posted August 11, 2009 07:23 PM         

Also, what about what's in the natal charts? For instance I have Moon/Uranus opposition but I never have cheated or wanted to when with someone I am committed to. I'm involved with someone who has the same aspect, so naturally the composite has it. Everything is new, so who knows... however, I do think it has to do with what feels right and what doesn't. The Uranus influence might feel exciting to some or too erratic to others.
I don't like boring, stagnant relationships. I do prefer a solid connection, but also need my own individuality honored and to have fun. Too much 'we, we, we' in relationship makes me gag. I detest that level of Bopsie Twin syndrome. But that's just me.
I think it's important to take natal aspects into consideration.

Sometimes the Uranus stuff is just unconventional relationship stuff... to where you both structure the relationship as you go along, on your own terms.

posted August 12, 2009 12:48 PM         

his Uranus opp. my Moon.

My Mars opp. his Pluto: One day it could be love, one day it could be indifference, from my side or his.

posted August 12, 2009 10:19 PM         

Also, his Pluto sitting right on her 7th house cusp might actually give him the upper hand. That kind of means he will need to use his 'power' for good... it just says that he might be able to manipulate her needs ruthlessly if he's not careful, and if he's not merciful.

Also, would say that while the 7th house is the house of partnership/marriage, it's not a guarantee of happiness...remember that the 7th is also the house of open enemies.
I had my Sun and stellium in my ex-husband's 7th house, my Sun right on his vertex.... but I can assure it was not easy, and things ended badly between us. The marriage was NOT smooth. He also had some highly Uranian stuff in his chart but tried too hard to do things in a conventional way, and it made him and I miserable.

I may have Moon/Uranus, but as much as it makes relationships 'hard', it's not really about on/off (I've only had ONE on/off relationship in my life, and I am in my 30's)... it's more about the enjoyment of intense emotion that comes on suddenly. Uranus is electric, and is about generating buzz and electricity. Someone with that aspects needs EXCITEMENT and intensity, period.
Sometimes if they're not able to infuse it properly into a relationship or be aware/conscious of it, it will manifest in unsavory ways.... as in, the feeling of on/off relationships, ones which have a very strong 'honeymoon' period where things feel so intense and exciting, but then slip back into a very bad pattern.
Or, it might become an unrequited love thing, to where the person gets 'hooked' on that love feeling, but yet can't seem to make it solid enough. Remember, the moon is a source of familiarity in the chart. If Uranus is touching that moon , it means that excitement (and not necessarily stability) is what comes first.
Stability comes with time and with building a relationship in small steps.

So I would say that she should dump him - he brings her misery. I don't care how good the house synastry looks. A person who consistently treats you like crap isn't someone you want in your life
Her own self-esteem is more the issue here than the synastry...synastry isn't going to make up for the issues she has. She needs to focus on ways to make herself happy, and excited. She needs to BE the exciting person, so that she has something EXCITING to offer the other person (especially if they're Uranian too).