posted January 02, 2010 01:39 AM         

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A helpful way to think about synastry is that we feel the parts of ourselves that the other person contacts. The other person can only pull out of us what they touch. If they don't touch it, we don't feel that part of ourselves when with them. (Well, we may feel it in the sense that we feel the lack of contact. For example, if you don't aspect my Moon at all, I will feel like my emotional nature isn't "for" you.)

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Hi Jane That's really a great interpretation of synastry and I thought other knowflakes & astro-newbies should see it as well.

I'm posting this thread so people discuss it and give examples from their own lives.. I'm curious whether others find it as accurate - as I did.

I’d also like to add something I noticed. At times in my life, I contact people or conversely, avoid people - based on the vibe that our synastry generates.
For example - if a person contacts several things in my chart and not my Moon.. and I am in a "fun" and "playful" mood.. rather than an "emotional" or depressive (cap moon) mood lol.. I would happily go out with this person, or have a chat to them etc...
However, if I was having a horrible day and particular things happened which affected me emotionally, I would seek OUT those friends who contact my Moon. Because I simply feel more understanding on that level.

I noticed that I do this very regularly. Sometimes I like pretending certain planets are not there. It is exactly as you put it: "We don't feel that part of ourselves when with them". When I am in the company of particular friends of mine I lose touch with certain parts of my chart.. My extra Gemini-Aries friend doesn't even know my Capricorn side exists.. which is FINE - because sometimes I want to switch off and just hang out with her - and send my Moon on holiday for a while). Other people only see my more *serious* Capricornian side.. and then there are those few who seem to get the whole of me.

posted January 02, 2010 02:29 AM         

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It also explains why some people just bring out (or see) our best, or worst.

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V. True!

posted January 02, 2010 06:01 AM         

if you read this:

Are you rummaging in my mind and pulling things out of there? Or are we in truth mind-twins?

posted January 02, 2010 06:09 AM         

I feel Moon contacts more intensely, maybe it's because it's in my 4th house.

Saturn contacts are like a tug!

I don't like too many Neptune contacts as I easily get confused.

posted January 02, 2010 02:57 PM         

Thanks, vapor, but I'm so confuseded. I don't think my description was any great revelation. Isn't that what we all think? How else could synastry work? I'm serious, someone please explain to me an alternative.

I'm glad you started this topic though. Primarily because it glorifies me. (Though undeserved, I'll take what I can get.) And also because I've been thinking about synastry and would like to ramble!

Alright. So the whole soul mate stuff. I'm thinking our union with someone is based on our levels of consciousness being in line with each others, not simply our planets being in line.

That level of consciousness impacts how people use their natals, and therefore their synastry.

Moon in Capricorn, for example , can run the gamut from the cold, isolated egoist, to the devoted, serious lover. Although there's an essence to every placement, the way they come alive depends on the level on which the soul is living.

So to have a soul mate, you can't just have matching aspects. That's just a chart mate. You may be living on entirely different levels. If so, then you've met someone who may feel like the real deal but isn't because you're not joined at that deepest level of consciousness. That level is what breathes life into the material (astro chart) we're born with. From there, a bond is true and unbreakable.

posted January 02, 2010 02:59 PM         

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Again, I can nothing but agree agree agree. I deeply apologize.

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posted January 02, 2010 03:08 PM         

oh how can I appease your wrath, oh, Divine one?

posted January 02, 2010 03:17 PM         

Physical combat - careful what you are suggesting. I have two brothers and one elder sisteraunt, who behaved like a boy during childhood. There are pics of our bruises to prove that.

posted January 02, 2010 03:20 PM         

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What are your experiences of when planets contact your ascendant?

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I think of it like this. The Asc is where we step into relationship with another. It's the self we bring forth. (The DSC, on the other hand, is the other that we step towards.)

So when somebody contacts my ASC, it affects how I experience myself with them. With Eros on it, I feel myself eroticized.

In comparison, if Eros were on my DSC, I would experience the other person erotically.

posted January 02, 2010 03:23 PM         

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Physical combat - careful what you are suggesting.

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Pff. I know no fear. My older sister was a biter. She'd break the skin and everything. I probably have rabies. You DO NOT want to mess with this.

("sisteraunt" - Is that like a juggernaut family member?)

posted January 02, 2010 04:10 PM         

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Thanks, vapor, but I'm so confuseded. I don't think my description was any great revelation. Isn't that what we all think? How else could synastry work? I'm serious, someone please explain to me an alternative.

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hehe It IS a revelation! lol

Ok - usually people just think of it as "planets" interacting. Your particular observations are not mentioned. And they were very good observations