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posted May 29, 2010 01:10 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted May 29, 2010 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good question!

I think I need space to breathe.. I need someone who understands my desire for alone time on occasion and does not panic or cause an argument over this. I like good humour.. I need someone who can make me laugh... and someone I can have long conversations with... Someone who loves my ideas and my mind (that makes me feel loved).

Most of all I need constant communication.
The thing that makes me feel most unloved -- is if I ask a question or write an email or message... and I get no reply.

This kind of thing (even if it is unintentional) can drive me to end the relationship.

I understand that some men are just not that communicative... but I definitely need one who is mentally and verbally alert.

Verbal laziness -- makes me feel unloved.

:edit: Thinking about that now ^ Gemini influenced men often make me feel loved and happy. It the only sign that I feel an *instant* easy rapport with. They seem very genuine to me


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posted May 29, 2010 02:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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The thing that makes me feel most unloved -- is if I ask a question or write an email or message... and I get no reply.

This is one thing for me, as well. I don't need to be in anyone's pockets 100% of the time, or have them be in mine, but I do need to touch base in some way. If several days (or more) go by, and they don't contact me, I take it that I'm just not that important to them - especially when they would get back to me as soon as possible, when we were first getting to know each other.

I'm not feeling well tonight - I woke up to the room spinning, and I'm still feeling a little dizzy, so I'm having more trouble than usual trying to put my thoughts into some sort of order. There's a lot to be said for someone who's there when you really need them (rather than disappearing when you're upset, or dealing with something). Disappearing and then coming back for a while, doesn't cut it, unless there's a good reason (and/or I'm warned beforehand).

Moon, Venus and South Node in Gemini. Conjunct the cusp of the 8th in Placidus, and at the end of the 7th (still within 2 degrees of the 8th) in Equal House.

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posted May 29, 2010 02:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Teasel - Have a milkshake -- or something with chocolate and sugar!

Or maybe a fruity drink... Do you have orange or apple juice or lemonade? That can help..

That's what I do when I feel dizzy.

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posted May 29, 2010 02:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini?     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm gonna go ahead and pretty much echo what Vapor Lash said as that fits me as well! Add to that loyalty and we are good to go! I need communication! And not just any communication, I need quality convo!

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Gemini Sun 24˚
Libra Moon 14˚(conjunct Pluto 0˚ in 2nd house)
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Cancer Venus 29˚ (Mutual reception with Moon)
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posted May 29, 2010 02:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was thinking about making some Ovaltine (chocolate + sugar). Thanks, vapor.

I've been drinking gatorade, here and there, and eating a little ice cream. It's what I automatically think of when this happens, due to it occurring multiple times, when I had a food poisoning as a teenager. It balanced my electrolytes enough, within twenty-four hours, that I was able to shakily take my first shower in six days.

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Venus in leo in 12th.

Appreciation.. ummmm attention, ackowledgement and a love to die for..

No i dont like pisces type relationships with venus in 12th, in fact i dont like any pisces placements

:edit: I hate clingy partners so all this doesnt mean i like them to be clingy either.

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posted May 29, 2010 06:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Amphitrite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus in Scorpio, 3rd house, conjunct Juno, square mars, opposite Chiron and widely conjunct IC.

I think the thing I most need is communication. I need to be able to have long conversations and definite mental stimulation. I need somebody who will listen. I definitely feel loved when I am trusted with deep dark information, which I always lock away. I guess the trust thing both ways is absolutely necessary for me. I also think it's important for me to feel like I am part of a team with somebody, so that I can rely on them and they can rely on me. The give and take is balanced. Libra stellium

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posted May 29, 2010 06:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diablo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus in Taurus in the 2nd

I need appreciation and to be adored, respect, comfort and a partner in crime.
Also its pretty important that they're strong enough to look after their own needs. I hate being a mum in relationships. Nothing emasculates a man in my eyes more than that. Yuck.

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posted May 29, 2010 07:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Benedict Moon*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Communication, and it's kind of along the lines of what others said. Unanswered messages can drive me nuts. And you don't have to like everything I like, but uninterest in ANY topic I want to discuss is sort of a deal breaker too.

Loyalty, my own space and identity, and appreciation are the other big ones for me.


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posted May 29, 2010 08:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus in Virgo in 11th.

What do I need to feel loved?

  • Communication - To feel loved I need someone to communicate with me via phone calls, texts, emails when not in the same space. When together, I like being doted on and asked, "Do you need something to drink, eat, read?" or "Do you want to go out, watch some movies (in or out)... I feel loved when someone probes. Not too much though.
  • I also need to hear the words, "I love you" or "I appreciate you" or any derivative of such statements at least once a month.
  • I NEED to be shown off, not as a trophy girlfriend, but for me to see that the guy finds me attractive and that he is proud of me. This he can do by letting me meet his friends, family, or by taking me out where he can be seen with me.
  • I NEED us to be friends to feel loved because I will confide in you. For that to happen I need to know that we trust each other. I am friends with everyone I love. I can't love you if we don't have that friendship element. There needs to be a BFF rapport between me and those I love.
  • I need to be regarded with respect a bit, with a touch of reverence. LOL. I don't feel loved if someone speaks to me as if they are speaking to some stranger. For example, some guy said to me,"I would love to make you scream (this was still fine but then he carried on to say) while I get my 100 buck's worth (which made me feel unloved and 'unspecial')". Basically, although I can have a foul mouth, I am not disrespectful about it, and if I feel that I am being treated like trash, mocked or such, I feel unloved. So, I need a person to be careful with what they say to me to feel loved. It tells me that they thought before they spoke and saw what could hurt my feelings.

    There's more but I've written a lot already.

    edit: With all that said, I am a loner of note, so when I have had enough of the "getting close" I need for people to understand that I might disappear for quite some time. My loved ones understand this about me perfectly well. When I am there, I am there... but there comes times when I just want to be alone. And, not for a few hours in a day, but for a few weeks, sometimes even months. I'm a nightmare. I need a person to be secure throughout these times of absence and realize that I am just having "me time" not avoiding them. This is when emails, texts and whatnots come useful. That's why I live in 2 towns. If I meet a guy in one town, I use the other town as "me time" and I usually stay for about 3 months in each place before I miss the other.

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    posted May 29, 2010 09:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for oneruledbymars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Venus in Pisces in the 7th conjunct Mercury and SN, trined Jupiter and Uranus...squared by Moon and Neptune..... Inconjunct Pluto.

    Honestly I need it all.

    I need him to be everything that a man should be and can be as a representative of the Divine Masc on Earth....while at the same time striving to perfect his Energy day to day.

    I need all Archtypes to be present I need to be able to sense his connection to the Lover, Warrior, King, Priest, Sage, and God inside of him.
    I need him to be complete unto himself, and to know that he doesn't need me for anything, he just wants me.

    The scary part is I have found him.....tell me again why I set my standards so high? *sigh*
    Nothing to do now but live in the moment...oh how I do love my life.....but sometimes all I can here is my shadow side saying is FML!
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    Unmoved
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    posted May 29, 2010 09:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    by the sound of that... I think I love your life too ORBM.

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    seeker3030
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    posted May 29, 2010 09:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for seeker3030     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Great thread!

    Well up until recently I thought I knew exactly what I needed but thanks to recent confusion on my part I'm now having to rethink! I've learned that it's all about getting the balance right... which you'd have thought I'd have known being Libra haha! ;D

    * I know I need a certain degree of romance - although definitely not trite, cheesy, smothering, sounds-like-it's-been-ripped-from-a-film romance. Has to be real and from the heart.

    * I need space - not oceans of it but just a bit of time to myself occasionally.

    * I need communication - need to be able to talk about anything and everything, but particularly to be able to talk about 'us' and our feelings.

    * I need physical demonstration of affection and passion. Again not smothering but tactile - someone who's not afraid of PDAs.

    * I need laughter and lots of it!! Need to share humour.

    Venus in Scorpio in the 5th

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    posted May 29, 2010 09:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for oneruledbymars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Haha@ Unmoved.....remember I was telling you that I felt this coming.... , its going to take all I have to stand by his side and reflect and not project...I think he is so inspiring and has so much of the qualities I have had to acquire through sweat blood and tears innately.

    This will be my biggest challenge to date...to open my Heart Chakra fully will be transformative...to love and be loved in this way.

    I know for sure he is a Pisces Sun in the first decan....his Sun is Conjunct my DC, Venus, Mercury/Aura/SN....and opposes my Valentine/Angel/Saturn...and forms a TSquare with my MC/IC.... that was enough for me!

    I decided I will do our complete charts if and when he asks and we will explore it together.
    Otherwise I'm going to stay as grounded as I can, no idealism, just logic for now so I can really know him and not just get caught up in this...Maybe its Saturn demanding solid ground there...it is Saturn in Virgo.

    But he is British, gorgeous and soooooo sweet, when he talks logic flies out the window......I'm positive there is something intense going on between our Venus and Mars because I usually have better control than this!..... I'll keep you posted on the progress Unmoved xoxo.

    Damn Jupiter/Uranus conj in the 7th!

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    posted May 29, 2010 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for comica23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Aries Venus in the 8th conjunct Moon/Mercury, all trine Uranus from the 4th.

    Hmm appreciation, attention, being able to be comfortable in expressing myself. Communication (intelligence and sense of humor), and emotional understanding.

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    posted May 29, 2010 12:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for electricmind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

    for me to feel loved, i need encouragement and support, emotional support and verbal encouragement. deep and connected conversations. hugs and kisses. and i need to be told.

    i've got venus in capricorn in the 1st house.
    conjunct psyche within less than half a degree.
    sextile mars and saturn.
    exactly quintile pluto.
    quincunx my NN.

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    posted May 29, 2010 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    What Vapor-lash said.

    This one Libra I dated would always return my calls, even if to say, "I can't talk right now." I really liked that.

    This Capricorn would never refuse my culinary offerings. I really really liked that. I like when people eat my cooking.

    Basically someone who is communicative, and smart to talk about a wide range of subjects. And someone who likes/eats my cooking.

    Venus in Taurus
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    posted May 29, 2010 04:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Glaucus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    1. understanding/empathy
    2. tolerance and acceptance of who and what I am, not trying to change me and make me into something else
    3. don't see me as defective or disordered because of who and what I am
    4. warmth
    6. good communications
    7. support me in my neurodiversity advocacy which is my life purpose.
    8. profound emotional/spiritual connection


    I would love to marry a neurodivergent woman and/or a spiritually oriented,highly sensitive woman that works with special education needs children.

    Venus in Scorpio in 3rd
    conjunct Mercury in Scorpio in 3rd
    square Mars in Aquarius in 6th

    trine transneptunian dwarf planet candidate,Orcus in 11th
    trine Geocentric North Jupiter Node in Cancer in 11th
    trine Geocentric North transneptunian dwarf planet Pluto Node in Cancer in 11th


    in declination:
    parallel Mercury
    parallel Neptune
    contraparallel Saturn
    (Planetary synchronization)


    in Right Ascension:
    square asteroid dwarf planet Ceres in Leo
    square Vertex in Aquarius
    sextile transneptunian dwarf planet Haumea in Virgo
    quincunx transneptunian dwarf planet Eris in Aries
    (Yod of Eris quincunx Venus-Haumea Sextile)

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    A Different Mind Is Not A Deficient Mind.
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    Lara
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    posted May 29, 2010 04:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lara     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    My balanced self... i don't think it's something that is in ones chart

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    posted May 29, 2010 04:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for staborgi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    I kind of relate to my Venus more as a planet that expresses our ideals in love, but to be honest, even though my Venus is my DSC ruler, I relate more to my 7th house planets (Mars and Pluto), Moon, and Juno in terms of what I need to really feel loved by someone else. I feel an affinity with people who touch my Venus in synastry but love seems to come from angles, Moon, and touching my Mars or Pluto. Just a thought!

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    posted May 29, 2010 05:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diabla     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    I have Venus in Leo in the 6th house.
    Square the Moon
    Opposite Saturn
    Trine Uranus

    To feel love I need plenty of attention and constant appreciation from my partner. =)

    Lots of verbal and physical expression of love!

    And I like when they are attentive to every little detail.

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    posted May 29, 2010 06:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarrofVenusGirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Plenty of physical contact (hugs, kisses, frequent sex), open & intuitive communication, LOTS of talking, attention, time spent together engaged in activities we both enjoy, intensity, a feeling that my partner knows me inside & out.

    In short: Touch me, be one with me, understand me.

    My chart is in my signature. Venus in Scorpio in the 8th house (Placidus), square Mars in Leo.

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    posted May 29, 2010 10:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venus De Milo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Venus is my chart ruler (Libra Rising), and it is conjunct Neptune and sextile my 1st house Pluto. Venus/Neptune are in Saggitarius/3rd house.

    What I need - I thrive on communication and sharing. I can't feel close to someone without it. I also need physical affection or I don't feel attractive... I love holding hands and I demand a kiss when we see each other. If I don't get a kiss, I feel unacknowledged. I also love being told nice things, but then... who doesn't? I'm not sure if I feel that its crucial.

    I also loathe not having my emails or texts responded to

    There is a really interesting book called The Five Languages of Love, and its premise is that we all need to be validated in one of these basic ways in order to feel loved. If I recall correctly there is:

    1) physical touch
    2) quality time/quality conversation
    3) receiving gifts
    4) acts of service (i.e: doing things for people)
    5) words of affirmation

    That book explained SO MUCH to me about my ex-husband's behaviour and why our marriage didn't work. He's definitely an Acts of Service person and Words of Affirmation. His Venus is in Pisces.

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    posted May 30, 2010 02:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariescancer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
    Aries Venus conjuct Sun, Mercury and Mars, trine Moon and trine Saturn.
    I need lots of physical contacts, touching, hugs, kisses, lots of hot sex, intensity, talking I love to touch and be touch, holding hands.

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