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shl153
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From: India
Registered: Dec 2009

posted March 07, 2010 02:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for shl153     Edit/Delete Message
Hi
I am a god fearing person. a female
I love my family and would do anything for them
i have so much fear in my life..i fear loosing my family members
my dob;15th march 1971
time 03:45 am at Bombay India

every minute of my day is constantly in fear...i fear even flying..cannot know what is happening..cannot do anything to protect them from their prooblems except pray...

please help me...why m i like that and how will i ever survive this constant fear of loosing my family members...

anything that happens makes me so scared that i even forget eating

please help

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Diablo
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From: melbourne/victoria/australia
Registered: May 2009

posted March 07, 2010 02:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diablo     Edit/Delete Message
It must be horrible to be in a perpetual state of fear and terror, especially when that it revolves around losing your most loved ones. And by the way that you write about your family, its very clear that you love them very much and that they are probably the most important thing in your life.

If it wasn't so late (or early in the morning here, 7am..i gotta get to bed..damn insomnia) Id be more than happy to write some clear instructions on how to post a chart up (its very easy ) but i'm sure there are ppl on here that are much better at explaining that then me

Without seeing a chart, I'd guessing there's some intense activity in your 4th house (family, your roots, home, the mother)..aspects to the moon might show something, as well as maybe the 10th house (public image, social standing, the father, authority, restrictions and boundaries placed by family/society/institutions).

It might be worth looking at what house Cancer occupies and whats going on in there, what planets are making aspects to that house..etc..maybe the issues lie in there.

I'm not really good at in depth interpreting, but I'm trying harder to get better at it by studying the charts ppl put up much better because i'd like to make a contribution and maybe help a little.

But there are plenty of skilled, insightful ppl here that are much better at deciphering a chart than I who will be able to give you more than what I have. I'm just trying hehe

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Lonake
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posted March 07, 2010 03:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message
You have Saturn, which is the planet of fear, ruling your Capricorn ASC. Your Saturn is in H4 in Taurus signifying fears related to loss of security in the home, esp. regarding resources. This is a very cemented fear, too, as Saturn is square to Venus in H1, Venus being the ruler of your IC. So it's a very strong interchange. You have low self esteem due to all your fears, and they affect how your outlook on life. The lack of eating is shown with Venus square Saturn as well, showing that you're taking your fear out on yourself as a way to pay for some guilt that you have. What are your financial resources like? Were you born into a situation where you were made to feel a burden to your family, and are now feeling personally responsible for that?

Venus and Saturn have an influence both on your identity and your home life. You need to do all the work you can on establishing personal resources, read more about having the Sun in the 2nd house. You need to establish your own income and re-evaluate your worth as a human being, you have skills in the learned arts as well, so anything you can do to create will be beneficial as well. Capricorn risings need to create their own structure so it'd be helpful for you especially, except you have the hard task of building yours from the ground up. But you have the resources so with the hard work you put into yourself you'll be OK. But don't be too hard on yourself. It would also be helpful if you dont already to get a clear view on your faith and start to cement a spiritual vision, go into whatever faith works for you and use that as a springboard to build yourself back up again. That would help you a lot.

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Sanchenuss
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From: Clinton, SC USA
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posted March 07, 2010 10:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sanchenuss     Edit/Delete Message
The most important thing to realize non astrologically, is that there is no reason to fear anything because there is no such thing as death.

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Cardinal Arbiter
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posted March 07, 2010 10:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinal Arbiter     Edit/Delete Message
I agree with San. You need to cope with that things pass, and when a family member dies they're still in their memory, and they've contributed all they need to, it's just up to you to extrapolate from your familiarity of their entity if you want their advice.

I don't understand the term "god-fearing".

You have the same birthday as my Dad.

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amowls*
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posted March 07, 2010 10:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls*     Edit/Delete Message
In america we call this anxiety and we have therapists that help people cope with it. Do you have any access to people that can help you? Like doctors/psychiatrists?

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Sanchenuss
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posted March 07, 2010 11:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sanchenuss     Edit/Delete Message
They don't need a doctor or therapist. They need to get to know themselves. Meditate my friend, the only person that can help you is yourself. If you want to know what you truly fear, then it is yourself.

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shl153
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posted March 08, 2010 01:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for shl153     Edit/Delete Message
thanks a lot
really appreciate all the kind advices..
really
i seem to inculcate this fear as i almost lost my mother when i was 14 and then there was constant fear for her wellness..my sister too has sensitive health and so running to doctors and everything..
my mother's mom, my father's sieter both succumbed to the same illness as my mom...my father heart attack, his recovery, his weak health, my aunt's weak heath,
my mom's cancer coming back, my divorce, my nephew's death within 3 days of birth, second nephew also undergoing treatment ....too many hiccups and very less time to recover..as it has happened one after another without any recovery time....
we all stay together and hence feel a lot

born into a middle class family where my grandfather wanted a boy and i was the 1st born being a girl, it was a little sensitive but my parents were helpful...though they always knew that the 2 boys after me were the people to carry on the business

i started working in father's shop at 18 and continued till 37...worked as honanry teacher for 21 years and still working....so as such have no income of my own..just started working for pay since last year..

though the fear is hospitals, doctors and disappointments in that area....

thanks

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Lonake
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posted March 08, 2010 03:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message
I kinda know what you're going through. I lost 90% of the family I was close to by the time I was 21. I stayed home to care for my dying mother when I was 12, they put me in charge of all her medications, etc, but the cancer was so bad that she only had a few mos. Though that shows in my chart with Pluto, which is more closely related to actual physical death than Saturn, so it seems anyway, I have a strong Moon/Pluto interchange in my chart, I have a Venus/Saturn too but its not as strong.

I agree with the above poster, there is really no death, and it would be helpful to garner spiritual resources to start to make sense of this life you have right now.

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belgz
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posted March 08, 2010 05:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for belgz     Edit/Delete Message
You need to go to cohignitive behaviour therapy. It does wonders and teaches you how to illiminate anxiety from your life. Right now its controlling you and has been for how many years. Death is something noone can avoid so its best you stop trying to prepare yourself for it or even think about it.

I went through it for 3 years as well where i was petrified of never seeing someone again and id always picture them going somewhere dark in space all alone and id start thinking i wasnt really in this world and id have really bad panic attacks where unless i sedated myself i would want to kill myself. It was really bad and literally the world was a very dark place for me.

After getting treatment life is normal now and when my aunty died i didnt even cry but back when i was anxious i thought i would go crazy if something happened but you just dont. Somehow you already know theres no turning back.

After a long time when i went to these classes they helped me and within a week i wasnt as anxious and stopped those thoughts. Keep yourself busy and when you start thinking negative tell yourself to stop and think positive. Even if your family dies your going to be there with them when your time is up.. wherever it is that we go.

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Ami Ann
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posted March 08, 2010 07:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Ann     Edit/Delete Message
I really appreciate you all sharing about fears. I am fear ridden and feel embarrassed to talk about it.
So Cognitive therapy really helped you, Belgz?
If you can travel the way you say you do, you must be pretty free of fears unless traveling is not your fear.
I had given up on ever getting better but now I have hope.
I had to see someone come from a childhood like mine and still retain himself.
That role model is helping me know that I can have a self, too.
When I have a self I can count on, I will be able to manage my fears. Mine come from loss of identity,I am quite sure.
Ami

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