posted June 03, 2010 05:17 PM         

from a person who knew someone who had this surgery..and she was not obese.

2 years passed and she started having problems.the band moved and got all messed up.in sort story,she suffered hell for 6 months,then she got a septicemia and..unfortunately died.

she was a young woman,she had a daughter and in a moment she was gone.

it was a surgery that it was wrong for her,and also not very well done.

you,as a young woman,withh only 10kg more than what you woudl want...are you willing to take that high risk surgery?knowing that later you will also have problems when you would want to have children?

you wont be able to be the same person again,once you do it.it isi like DD said.long months only eating soups and liquids.

you will want to eat.but you cannot anymore.your stomach will only allow very very small portions.you will always be eager to be able to eat that wonderful dishes you adore.and you will not be able to...

wouldnt be so much easier and advantage to you,if you be active again?doing sports when yyour knee gets better,or go to a nutricionist so that he or she can prescribe you the perfect diet for you.

please think very well before you make that decision.

posted June 03, 2010 06:30 PM         

what a shocking, sad story.

posted June 03, 2010 09:08 PM         

Also, Belgz, keep in mind that all you need is a few hours in a hospital to acquire a nosocomial infection. Easy to do in a post-operative state.

There, I put in my two cents, as well. And by the way, I have gone from 135 pounds to over 170 in the past five years, due to emotional eating triggered by various emotional issues. My knees started hurting last week. I feel your frustration. I am doing low-carb now, because it's the only diet I can stand to do, since it doesn't limit my portions as much as the other diets, and right now I can't be in starvation mode, with Jupiter hovering in my 1st. I hope you find some solution other than the surgery.

posted June 04, 2010 03:11 AM         

Saturn is going to be in my house for 2 more years or god knows probably longer since my first house is intercepted and I am going to probably be so overweight and die from that anyway.

My saturn return is going to be in my first house and as it moves towards it it will square all my cancer planets and probably test my patience and ruin me.

I looked up the statistics in Australia and they have been performing this operation since 1994 and there have been NO deaths.

I looked up septicemia and you can get it from brushing your teeth. You can get staph or whatever it is as well by just visiting someone at a hospital.

Jupiter will be on my descendant till next year and I am really upset by all of this.

I can't live with a stomache and ass this big and I don't see it as okay because it isn't good for my health and I need to fix it. I cant with exercise, I worry about my knee too much to really step on it.

I now officially do walk like a cancerian doing a "crab walk" whever I go scared I will do a sudden turn or twist that could do further damage.

posted June 04, 2010 04:42 AM         

I'm sorry to hear what your going through...I could totally relate with the harassment, bad knee etc. Few years ago I was the fittest I've ever been in my whole entire life. I was in a beauty pageant, and the pageant Director would always harass me about being fat (even though I wasnt)...so I would workout 2-3hrs a day until the pressure blew out my knee. After the pageant, I was left with a really bad knee for over a year. Obviously I stopped working out and started eating more and gained a bunch of weight. Also being a libra rising/stellium doesnt help either when it comes to weight gain.

Anyways my point is 99% of women go through this struggle constantly, or at one point or another in their lives. The lesson in life isnt about quick fixes but how you can persevere, working through these issues. Honestly you looked pretty thin in your previous pics, and 10kg wouldnt be putting you in a dire position. However I understand it's still a lot, as you've been used to your former thin self. It's like going from rich to poor,...nevertheless hard to adjust.

posted June 04, 2010 06:02 AM         

Belgz, hun you know statistics don't mean much and aren't a true representation of the reality. And I know you have a bum knee and that the immobility is getting you even more depressed about your weight/health problem but reading over this again, I suddenly remembered something..

I used to look after disabled people, both physical and intellectual. This meant doing their daily physiotherapy whilst in their wheelchairs to prevent atrophy of their muscles. Some of my clients were so stiff and helpless but they still had to do their exercise. Hydrotherapy was the most effective (exercising in water) and I reckon it'd be the best for your knee cos it'd loosen up the muscles, making it easier to move and the water would massage it plus you wouldn't be stressing your knee out. And as a Cancerian, fitness in the water should be great for your mental and emotional, seeing as your literally in your element, hehe

What i'm trying to say is, if a disabled person who is a wheelchair that cannot talk nor move do some form of exercise, then there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that a strongwilled and determined person such as yourself can achieve the same and more

posted June 04, 2010 06:30 AM         

Take it from me. I also gained 10kgs, from pills as well. As soon as I changed medications, it came off.

So, how about you take everyone's advice and wait. Besides, you're just absolutely beautiful, regardless!

{{{{hugs}}}}

posted June 04, 2010 07:17 AM         

You are a beautiful girl regardless of how much you might weigh at this present moment.

I just ask that you please, please, please not do anything drastic right now.

Your first priority should always be recovery, after that you can get back into shape.

If you are so worried about what you're eating/putting on weight then you already know that you need to stay away from high calorie foods so I'm thinking it could be a combination of comfort eating & boredom. You could try keeping your hands busy by taking up a hobby like learning to crochet or knit yourself a scarf for winter. It will keep your mind/hands busy.

And remember.....

posted June 04, 2010 07:27 AM         

As I see it your family is trying to manipulate you to fit (again) in the stereotypical image they want to have of you.
Instead, as a supportive family, they should understand and support you in your decision.
And even if they disagree, there is no point in "yelling".
Also those nasty remarks whenever you eat something, they are NOT helpful.

As I said in addition to everything else I am a bit worried about the Ceres-Neptune DW you have there. Prone to illusions / not seeing clearly (Neptune) when it comes to issues with mother, but also in regard to nurturing your body, food, eating pattern etc. (Ceres).

It is also quinkunx your ASC and solar Saturn. So more unclarity concerning food-related things, w hich influence your physical body (ASC), in unclear ways. Maybe there would be "only" problems of adjustments afterwards, but I also read that the quinkunx is not a good aspect in health-matters. after all the quinkunx itself relates to the 6th and 8th house.
Plus SR Neptune and SR Chiron conjunct your Ceres in natal 6th house of health!

Saturn in the 6th house of SR (health) squars your Neptune and Moon.
Quite honestly I wouldn`t take that risk.

Probably you should focus more on love. How about falling in love again?

You have Sr Sun, Juno and Aphrodite all absolutely exact conjunct (funny though my Saturn is on the exact same degree.lol)

You have SR ASC and SR Uranus and SR Jupiter and SR Lus on your natal DESC and Vertex - so I guess this man would come as a total surprise to you, completely unexpected.
Maybe though, there would be issues around commitment (Sr Saturn is on the Sr DESC and natal ASC, while Uranus is on the Sr ASC and natal DESC).

you have Venus in the 5th house - and almost on the day of your Venus return.
A new love cycle will start.
It exactly trines Neptune - maybe a soulmate, coming from abroad into your home?
Venus itself in your natal 12th house - I guess this would further confirm the spiritual soulconnection there, but maybe you are not really aware now that the man of your dreams is already in your life, jsut waiting for a sign of you, or if he steps into your life, you may not notice him rightaway.