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Topic: I hated him from the second I met him
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hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 06:22 PM
Diana - he was nagging... and argumentative. I hate having to get through that for hours so i eventually gave in.IP: Logged |
Diana Knowflake Posts: 937 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 06:46 PM
Couldn't you have just gotten up and left? I don't understand...IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 06:49 PM
Obviously, I could but i felt guilty to have made him travel so late at night to tell him: 'you know i really think i hate you.'IP: Logged |
Diana Knowflake Posts: 937 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 06:52 PM
I wouldn't have, ha! You're not obligated to sleep with someone you don't like just because they travelled. I think you hate him more now that you've slept with him for that reason.
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hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 07:19 PM
I know what you mean Diane I resisted men for YEARS... then lately I don't understand I find myself much too easy and nice for my own good.... IP: Logged |
Diana Knowflake Posts: 937 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 07:33 PM
Hmmm. I wonder why?I just can't sleep with someone I don't like. I wouldn't be mean about turning them down, but I would have to turn them down. Are you having a weird neptune transit? ETA: It looks like tPluto is on your nNep in the 8th. tNep may be square your aqua planets but I can't see degrees, so I don't know. IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 08:25 PM
Possibly, but i'm not here to put my life or my relationships back into question. It's a phase I'm going through and i'll get over it at some point.Personally sleeping with him bugged him, but not so much as the fact that I can hate a man i don't know so much ...the way i do. Sex in this case was without any feelings, I would be more bugged if i'd written something along the lines of I loved him, he slept with me and he dumped me (it has happened once in my life and there sex was the issue). In this case I don't understand how i can hate someone... IP: Logged |
Diana Knowflake Posts: 937 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 09:36 PM
Well it obviously bugs you. I wouldn't care, personally. Not enough to make a post about him and not enough to passionately hate him. I think you need to figure out what's going on or you will keep doing this. I think it bothers you that you slept with him, but you don't want to look into it and admit it. IP: Logged |
Musette Knowflake Posts: 69 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 09:39 PM
You were in a vulnerable position and that worries me on your behalf. I'm have no interest in questioning your life or relationships, but I would like to say I hope you take care to remain safe in all types of situations (not just romantic). As for the animosity, I looked for Saturn, Moon and Mars problems. His Asc square your Moon shows his persona can irritate you emotionally, in a way you can't express in words. His Venus and Sun square your Mars, which means his core self and romantic self irritate your Mars, which can make you feel irrationally aggressive. I'm going to also propose that his Uranus conjunct your Moon doesn't work for you because it brings out instability in your own emotions. Really, I think this is a Moon issue for you and that's why you don't understand it and can't express it verbally or logically. Mars problems are generally more direct, and not as much time is spent on a Mars disconnect. With the Moon, there's emotional backtracking on the whys of the misconnections. With Mars, there's more of an attitude of "I just don't like them. End of story." The most irritating person I've had the displeasure of being around has their Saturn conjunct my Moon. That particular aspect activates my haterade so strongly that I feel uncomfortable with both them and myself. IP: Logged |
Nine Knowflake Posts: 272 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2009 09:52 PM
As I suspected, pVenus oppose pMars across the desire (Taurus-Scorpio) axis. This is an applying aspect, meaning things will get hotter, in love or war. IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 06, 2009 02:13 PM
Well.... i didn't think of the venus mars opposition. I had it with someone else but it was in our natals...
I liked him didn't hate him. IP: Logged |
Venus De Milo Knowflake Posts: 45 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 01:55 AM
This definitely sounds karmic.You guys have some interesting squares and I think uranus is giving you this erratic energy in your synastry. Just chalk it up to experience and write it off. IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 08:23 AM
Hi venus,I don't know but it's very EXTREMELY rare for me not to like someone (there are times when i don"t trust someone but i still try and be open minded). Though there, I could tell there was something bothering me... I still haven't found out what it was but oh well. I cut it with him and he doesn't seem to mind either. He did say something when we were together that he might want to hit me one day if it was to become 'like that'. I don't want complexity... i want someone to be free with. IP: Logged |
DD Knowflake Posts: 2123 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 09:06 AM
WEll, seriously. what he said about eventually hitting you. That doesn`t sound healthy to me at all. Probably that feeling of "hating him" is some kind of instinct or even psychic "survival instinct"?I once have been communicating with a guy from an astro forum over several weeks, even months. We even were talking for hours on the phone on subsequent days. It was a fascinating communication, and I learned so much during this time (even though when I had been reading his very first post, I had an unpleasant feeling in my stomach; like usually I suppressed it, as "sillyiness"). Anyway so we were getting along greatly, really liking each other I thought. Turns out he is living in the city I have been living as a child, and we agreed to meet in the city nearby, where I had been born (and currently am living, moved there after that meeting though). It was not a date, just exchanging some books and so on and a bit chitchatting. Anyway, so he turned up, and there were a million alarmbells ringing in my head, sirens, glaring lights. Everything. And I knew I should get away from there as quickl as possible. Which I did. I never really understood what had happened there. He seemed a genuine, nice guy, still at that meeting, yet, first of all I thought he was the ugliest person I have ever seen (I NEVER judge like this, and I think it wasn`t really his looks, there was something else that made me react like this), which apparently had not been his reaction to me, as he called me five minutes after our meeting to tell me I was having the most beautiful hair he had ever seen. lol Anyway, I felt I was being highly unfair to this nice guy, but there was no way to NOT trust into my gutinstinct. So een though feeling like been a complete ******* I cut all contact to him instantly. Maybe it was karmic, too. I don`t know. I didn`t want to stick around to find out HOW karmic it could get. Just had that feeling of imminent danger around him, I donīt know. And as I said I was being unfair, probably. He had never been anything but nice to me. But I think sometimes, when your instincts tell you to run, you better do exactly this.
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blue moon Knowflake Posts: 1180 From: U.K Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 10:06 AM
Flicking through this 2nd page and the exchange with hanakin and Diana I thought: hanakin must have an Air Mars sign. The reasons hanakin gives for this posting on this thread makes perfect sense in the context of Libran Mars. So why did she dislike him so much? A Solar Arc movement or progression might be kicking all this off, maybe it has been covered, sorry if someone else has already suggested this possibility. Something volatile like Mars/Pluto. IP: Logged |
emma_duncan Knowflake Posts: 77 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 02:12 PM
hey Hanakin how did u come to know this guy? and how long did u talk to him b4 meeting? how were your feelings toward him before meeting in person.I am thinking maybe you didnt like something abt him during those pre-meeting communication, and sub-consciously something was nagging you.but maybe you are in a vulnerable position in yr life right now, so u kept going on in the direction, in which you feel u shld not. IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 07, 2009 05:55 PM
Bluemoon : indeed I have a mars in libra...i don't especially understand this strange half venusian half marsian energy i am a venusian at sun, plus i have a stellium in libra. My venus, is in aries. Not very good. I understand exactly what you mean DD, a friend told me i was unfair... but i could tell and i can feel he wants something intense and destroying.
I am not looking for that (hence why i have dated most aquarians and leos in my life)... I do believe that the vneus mars opposition is really strong between us. There was no sweetness IP: Logged |
DD Knowflake Posts: 2123 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 08, 2009 05:26 AM
Hanakin,from what you tell me I think you made exactly the right decision in not getting involved with him any deeper. We really should trust our instincts more.
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hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 08, 2009 06:22 PM
Emma: Well not so long, he sort of found me and asked me out instantly.I'm foreign and he apparently likes foreign looking people. He's quite... uranian in a way though (that I liked though). Maybe, according to a friend the fact that he asked me out saying 'I hope I'll fall in love with you' bugged me and that's why I was cold with him.
DD - I'm pretty sure I was right moving away from that person... He might be a good guy, and I got the worse out of him but seriously I want cosy tea and crumpets in my beautiful back garden with a guy, not the dirty underworld on fire.
I have mars conjunct venus in RS...venus being back in its natal position... in house 9 is that a wrong sign?
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emma_duncan Knowflake Posts: 77 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 08, 2009 09:39 PM
ahaanhey like other ppl are saying always trust yr instincts ppl u hate instantly have a potential to greatly hurt u, and god (if u believe in him) or universe or our body is warning us .... stay safe girl IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 22, 2009 05:49 PM
hi again everyone, i'm staying safe far away from that guy but i'm still totally enthralled.I am beating myself at it since a huge part of me wants more of it. It's like... being attracted to the ground when being on the top of the building. I don't know what to do ... is this the usual venus in taurus mars in scorpio link? IP: Logged |
mercuranian Knowflake Posts: 141 From: the 12th house Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 22, 2009 06:04 PM
maybe its your mars in scorpio? I have mars (and venus) square pluto and i can totally relate to that. Do you have pluto making aspects in your chart or between you two?IP: Logged |
hanakin Knowflake Posts: 144 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted November 22, 2009 06:09 PM
Hi,I'm the venus in aries (progressed in taurus....). he's the mars in scorpio... Well right now i have pluto transiting squaring my mars..?? IP: Logged |