselves in? Or should I go for the traditional "good" aspects? Obviously, as some people here have said, a "good" aspect doesn't necessarily mean you're going to work out...
But that said, I do have quite a few sextiles and a trine with my boyfriend. Complete with an interesting opposition and interesting placements in the houses. We fight, and when we do it gets intense (also considering my Pluto square Mars, which could be explosive when the right buttons are pushed, in combination with his Scorpio rising - conjunct my Pluto - which knows exactly which buttons to push) but generally we get along nicely. To be honest, if it hadn't been for the fighting (a challenge to subdue that) and his personal issues, I don't think we'd have made it through the first couple of weeks. If there weren't those challenges, I'd have given up on him because of his drinking habit; it was very bad. Thank god we did make it through, because what I'm left with now is a fantastic boyfriend who is kind of a klutz in a cute way, but sometimes extremely understanding (dealing with a girlfriend with borderline and bad PMS is certainly not a walk in the park!) and who's always been here for me. At least he never wanted to run off, which is quite an achievement in its own right since I seem to drive boyfriends off after only a few weeks. Perhaps his Taurus DC has something to do with that? If I'd have listened to those people who said "run for the hills" after seeing our Mars opposing Venus synastry, I'd have missed all that I have now. IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 172
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2009 06:28 PM
Well no. I think life and a person can still teach you a few things even if things go wrong and you part eventually. You are shutting yourself from life lessons if you do that and from experiences and people really.Just because I have bad synastry with someone doesn't mean that it can't work. I have the worst synastry in the world with my mum for example and it was a rocky relationship but we love each other and we can conquer it. What I am saying is it depends on how one handles themselves in a relationship.* Astrology might give you some advice as to what might be an issue but sorry folks, it ain't the be all and end of life and if you think it is, then you are cheating yourself out of a fluid and REAL life. * If parties have respect for each other and have the time to resolve issues then it will happen. Unfortunately, given that a lot people are really egotistical and don't give enough time to others in the modern world, then synastry might dictate.
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savanna20
Knowflake Posts: 55
From: ca
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2009 06:33 PM
Not really. I would contact the vedic astrologer to give me a second opinion. Then, I would analyze it and see for myself. IP: Logged |
ScorpioCentaur
Knowflake Posts: 16
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2009 08:17 PM
Huge astrology believer here and I have always followed the synastry rules when I was prospecting a new love interest. I'm a scorp sun and venus and have always seemed to just wind up with taureans. But, those relationships obviously didnt work out since they are over..tho one did last for 6 years. And then I met a guy who I had crazy synastry with who I hit it off with so well and nothing ever materialized. So then I started to be more open minded and decided that I should give everyone a chance even if the synastry wasnt quite right...This led me to my last ex (full of Leo)..the old me wouldnt even have gotten involved but the new me gave it a chance and it literally ended in total catastrophe.
So, I have learned my lesson..stick by the astrological rules because they exist for a reason. I won't make that mistake again.IP: Logged | |
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