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Topic: Giving birth to the sign you hate the most.
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Chaos
Knowflake Posts: 234
From: Serbia
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 26, 2011 02:48 PM
  
Man, I hope not to have a Libra baby...IP: Logged |
violet7887
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From: maya
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 26, 2011 02:52 PM
ahah this thread is interesting, I have thought of this often myself. I have seen it too many times. My sister is planning her pregnancy and says she wants to plan it so her child will not be a feb baby as she for some reason despises people born in the month of february! lol it makes me laugh so hard. So i figured she either dislikes Aqua's or Pisces. Let us see what happens. I tell her that it is foolish of her to think this way as there is good and bad in everyone. The universe has its ways.------------------
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Voix_de_la_Mer
Knowflake Posts: 257
From: Scotland
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 26, 2011 04:31 PM
My mother is a Libra. We've had a volatile relationship all my teenage and adult life.
My son is a Libra, and we get on like a house on fire.My mother had/has a difficult relationship with my nana who is a Taurus, and gave birth to me, an Aquarian, and my brother, a Sagittarian. IME, I see no connection, tbh. IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 1125
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 26, 2011 04:42 PM
It's not that I hate Scorpio... I just can't handle Scorpio energy and thus tend to avoid that. Easy, with my Scorpio Sun in 12th.Not only do I have a mother with a Scorpio stellium, and she made me realize how little I can handle Scorpio energy, I gave birth to a Scorpio Sun with quite a bit in Scorpio too AND the Sun is his chart's ruler! LOL! ------------------
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frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 109
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 12:58 AM
I dunno...my mom is a Cancer and gave birth to two Capricorn girls..we used to fight a lot when we were younger. My Scorpio brother, on the other hand, is just a brat but never fought with my mom like my sister & I did. Must be the opposites thing..IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 41
From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 01:15 AM
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Originally posted by metalbabe5000:
I am going to make sure I have an 'astrological' designer baby. LOL. I got can-sag moon-sag rising and to be honest, I don't want a baby that wants so much freedom e.g being an aqauarious or sag. I am gonna make sure it's at least a water or earth sign. I am going to be a quite a possesive mother due to my cancerian qualities I have. But we;ll see, I hell don't want an air sign baby.
LOL you are cute...word of warning. I am a virgo and I have Sagittarius rising, my mom was really overprotective and I had to lie and sneak around. Its better to be the type of mom that your kids can go to talk about losing their virginity because that sneaking around then they go do it when they grow up and are in a bad marriage, acting out the same behavior that originated in childhood. You have to strike a balance between possessiveness and freedom and allow them to explore and express themselves. Is a process that needs to happen in order for identity formation to occur and develop healthy. I think the fact that you are aware that you are protective means you are willing to adapt your parenting to the best fit of your child although you are aware it will be challenging. IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 1125
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 27, 2011 03:52 AM
LOL Sag risings  My mother has Cancer rising and as you'd expect she was overprotective. So much that especially I was never allowed out on my own (she wasn't too bothered about my brother going out on his own, I suppose his predominantly fixed made him less likely to just run off on an adventure ) I'm a Sag rising and half my chart is there, but when I was a kid I never lied or snuck around. I did when I was a teenager though, but most teens do that. As a kid, I pretty much did what I wanted, which resulted in quite a lot of fights. I never got into trouble except from with my mother by going on my adventures though, so I did somehow manage to make sure I was safe. A little bit of trust from my mother in my judgement would have been nice. But despite all my Sag, I'm overprotective with my son now as well. He is determined and quite wild, so if I really let him go completely, I'd be in the hospital every day  ------------------
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blugrey
Knowflake Posts: 866
From: Portland, OR USA
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 27, 2011 05:07 AM
Hmm...
My baby is a Sag Rising Virgo with a Sag moon conjunct her Rising. She does have Libra Mars which I dislike as a placement, but I think you love your baby anyway no matter what sign they are. IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 41
From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 01:27 PM
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Originally posted by belgz:
LOL Yeah I have a fear of uranus in bad aspect to moon. If I get started on aspects i might be here all night 
If my children had those carefree aspects I fear in relationships I'd be happy. I would like my children to be independant and care free. But if they had a pisces moon or lots of water I'd probably worry about them more and be more clingy with them.
Ok I have moon in Pisces even though water is the least element I have in my chart and is the reason why I am super compassionate. I am curious why do you fear having a child who has moon in Pisces? and feel free to be blunt  . I have sag rising. IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 41
From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 01:35 PM
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Originally posted by Aya_and_baby:
LOL Sag risings My mother has Cancer rising and as you'd expect she was overprotective. So much that especially I was never allowed out on my own (she wasn't too bothered about my brother going out on his own, I suppose his predominantly fixed made him less likely to just run off on an adventure ) I'm a Sag rising and half my chart is there, but when I was a kid I never lied or snuck around. I did when I was a teenager though, but most teens do that. As a kid, I pretty much did what I wanted, which resulted in quite a lot of fights. I never got into trouble except from with my mother by going on my adventures though, so I did somehow manage to make sure I was safe. A little bit of trust from my mother in my judgement would have been nice. But despite all my Sag, I'm overprotective with my son now as well. He is determined and quite wild, so if I really let him go completely, I'd be in the hospital every day
I am 28 years old next month and I love my mom a lot but I am still working on forgiving her for overprotecting me. I know mothers mean well and you do have to protect your child but please try to get a nice balance between letting them be independent and explore and protecting them. It hurts your development otherwise. Check out Eric Erickson's psychosocial stages of development. I am scared of having kids because I am scared I won't get this balance right so I know its not easy but I think as parents we have to try hard to get this balance right. IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 5091
From: U.S.
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 27, 2011 04:43 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Ok I have moon in Pisces even though water is the least element I have in my chart and is the reason why I am super compassionate. I am curious why do you fear having a child who has moon in Pisces? and feel free to be blunt . I have sag rising.
I think she was banned from this site.IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 5091
From: U.S.
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 27, 2011 04:45 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Check out Eric Erickson's psychosocial stages of development.
I heard about him last year, his findings were so intriguing and I completely agree. So important.IP: Logged |
sand
Knowflake Posts: 1022
From:
Registered: May 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 04:54 PM
i kinda like moon in pisces. honestly i don't want foul mouthed loud children SO there are signs i'm not so keen on as well. but i'm an aries mercury so i shouldn't be one to talk. IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 5091
From: U.S.
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 27, 2011 04:58 PM
^ Nah, it's not the Aries Mercury you have to worry about. It's Mercury hard aspect Mars, Jupiter, Uranus, esp from Merc in Aries, Leo, Sadge, Aquarius.
Throw in hard aspects to the luminaries from the outer planets, esp from Uranus or Pluto and you have a lil foul mouthed rebel btw look at your 5th house for your kids, it's all in there. IP: Logged |
sand
Knowflake Posts: 1022
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Registered: May 2011
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posted August 27, 2011 05:02 PM
OMG nightmare!!! they hafta be really cute to have a mouth like that LOL!IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
Knowflake Posts: 1125
From: Space (and sometimes Antwerp)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 27, 2011 08:15 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I am 28 years old next month and I love my mom a lot but I am still working on forgiving her for overprotecting me. I know mothers mean well and you do have to protect your child but please try to get a nice balance between letting them be independent and explore and protecting them. It hurts your development otherwise. Check out Eric Erickson's psychosocial stages of development. I am scared of having kids because I am scared I won't get this balance right so I know its not easy but I think as parents we have to try hard to get this balance right.
Not far ahead of me then  Well, I have learned from my mother that keeping your child in ALL the time is not good, so I do give my son freedom. I let him do what he wants until I see a situation which might go horribly wrong (e.g. letting him walk free in public when he's tempted to run off, is a very bad situation). I do keep him very close and when he hurts himself, I'm there too fast. Now I am very aware that my consoling him just a bit too fast is undermining his sense of independence, but that, I'm afraid to say, is a very bad habit which I find hard to suppress. I simply don't want to see a loved one in pain. LOL It almost sounds like I'm apologizing for being overprotective! Anyway, the name sounded familiar so I had a check, but I'm not familiar with his work, so I'm going to read up on it. What I can say is that you don't have to worry about getting it perfectly right or balanced. That will never happen no matter how hard anyone tries, the best thing you can do is be the best parent your child can have but not overdo yourself. I mean, sure my mother was overprotective, never let me out to play on my own and continuously warned me about the evil intentions of adult male strangers and it did subdue my extraverted nature, kind of made me scared of people for a while too, but I eventually got over it and all in all I didn't end up all too bad in my humble opinion. The severity of certain pedagogically irresponsible behaviour of parents, I think, does depend also on the personality of the child who has to deal with that parent's behaviour. We all just try our best, we're all human after all And to be honest, up until my son was born I was terrified of getting it wrong or being a bad mother. Interestingly, I did notice today more than ever that my little boy is much more relaxed and mild-mannered than I was at his age. This might sound rediculous, but I can really see the Water in him... ------------------
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