posted August 30, 2009 03:57 PM         

it seems that fixed signs need to keep things going and steady. scorpios get jealous but generally hide it. they are emotion, so that is their way of reacting when what they want to keep steady is threatened. taurus is more possessive than jealous, but this can extend into jealousy, however being earth, it isn't the primary m.o. it's like a thick sense of wanting to hold on in the heart, to hold on physically, not so much the sting of jealousy that scorpio experiences internally. aquarius is attached to thought about the thing and needs to mentally find and keep that thing that is special and worth thinking about going. it gets jealous, in theory okay deep down there is jealousy, but it can always be rationalized and thus isn't overwhelming. so

posted August 30, 2009 04:05 PM         

I know there have been a few times where I've simply walked away from people because I didn't feel like I was getting what I was putting into the relationship or I felt like I was being replaced or was no longer needed.

posted August 30, 2009 04:31 PM         

(Immature) Leos sometimes struggle with possessiveness (all the fixed signs have this, I think) and a sense of entitlement, inflated ego, and pride. When I was a wee teen Leo, for example, if a man I was interested in but not involved with hooked up with a beautiful, successful model or starlet, I would be LESS jealous and angry than if he hooked up with a girl I thought was less beautiful than me. I'd be all furious, like "She doesn't deserve that because cshe's not good enough!!!" or "He's insulting and infuriating me because his hooking up with her implies that I'M average!!!"

I outgrew this pretty much before I hit age 20 (not to say that I am a mature Leo yet, just that I have learned that my ego does not bring me happiness and fun, which are the real Leo priorities), but I know a couple of adult Leos who have a muted version of that kind of pride/snobbery.

Not-yet-mature Leos also have to struggle with jealousy/envy/wounded pride at any indication that the universe does not revolve around them. Because often when we are wee lions, the world DOES revolve around our necessary light...then we learn that our whole solar system, in which we do play the lead role, is one of MANY solar systems in a vast, infinite universe.

posted August 30, 2009 04:34 PM         

I'll have to do some more research on Leo and jealously, because my special friend is a Leo Sun with Leo Ascendant and Scorpio moon, which seems like a combo full of jealous inclinations, but I haven't witnessed this side of him and hopefully I never will. But I tend to leave details out that would, perhaps, make him jealous, lol!

posted August 30, 2009 04:52 PM         

yeah lucia, i'm trying to tap into the positives of leo. don't need no wobbly fourth leg thanks for all that food for thought.

it's making me think that balancing the polarities really is necessary. leo's givingness can only really transpire when it has the detachment and lack of ego of aquarius and aquarius needs to summon and allow that warmth to infuse its detachment with purpose and joy.

in terms of jealousy and pride, i think i'm looking to balance out my t-square from its automatic sense of having to keep things stable and the same against all odds. my silly 4th house moon, progressed moon in cancer and pisces SN make me too emotional when things aren't samesame (which my taurus moon craves) and my aquarius sun is too darn detached and okay with everything, when the day is done. my uranus scorpio exactly opposing my moon just wants to run away or change things when things aren't as stable as i want them to be (very paradoxical). i want to be full of life and sunshiny resilience. what i'm feeling is a need FOR pride, but the good kind, i think. a strong sense of self. it's happening bit by bit but i think i need leo perspectives to really get a better sense of that energy.

posted August 30, 2009 06:31 PM         

When it comes to men, I can be a little too laid back maybe because I am a(n unintentional) flirt too. I actually think it is cute when the guy I am with flirts or shows a little arrogance (Leo rules my 7th and the Sun is there too) I am the type that joins in! Not in a sexual way, but in a playful way (Leos are known to “flirt” with both men and women). I don’t feel threatened because if you don’t want me, leave. The Aquarius in me has it intellectualized like that. When I was younger and just started dating, this wasn’t always the case. I didn’t get crazy or anything but we all live and we learn. Saturn is in my 8th so I have control over jealousy (yay, another good thing about Saturn!).

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popcorn, i have 8th house saturn too. i think it tempers the jealousy quite a bit.

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I saw this just before I posted and had to add it! Agreed!

posted August 31, 2009 09:39 AM         

sometimes..yes i feel the jealousy taking control over me...i think it is more a need of attention?and that if i dont get it,i feel less than others.

it is a problem of self-esteem i guess.

but i was much more like that when i was a teen.

regarding relationships:i trust my bf and i know i dont have to be jealous of other girls..i just dont like when thet hit at him,just to see if he wants it or not...

posted August 31, 2009 09:40 PM         

popcorn, i think you're right. although sometimes i suffer moments of terrifying jealousy. tends to point me back toward my self worth though, so it's good.

downtomars, you totally hit the nail on the head for me with this: " If anyone has something close to what I want then I like them to act like a mentor, not as a rival. You can’t learn from rivalry, and I am big on the learning thing" i totally agree with this!!

diandra, thanks.. i'm thinking about the need for attention and at what level it is healthy and relates to confidence, and where it is not such a good thing. i tend to not want attention in general, but then once in a while i ache to be seen and loved for glorious me!