posted April 23, 2010 07:48 PM         

so, this is synastry between myself and a friend who have had the strangest on/off relationship since august of 2007. i've posted both composite and synastry. any insight would be greatly appreciate.

SYNASTRY

posted April 23, 2010 08:05 PM         

I don't really want to read it further since the lack there, to me, signals already so much of a disconnect.

posted April 23, 2010 08:10 PM         

@Lonake
its interesting. we do have an emotional connection, as connected as anyone as firey as him could possibly be. but his constantly has to reaffirm is individuality just when it seems like we are getting close. this has gone on for almost 3 years now. outsiders think we are fated to be together, wondering what's holding us back from being stable and commited. not sure what it is myself. we are the best of friends...idk

posted April 23, 2010 08:15 PM         

In the composite, Jupiter is on Venus/Mars mp, showing a will for commitment and joy in the middle of physical/emotional attraction. Venus/Neptune and Mercury/Uranus mps on the IC.. hmm dreamy love plus mental connection (but Mercury is square to Uranus, so it could mean that the mental dynamics are strong, yet it could also show mental disagreements I guess)? Venus trine Pluto and sextile to Neptune could also indicate the dreamy and passionate side of attraction.
Saturn square to Moon can show some incompatibilities between the man and the woman in the relationship. But well, with Saturn/Jupiter mp conjunct Uranus, this relationship might not be stable for traditional commitment. Saturn and Jupiter has to do with stability and commitment, and their midpoint with Uranus can show that these elements can be unstable.

posted April 23, 2010 08:22 PM         

"eta: we go from being inseparable to being at each other throats and then back again..."
well he has sun opp pluto which by itself is an aspect that on one hand would like to maintain control since they tend to have their fathers do a "pluto trip" on them while growing up, could be abandonment, abuse, could be something else. but they do tend to be very sensitive to power dynamics in relationship. he has merc conj the sun too opp that pluto, and it's in fixed signs, which are resistant by nature to change on one hand. your mercury comes in and makes a t-sq to his opp,
"and when we get close to opening completely, its like pandora's box...scary."
which could be a factor in you stating the above.
you being mercury, sq his sun, sun tends to not want to hear what mercury is saying at some level. do you feel this to be true?

interesting that his sun/merc opp pluto is on his mc/ic axis and lines up with your ic/mc. this is surely a strong connection, but with your merc squared, no, i wouldn't think it would be esp. easy.

posted April 23, 2010 08:29 PM         

he is definitely hesitant to change and will not do it at my immediate beckoning, only when we have time apart will his ego allow him to take on some of the changes and growth that i illuminate for him.
as far as the mercury square sun, definitely rings true. he loves me because i always know what to say and am very insightful. i see right through him. but that very same thing is what also cause most of our arguments. as a moon 3rd house, i have to talk. and he just wants me to shut up most of the time. (but so do most people, ha!)

posted April 23, 2010 09:03 PM         

its interesting how you mention stability and tradition and uranus.

i've started to wonder if i myself am cut out for a "traditional" relationship. of course together with this synastry, i don't know if that would happen. we are both artists on the move, travel touring etc.

on a personal note, i would love to have children and be in a marriage type of relationship. however, i don't see myself wanting to commit to any location or lifestyle longer than a year or 2. i've always imagined myself living more like a gypsy with my baby strapped on to me as i move along through life. i could see that type of lifestyle working with "g double u". he accepts me through all of my aquarian quirkiness and changes i go through. i'm into and onto something new every week and he loves it. so if he isn't the one i end up "marrying" then i wonder what that person looks like and where "g double u" fits into the picture long term. because at this point, i don't know what my life is without him being a part of it in some way shape or form.

posted April 23, 2010 09:19 PM         

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Just when I think I know what is going on with your relationship status, you backtrack and become elusive.

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oh diana, you have just verbalized the crux of our relationship. and no i'm not offended.

from august 2007-september 2009 we were in a serious committed relationship. we had a huge breakup in september (actually right around the saturn/uranus opposition) since then we have been friends with benefits i guess. he constantly expresses how he knows that i am the one for him and that he wants to marry me and have children with me, despite our inability to get along on a very fundamental level right now.

posted April 23, 2010 09:26 PM         

I had a feeling that was what your communication as a couple was like, which explains A LOT! It fits your comp merc squ uranus.

It also fits your synastry merc sq sun too. Does he also find you are vague in emotional conversations? Or is it the other way around?

I think that maybe when neptune and chiron move off your comp venus you two will cement your relationship -- either way. This is proably the reason for all the vacillation since Sept.

posted April 23, 2010 09:32 PM         

mercury (trine chiron, square midheaven) is actually ok in my own natal chart. i'm a generally good communicator, despite my occasional need to run over people speaking. i feel like "g double u" loves to dodge deep convo by talking about HOW we are talking to each other. and i'm like can we just focus on the issue at hand...sheesh!

posted April 23, 2010 09:44 PM         

Transits to composite are sometimes very telling. You just had a new moon conjunct your comp DC, so I wonder what happened then. You will have a full moon in your C. 1st next week, so let me know what happens, if anything.

posted April 23, 2010 09:49 PM         

just the week or 2 before that, we were in a definite state of conflict. just moods not matching up. now we are all happy honky dory and he is sending me texts about how in love he is with me ( of course i reply in kind) ... oh the roller coaster...