posted February 01, 2010 02:17 PM            

I have 2 mirrage and my second last in 15 year. I do not want to be alone but it's so importent to me to be free in a relationship. I do not want to be with other men but I must be free to do all that I want. My partner must also be my best friend.

My first mirriage was like a prision so I must leave. My second mirrage also feels like a prision before it's ended.

I think my saturn in trine to my venus/NN/mars give my second relationship the possibility to last as long as it did.

posted February 01, 2010 03:09 PM            

as cancerian i tend myself to be the opposite. I open up the more affection i receive. I cannot think of any relationship in my life in which i have felt suffocated because of so much dependance or neediness from my partner. it tends to be the other way around. for me, the more affection i receive the more comfortable i feel.

I suspect that sometimes, my soul needs independence because my partners tend to be very independent and somehow push me toward independence because.

check for the house where the moon is. i read somewhere that when the moon is in fixed sign houses it gives more stability.

another thing, i have observed that people with moon in piscis and some uranian influence tend to have this tendence of feeling suffocated. i am not sure about it, but u may want to find out about piscis moon.

hope it helps

posted February 01, 2010 03:28 PM            

i have the opposition at a 0 deg orb. i think it's entirely possible to balance independence and interdependence and with these two mingling, that balance is even more possible, if one does the work of sorting through their fears of abandonment. mine's part of a boomerang configuration so it's extra potent in my chart. i'm fortunate to be with a scorpio who encourages both extreme closeness and healthy independence and if he wasn't that balanced in himself, i might have more trouble with [doing my best to] maintain that balance myself, and might find myself swinging between the two a little more.

posted February 01, 2010 04:33 PM            

Of course it wont affect everyone the same way, other chart factors may modify its expression. Like Woah City mentioned there was a thread on this some months ago and it was very good.

My experience with this is as soon as something is expected of me (from a partner) I need to disengage for a while. If I can’t see an easy way to disengage I will create a drama – after all this stellium is in Leo. I’m usually back with 2 days full of loving feelings, wanting the closeness and ready to get back into it. Unfortunately the person on the receiving end of this has been hurt.

My most recent episode of this happening was crazy because now I was actually aware that I do this and I was determined not to go down the usual route. When I felt the need to disengage I fought it and stayed put and forced myself to stay in the situation. That night – worst sleep EVER. I slept very fitfully, thrashing about and just could not stay still. My physical response to my ignoring my need to disengage was overwhelming. By morning I was filled with almost seething resentment toward someone who did not deserve it. As hard as I tried not to, I created the necessary drama needed to get me some personal space. And sure enough within 2 days I’m over it………..unfortunately he is not.

posted February 01, 2010 07:50 PM            

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I have the trine, I found that it emphasizes my need to not get lost in a relationship, to maintain my individualism and freedom to grow and achieve singular goals. In my experience this can intimidate or infuriate a person that needs someone to surrender everything to the “relationship” and not maintain some sense of self.

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I agree with that Scorp31. I also have the trine and when a person seems like they are going to cling to me to the point of suffocation, I back off. I need to have my own ideals, goals, and LIFE. I definitely dislike partners who feel the need to try to control me out of jealousy or possessiveness.

posted February 01, 2010 11:01 PM            

There is a line from a song that goes "I'm a million different people from one day to the next" and I can say with 100% certainty that is how I feel pretty much every day.

posted February 02, 2010 01:35 AM            

I have a similar placement (Moon sextile Uranus) and I never really knew how this aspect affected me and my personality but the above is a perfect description.

posted February 02, 2010 05:31 AM            

I have Moon square Uranus: we like more change than steady relationships. We like change and it happens suddenly, so as Uranus is.

Bobbie

posted February 02, 2010 05:33 PM            

i'm 23 now and my relationship history was spotted with 1-2 month flings, and a heart breaking experience which also just lasted two months. I have this tendency to want to escape and break free from something or someone that causes me to feel like I am "settled" or "trapped" or even "defined". For example there was this guy that liked me for over a year, even though i thought we had great chemistry and get along great, the idea of him liking me... the consistency of this idea just turned me off. Another example, I got together with a guy i really really loved at the time, and after we got together, the moment that i felt it was "settled" i also felt like the chase and excitement is over, and that I'm gonna have to start behaving like a "gf" (whatever that means). I felt like i was trapped in the definition of the term, and i subconsciously wanted to break free. And I did.

Basically, I feel it is not so much about emotional instability, but rather about the need to feel free and unbounded by silly definitions and expectations.

posted February 02, 2010 06:48 PM            

Sorry if i missed this, but what is your sun and moon sign?