posted August 22, 2009 07:48 AM         

here in my country,both Mia Rose and Ana Free started very very young and on Youtube!theu utilized the internet to spread their talent.and they didnt waited for things to come up to them...

i know it is difficult for you but..you cannot stagnate your dreams only to be with the person you love.SACRIFICING yourself for the sake of a relationship it is not the best way to maintain Love.cause once you do that,sooner or later one of you will resent that,normally the one who did the sacrifice.

and even if i may sound harsh or egoic - you must think of your happiness firts,your dreams and follow them.Love is not sacrifice.

Love embodies patience,trust,comprehension,truth,honesty..

Believe me:if you two manage to deal with distance,with missing the other and still wanting to be with each other,knowing that you are both striving for your own dreams...then you will maintain the Love you have.

im long distance with my bf and we have 3 years of relationship.We are striving for our own dreams,but always with our eyes directed to a living together life,when Life gets better and stabilized.

Did our Love staganted or died?NO!It is even stronger and wiser.

Explain to your bf everything you feel.everything your Soul is making you feel/directing you to some other place.

If he understands that;if he is willing to support you...then...only then you know how much strong your love is.

posted August 22, 2009 11:39 AM         

"Your advice seems like a no-brainer, but it's significantly easier said than done in any artistic profession- especially when it deals with performing. The pressure would surprise you.."

not sure what you meant there? why would the pressure surprise me?

i fully understand the advice to get in there and don't waste any time. i am merely saying that 19 is not as old as a 19 year old thinks. i disagree COMPLETELY with people who say you have to rush things, especially when saturn is in your 1st house. timing is everything.

if i had pushed into music at 19 i would have been an "old lady" at 30, and indeed i would have been too far ahead of my time to hit my mark. as it was i got into music "late" but it was EXACTLY the RIGHT time. instead of spending years bashing against granite walls i was off and running in a minute.

posted August 22, 2009 03:27 PM         

I'm just saying that, as an actress who just turned 19, i can honestly say i feel old. In the professional world at least. I look at some of my peers who have been acting since they were in the womb basically, and feel like i pale by comparison.

.. how do i explain this? It's like a clock is ticking. Kinda like how women feel that "biological clock" ticking for having children. There's a certain time frame where there are the BEST choices available. You're young, you're energetic, you're beautiful, you're the definition of youth. That's what they want. That's what "sells". I don't just mean in a Hollywood-famous way. I mean in any kind of performing business. Thousands of artists are talented, but thousands of artists don't get jobs, do they?

I'm not in this for the glory. I'm in it for the expression. But just as i am a dreamer, i also HAVE to be rational. It will be much more difficult for me to find work if i wait until i'm 35 to start. I'm not saying it's impossible, i just think it would be more challenging. Heck, some of my FAVORITE actors didn't start until they were 28, 30 years old! That's fabulous.

posted August 22, 2009 04:18 PM         

of course 1st house saturn doesn't mean be invisible. it is just my nature to advise against "popular wisdom" as the people i admire CHANGED the mold rather than fit into it. and saturn in the first IS a good time to do groundwork but it may PROTRACT or slow down one's progress in order to give you plenty of roots before you take off!

posted August 22, 2009 11:49 PM         

I just realized that Saturn is transiting through my 10th house! LMAO! NO wonder...

So my explanation isn't unfounded.

Which, you already know, as you are a creative person yourself. I am sincerely sorry if i touched a nerve in you. I didn't mean to. I'm sure you know the ugliness and pressure that can be spewed out by the show business industry. But hey, what can you do?

posted August 23, 2009 03:31 AM         

you can use the pressure to measure how strong you are. i just wanted to say that no matter what anybody says or thinks, there are no DEADLINES to breaking in. if you really want to be doing it, you will, no matter where you are, and when you "get there" is irrelevant.

to me!

and I don't want to offend geo who is a brilliant astrologer! it's not my completely isolated opinion that saturn in second can actually manifest as GOOD financial circumstances that help you BUILD your inner resources. it did happen to me, though, and it does happen to others. still hard work though!

posted August 23, 2009 07:36 AM         

People with the "it" factor are few and far between. Unless you have the "it" factor, there is room for improvement. And if you have the "it" factor, there is still room for improvement because there will always be someone who is better and worse than you.

Follow your heart.

May I ask where you are living now?

posted August 23, 2009 02:39 PM         

Geocosmic Valentine, thank you for being so blunt and honest! No sense in sugarcoating anything right? I definitely understand what you're saying about me being the right age RIGHT NOW! This is why I'm really beginning to feel the pressure! I know I need to be there now because I am in my prime and I won't be that way forever!

Diandra_Robinson, I'm very happy to hear that you and your bf are still together and stronger than ever despite the 3 yr long distance relationship! Knowing that gives me hope that not EVERY long distance relationship hinders the connection and eventually leads to heart-ache... I guess it CAN be done!

And this may be some miscommunication on my part, but I'm not "giving up my dream" to be with my bf. He knows that I will pursue it and he is supportive of that fact. We've been planning to move to the city but first have to save up some money b/c we just cannot afford it on our current budget. He promised to help me with the saving even though that happens to be one of his biggest flaws, being an extremely impulsive spender. I know that this is very difficult for him but he's been working on himself and putting in quite a bit of effort to help me save up. I am proud to say that he has made some tremendous strides in this department since we've been together. The issue is not whether or not I will pursue my dream, but rather, simply a question of "WHEN." I'm getting restless and that could just be in part due to my immaturity of being a 19 yr old. Who knows.

posted August 23, 2009 02:41 PM         

One of the reasons that I'm inclined to think this way is because of a series of recent tarot readings. I've had SEVERAL done on the question "what will happen if I pursue acting?" and the results were a bit grounding. The reading told me that although my passion for the performing arts is true and and my will is strong, my experience and maturity level are just not quite up to par. Basically saying that I'm just "too young" and not ready yet. The Universe card inverted came up as my final outcome several times! I was aghast! How can I be TOO YOUNG?? I'm already 19! The reader reaffirmed that's what the cards were saying though. The interesting thing is, whenever I was in DC (just a few months ago) I was in a theatre there and also was doing modeling on the side... everything just seemed like it was rolling along... but... oddly enough, nothing really transpired. Could this be the Saturn in 1st?

meta_4 I'm sure being a 19 yr old your self, you know where I'm coming from. How long have you been pursuing your acting career? Unfortunately, yes, what "sells" is youth, but then again one thing I've made very clear to myself is that I don't want to be cast just for that. In fact, I really dislike that I'm usually type-cast as an ingenue or "love interest" by directors. I like to play roles that are completely out of character for me, and that stretch my acting limits and broaden my horizons. For instance, one time I had the unique pleasure of being cast as Peter Pan in a play at school. Yes, nothing extraordinary compared to most professional productions, but it was the most rewarding, and challenging experience for me thus far. I have no idea why I got cast for that role... I'm as girly as they get! I only own one pair of flat shoes! lol I'm not so concerned with "making it." I just want to be known for my talent sans looks and all that, and be able to make a decent living. Fame is not that important to me.

Aka Kat- I live in Southern West Virginia...

So the problem lies in that now I feel, well, a bit torn. I've received excellent advice from two very opposing points of view. On the one hand, part of me is yearning to just break free and "go for it!" Like what GEO,meta_4,and Diandra have said. Not to mention, moving in with my dad would be easier: I wouldn't have to rely on myself to pay for all the bills and rent working 5-6 days a week 40 hrs a week, I could do more things in the area that he lives... BUT since when does easier equal better?? On the other hand, Belage and katatonic are telling me that it would be wise to work on myself and prepare so that I would "have" something to show of myself when I did finally pursue my dream... but then my concern is, would it be too late? Or is everything in the universe set up in a way that nothing that occurs in our lives is too early or late, but rather ON TIME?

posted August 23, 2009 03:45 PM         

"Making it" doesn't mean being "famous". Doesn't mean being rich. Or having a 25 page-long resume.

"Making it" means being successful. And success is setting a goal, and achieving it.

So if your goal is to be taken seriously, then make it happen. Stop talking about it, pining over it, thinking, questioning, wishing for it, and just do it. If all you do is dream about it happening, then that's all it is- a dream. Something unreal.

And any way, the whole point of acting is to portray someone, truthfully, who ISN'T you. So it shouldn't matter if YOU are as girly as they come. If you want to play a chubby, ugly, mass murderer, then do it. Prove to everyone you have the passion and dedication and ability to be that character. Learn and create your character, research, invest, and turn your emotional and physical body INTO this person.

But at the same time, you have to have the drive. Having people around you telling you that you can be an actor, doesn't mean you will be an actor. You have to perservere and literally give up almost everything in your life to attain success. You have to face rejection, and spend money, and lose money, and lose weight, and gain weight, and travel, and blah blah blah. You know all this.

Kevin Spacey once said, "Wanting it is not enough." And let me tell you, as someone who has just recently gotten a taste of the professional world, he is absolutely right. It's not enough. If you're going to be an actor, you will have to live for it. Period.

posted August 23, 2009 06:40 PM         

you're right EE, when the time is right it will "happen" but till then just find any avenue that works for you...big or small doesn't matter, but what's available is your first option.

posted August 25, 2009 10:13 AM         

It has not been taken for granted... After much soul searching and pondering, I've come up with a difficult decision:

For right now I'm going to stick with the advice of Saturn being in my 1st as a time for preparation... This has always been very
difficult for me so potentially, it may be the lesson that I'm supposed to learn from the transit. I'm notorious for jumping head first into things on a complete whim with no thought for the consequences. Maybe this is what it means to "mature," and maybe this is what old man Saturn wants me to do at the moment.

But just like you said aka Kat, nothing's truly set in stone and I can always change my mind

posted September 09, 2009 06:09 AM         

I work on feature films....and I absolutely, totally agree with Geocosmic.

You are definitely in the wrong place and wrong state of mind to pursue this kind of career. Many people dont survive in film because they're unwilling to give up a normal lifestyle/security...or just dont have the financial means to continue pursuing it. The majority who've lasted have all sacrificed relationships for career at some point or another. I can also tell you that on set, about 95% of people are divorced or just cheating on their spouses. Especially if your just trying to get in at 19, it's gonna be tough unless you've got killer talent plus some hookups.....or your just drop dead gorgeous. I myself have been told many times by directors/mentors that I should never place priority in relationships...they tell me dont even bother getting married or having kids until I'm ancient. I pretty much entirely gave up on my love/social life the past few years to hone my skills and battled tooth'n nail to get into the industry. Yet, it's still.....very......difficult!!

posted September 09, 2009 01:43 PM         

the list is practically endless. the newmans are an obvious example of people who stayed married happily through decades in the business...

posted September 09, 2009 03:26 PM         

The actress that Katatonic is talking about is Katherine Hepburn, however, she was an incredibly rich Connecticut socialite who's parents had millions of connections in the entertainment industry, so yes, she could do what she wanted.

posted September 09, 2009 03:39 PM         

meta has a point - she wants to be a famous actress, she has a lot of competition and needs to be on her game strong and early to meet her goals..

geo has a point - you can always get a boob job and sleep your way into the good roles...avantageous entrupreners.(sp)..no more wrong than marrying well on purpose.

so i guess it depends on exactly what you want and exactly how bad you want it..

if you want it real bad, no one horse town is gonna hold you for long...

you are young, follow your heart, the rest will fall into place as it should.