posted June 17, 2009 09:40 PM         

I agree with comica, if i got u right. Somtimes, synastry is good but feeling is not there for psychological reasons, or because the planet/point aspected is a source of problems.

posted June 17, 2009 09:59 PM         

exactly

I already mentioned in another thread

I wouldn't want anybody's planet conjunct my Moon

because it
squares my retrograde Saturn in Gemini in 9th
squares my Jupiter-Neptune in Sagittarius in 3rd

so it aggravates my t-square

if its a close conjunction to my Moon,
it opposes my Saturn/Neptune midpoint

posted June 17, 2009 10:12 PM         

There are zillions of people in the world, most of whom we will never meet, and each of our charts have 12 houses.

Mathematically, we have synastry with everyone in the whole world, and if you just look at the charts, it looks equal. For example, everyone's Sun and Eros and Venus--in the whole entire world!!--is going to fall into my houses.

But if the drunk on the corner who harasses me's Sun falls in my 7th house, three people (or more) on Lindaland's Suns fall in my 7th house, and my lover's Sun falls in my 7th house, I'm going to care about the dynamic with my lover. I mean, if I have great synastry with a girl who served me drinks once in a British pub I never visited again, it just isn't that important in my life. NO MATTER HOW GREAT THE SYNASTRY. Just mathematically, we will all have intense and meaningful synastry with many human beings we will not end up caring about in this world. It might be different if we were locked in a prison cell with that person, but in free daily life we don't choose to get emotionally intimate with everyone.

I don't think house overlays, or any other astrological factor, fully accounts for unrequited relationships. Every person has an equal chart...we all have the same planets, 12 houses, etc...but situations in the world, such as class and other social heirarchies, geography, beauty ideals, logistics, mean that every connection will not be equally important to us.

Also, we look at synastry or composites between TWO people (not three or four or eight or five million, at least not all at the same time.) If you look at Person A's natal and his synastry with Person B, it will tell you what he is likely to look for in a relationship and what his relationship to B would be like if he chose to get to know her. But even if they have "SoulMate" synastry, maybe he also has amazingly strong synastry with persons C-Z, and maybe he chooses to put all his energy into one of those relationships while B sits around and pines for him....EVEN THOUGH if they were trapped together in a jail cell, he would explore the relationship with B.

OR maybe her cystic acne is such a turnoff to him as a Sun Sign Libra/Leo Venus that even though their synastry would look amazing to any astrologer, he's just not interested. Some people would argue that the charts would show his sense of her beauty or ugliness...but charts will only show tendencies, not always details like that. The map, not the territory.

OR, maybe he is much much higher status than she is...this would be indicated in their natal, but not shown conclusively or for sure.

This does not mean that astrology isn't accurate or useful, just that it can't be used in SUCH a simplistic and deterministic way.

posted June 17, 2009 10:27 PM         

great wisdom!