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Topic: When an old friend comes back to be a lover
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scrappydog Knowflake Posts: 713 From: Texas Registered: May 2009
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posted February 22, 2010 05:29 PM
I have a friend that i've known for about 15 years. In the past we drifted in and out of eachothers lives, we were never that close, but always had ties through mutual friends. Now he has recetly come back from living out of state, I hadnt seen him for 7 or 8 years. The night we met it was instant attraction, we couldnt keep our eyes off eachother. Weve been together every single day since, it's only been a months, there is all kinds of Drama going on in both our lives and were going through it all together. We are already on the L word, actually that started after 1 week. There has already been some jealousy and obssesivness between us, though thats usual for me in my relationships. I can't concentrate in school because I can't stop thinking of him and can't wait to go home to him. I'm not sure if something this intense can last and I don't know his time of birth so i didnt bother to post a chart. Im wondering what my fellow astrologers think about our aspects- sun conj pluto sun opose venus 0 deg sun square mars 0 deg sun trine jupiter sun trine mercury sun trine asc sun sextile saturn sun sextile moon moon conj moon moon square pluto dw moon trine venus mercury trine mercury mercury square neptune mercury conj uranus venus trine uranus dw venus square neptune dw venus trine mars venus conj jupiter mars square pluto 0 deg mars square saturn wide nodes square uranus nodes conj saturn nodes square moon nodes trine venus Our relationship is clingy, close and very hedonisic and indulgent, were definately living the party lifestyle. But everything is happening so fast I wonder if this can last. He is very pisceas/neptunian with some cappy and pluto energy thrown in, I'm very libra/venusion with some cappy and a lot of pluto energy.IP: Logged |
vertiver Knowflake Posts: 1471 From: Firey Jupiter Registered: May 2009
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posted February 22, 2010 05:58 PM
So you guys are only lovers now and not friends or are you still friends? Hopefully there is a definite line between friends or lovers or things could go array. I did this last year. I met someone who I hit it off really well with as friends and the most prominent aspects between us was his Asc. conjunct my Sun and his Venus Square my Mars, which if the female is the Mars, it is a endless cycle of lust and un-fullfillment because the Venus person feels comfortable and pleasant but not aroused. And there was never a fine line between friends and lovers. Eventually I got fed up and stopped putting an effort out and he has never attempted to hang out with me since I gave up. Sun conjunct Pluto is intense, but do one of you have this in the natal chart? If so, than it only emphasizes that persons natal Sun conjunct Pluto. This is definitely a relationship built on passion and intensity and power struggles. I'm guessing you're already aware of this, though. And Mars Square Pluto only furthers the power struggle thing. It might indicate intense sexual affinity but the Mars person could get burnt out by Pluto. Venus opposite Asc. is good, definitely represents an attraction. I currently have this aspect with someone and their Venus is opposite my Asc. its unclear who is attracted to who, though. But it gives the relationship a mutual feeling of pleasantness and joy to be around each other. IP: Logged |
scrappydog Knowflake Posts: 713 From: Texas Registered: May 2009
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posted February 23, 2010 06:50 PM
We are both friends and lovers and yes I have an almost exact sun pluto conj in my chart so my sun also conj his pluto as we are of close age. He has an exact mars pluto square in his own chart w the mars exactly square my pluto. It's intense and obsessive, but I think a little more for me. Any input on the synastry??IP: Logged |
scrappydog Knowflake Posts: 713 From: Texas Registered: May 2009
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posted February 23, 2010 09:36 PM
OK I am distraught and very confused about this relationship, he is a bit unstable in his emotions. But I can be too? Can someone please help?IP: Logged |
mercuranian Knowflake Posts: 338 From: the 12th house Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 23, 2010 10:17 PM
you say it's very hedonistic and you're living the party lifestyle, that's very venus square neptune. I don't like this aspect at all been through it, it will leave you very disillusioned. AND it's a double whammy, ouch!!!! I don't believe this aspect will translate/ transition into a normal everyday relationship once the party is over. I also don't like the mercury square neptune and the mars square pluto. My last relationship had mars square pluto and venus square neptune. Actually the way we met was similar to yours. Aquaintances from 20 yrs ago, ran in the same circles, he moved to my city, we met, and were together everyday for three months until i got the urge to leave him because i felt the relationship was becoming unhealthy. we said the i love you's after a week as well. About three weeks in i saw that his emotions were unstable as well...IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows Knowflake Posts: 270 From: UNITED STATES, BABY Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 24, 2012 10:56 PM
You poor child! I really would be careful. I was friends & lovers with my friend/crush too. We have venus square uranus AND neptune in our composite as well as uranus/neptune in the 11th! It definately played out. I don't know where I stand with this guy. The facts are there that it should've ended but since there is no direct solid base of communication (just like you have with your guy. MERCURY SQUARE NEPTUNE.) THERE WIll be a lot of easy misunderstandings. Just make sure you two remember to talk to eachother!!! it will feel so psychic like he knows everything you have to say but he doesn't and neither do you! Love the venus uranus aspect, btw. IP: Logged |
SaggiMC Knowflake Posts: 1641 From: UK Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 25, 2012 07:28 AM
you have some nice easy flowing aspects, would have preferred to SEE a syn bi wheel as I'm visually orientated though..I notice you have included the Angles ie; Asc/MC these are very important in attraction I'll list what I consider the challenges to be-- as you have not listed the 'wide orbs' I have no way of delinating wide orbs. Max orb should be 3' sun conj pluto moon square pluto mercury square neptune mercury conj uranus venus square neptune mars square pluto oooch Nodes are very important and show karmic links nodes square uranus nodes conj saturn nodes square moon nodes trine venus If you want to research more into synastry try here http://cafeastrology.com/astrology_of_relationships.html http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/interchartaspects.html http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry_house_overlays.html http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastry.html http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastry-houses.html http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastryaspects.html http://www.cosmitec-astrological-compatibility-advice.com/astrology-marriage.html http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17513 http://www.astrotheme.com/synastry_advice.php ------------------ I love the parable, “If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day, BUT if you teach him how to fish, you feed him for life.” IP: Logged |