posted November 04, 2009 02:35 AM         

a Cancer with Cappy moon, Gemini venus, Libra mars, gemini merc,

act like this ? :

Well, maybe he's so moody that his ideas change from hour to hour but to me, he is just a typical guy who promises more than he can deliver.

The problem here is, all I want from him is, and I've made this clear from the start, a very casual relationship. Most guys would be fine with that. And I can see that this guy, with whom I have a very sick and twisted and hot bond right now, is happy about it too.

However, every time we meet, before sex, which couldn't get any better -thanks to him !- he does this little drama thing. He starts talking about how he wants to cook for me and how he wants to meet me so that we can just talk ( he can't just accept that it's just for sex ?), and then he says I'm giving off stressful vibes and when I say I want him to stay and that I do like him and I don't know why he is taking such vibes from me, he makes me beg him to stay !!!! or get up and stop him from putting his coat on !!!! and it turns him on !!!!

This is seriously driving me nuts. I don't know why he's doing stuff like this. Can't we just have great sex and not have to go through such awkwardness

What do you think is causing this ? is it the gemini ?

I have scorpio sun,aries moon,libra venus, virgo mars, sag merc, cancer asc

I don't know his ascendant, but it could be leo,scorp or gemini.. virgo ?

posted November 04, 2009 02:49 AM         

However, both his Mars and Venus signs are Air. The purely physical won't be as satisfactory for him as other combinations.

posted November 04, 2009 06:15 AM         

He doesn't want me to say directly 'let's meet and have sex'

But when we meet, and I ask about his day, he says it's not fun so let's forget about it. So we start talking about other stuff. Nothing I bring up or we bring up satisfies him. And it reaches a point where he starts thinking I don't like him and he says maybe I should leave, but apparently, he doesn't.

I have to be the one asking for him to stay, even though we both know he wants that as well. And right after that he is very much turned on and tuned in.

And he is 27, he has been in long term relationships before so I don't know. I need less stress but I want it to go on.

posted November 04, 2009 01:50 PM         

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What do you think is causing this ? is it the gemini ?

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Nope, it's the CANCER!

I think he does like you, but he's at that point where if you advance, he'll retreat, if you retreat, he'll advance (emotionally, I mean)...ughhh. I think he's testing.

posted November 04, 2009 02:20 PM         

When we were together I rarely felt satisfied, more bored as there was no real emotional, affectional or intellectual bond.

Also, he wasn't able to turn me on at ease, we tried, tried ...but at the same time the tensions between us grew and grew..
So, there developed this very unhealthy & unsatisfying kind of foreplay, because simply; there wasn't another way WITH HIM to make it work!
It was only working in terms of going/not going/begging and rough in almost sadistic spheres.

I was so unhappy, sooo afraid that I would became or WAS a sadist/masochist, that it was just part of ME that I had to deal with, and that there wasn't ever a way back to a normal satisfying f-live.

Now I know there was.... (euh..not with him ofcourse)

Astrological?

posted November 04, 2009 06:32 PM         

Lucia- I couldn't have described the nature of the relationship better myself It somehow turned into a little ego war I think. It's surprising though to watch everything change for better or worse so I can say that I'm enjoying it.

Mir- I guess the tension between us hasn't reached that explosive point yet. I really hate it but he is the one causing it by not telling me directly what it is that he wants. I want us to be equals- he secretly wishes to be superior I'm afraid. So childish.