posted November 12, 2009 09:32 AM         

One person says he doesn't rate your chart, so you find some different versions to try and equal that out. Maybe you need to work on your self-confidence so you don't feel the need to do that - did you question his judgement when he made that answer or did you just assume he knows better than you do? You're in the relationship, you know whether or not it has potential to make you both happy.

posted November 12, 2009 10:08 AM         

But the problem is that every astrologer has his own perceptions and probably doesn`t see the "whole truth".

And as long as there are so many gaps in astrological knowledge (and there still are HUGE gaps), we really should take every interpretationw ith more than a grain of salt.

And in the end it all depends on you. I agree with BM, let your heart decide.
I don´t think astrology is a good deciding tool, it maybe can explain and help you understand certain things, but I would warn of using it do decide about a relationship.

That is in your and your partner`s responsibility. And if you love each other and want to find a way, I am pretty optimistic that you will.

posted November 12, 2009 10:34 AM         

Unmoved had a thread on this.

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/202511.html

"1. Synastry Chart
What is the Potential Compatibility of two people based on who they were at birth (BLUEPRINT)?

1. Composite Chart
What are the overall Potential Dynamics of the Union?"

posted November 12, 2009 11:22 AM         

Just cutting and pasting your synastry, so we can take have a closer look...

Looks O.K to me at first glance, some tension, some flowing aspects, seems like life.

posted November 12, 2009 03:43 PM         

I place very much importance on houserulers in synastry; of course I am still researching it, but so far they seem to be consistent.

And a conjunction of ruler 7 and ruler 8 is comparable (to a certain degree) with a Venus-Pluto-conjunction.

But you can also see it from another perspective:

7th house and of course its ruler, too, signifies relationships and often it is very indicative of a "type" that seems to be good "partner-material" to us (it doesn`t have to be passionate though). Usually people who touch our 7th house ruler seem like people we can consider a more committed relationship with.
It`s the Libran house, so what we are striving for here, is a sort of balanced relationship, based on equality and partnership (it is also an AIR house).

The 8th house is the place where a relationship gets not only committed, but very very deep, usually you reach this degree of intimacy and intensity, after you have made the relationship a sexual one, too. Of course this is not always the case, some people may reach that depth and intensity without sex, too.

It is a Scorpio-Pluto house, fixed WATER, very deep, emotional, and certainly not inclined to ever let go of something or someone again.

Now imagine, putting these two together. It gets very deep I think, sometimes so deep that one or both people could even be scared and trying to avoid this degree of intensity.
In the 8th house we are really vulnerable, cause our soul is being stripped naked.

So here the need for partnership (7th house) meets the deepest instincts, depth and passion, a need to transform (8th house).

You can imagine what such a partnership would be like.

Also, if I see it rightly, one person`s 7th house ruler is conjunct the other`s Sun.
The Sun-person might embody with his / her general personality pretty much an "ideal" partner.

It is as easy as adding 1 and 1.
The ruler of 7th house is in Sagittarius. So part of what the 7th house person needs in a partnership is Sagittarian-like. Maybe even someone from abroad. Or an philosopher. Or a gypsy. Tolerant. A cosmopolitan. Kind and openminded.

And now there is this person, whose Sun falls in Sagittarius. (S)he has these traits, becuase the Sun is in this sign, so the 7th house person might feel pretty drawn to Sun.

In this case the Sun in Sagittarius is in the 4th house and overlays the 12th house. Both houses are kinda "hidden", so maybe this "complimenting each other" is not as obvious as it would be in other houses, but since both are water houses it is very emotional, deep and I think very karmic (personally I think all the water houses have a connection to Karma.)

Of course this was just one single aspect there.

For a romance I think 5th house aspects would be necessary or at least beautiful, too.

Something liek 5th house ruler conjuncts Sun, Moon, ASC, 5th house ruler, ASC-ruler or DESC ruler for example.

5th house ruler conjunct 8th house ruler could get more passionate and intense than some people can handle I think (depending on the natal charts of course).
Both, the 5th as well as the 8th house, are houses that relate to "sex".
Both are fixed, and don`t like to share their object of affection.

5th house is fire, 8th house is water. Put these together and it doesn`t only sizzle....
The difference is, in the 5th house there is a more playful note, more flirtatitve, while the 8th house is not playful at all, here sex and relationships are a matter of life and death. Those people can really get under our skin, and this sometimes might even feel more than a little bit uncomfortable.
The Heathcliff`s and Othello`s and Medea`s of this world are at home in this house, too.

It is funny, that I started talking about this. I had no idea why. But I just checked, and it seems like the Cappy ASC`s 5th house ruler MErcury opposes the other one`s 8th house ruler Mars. lol

I would like to find aspects to both 5th house rulers, though, cause I have found these the most consistent component in mutual attractions, which also means that sometimes (depending on the charts), if only one person has a strong 5th house ruler in synastric aspect, but the other has no aspect to his 5th house ruler, then the attraction might be onesided or at least extremely unbalanced.
Of course if the other one has strong aspects to his DESC-ruler this might balance it out to a certain degree.

posted November 12, 2009 06:28 PM         

I can more or less read natal charts, I just struggle at understanding relationship charts in any depth.

posted November 13, 2009 01:52 AM         

your DESC-ruler would be Mercury AND Venus. And Saturn is still in libra, and therefore in your 7th house.

LTT,

posted November 13, 2009 04:16 AM         

Example, here we have Gemini Sun, and it is Trine to Libran Moon. It's energy that goes well. You could do that on a natal chart, similar here except it is about the parts of two people's personalities that go together well.

posted November 13, 2009 04:24 AM         

I was thinking the same.