posted August 17, 2010 06:46 AM
i am currently in a relationship where there is a double whammy of Saturn Square Venus.how we met was fated. we was literally, both brought together by something we have suffered throughout our childhoods with (a phobia) and met on a forum that is dedicated to supporting people who suffer with it. its not a well known phobia at all.. and for whatever reason, women prominently suffer with the phobia and very little men apparently do, which means the 'platform' for how we met wasnt exactly a mixed batch of men and women.
my Saturn squares her Venus by 0 Orb. it also Opposes her ASC by 2 orb from the 6th house.
her Saturn Squares my Venus by 2 orb, and her saturn Rests in my 5th house. her Saturn also Trines my sun by 4 orb.
it conjuncts my Uranus by 0 orb (my 7th house ruler, and Saturn is also, her 7th house rulers, so our 7th house rulers are conjunct almost exactly.)
in our relationship, i would much say that i play our the Insecure Saturn in those ways of the descriptions iv read.
she has also.. on her case, she is the one who often feels unworthy of me, i think this is so because my neptune is conjunct her DSC exactly and square her Venus, so i seem otherworldly too her, though i often encourage her to keep her view of me down to earth, and have made great efforts to present my self as who i am exactly.
we both fear abandonment from eachother..
criticism comes from me more so.. i strive to be very tactful about it and have been, unfortunately i can't seem to escape some of the effects of my saturn on her it seems..
i'm trying all the time to 'handle' and not let it be mishandled much..
fortunately i think she can handle it a little since her Venus is in the 10th house, her moon is in Capricorn, and her dsc is in Capricorn its self. so saturn is her 7th house ruler and moon depositor.
were very attatched but have many factors for that in the synastry.
our most difficult issue is actually playing out with committed time together,
i for my own reasons am able to give her all the time in the world, unfortunately, her on the other hand, has Very little time to offer, she has demanding obligation and duties.. highly independant, her job works many many hours, were long distance.. and because of that, we have a 5 hour time zone gap which makes it complicated. there is another thing but i wont go into it.
result is, its difficult for us to have time together without other demands getting in the way.
we try and manage with a arrangement per week. (her shift is always changing)
she does not play out the critical saturn.
i'd say the past hurts/insecurity is mutual on both sides but more so for her. she has big trust issues opening up to me and 'letting me in' with where she has come from, why? she fears to lose my feelings she says. though that fear is mutual, she fears she will lose them if she opens up to me (fear of judgement).
in our Draconics we have otheri ntense aspects, but notably a Moon - Saturn conjunction (me the Saturn, her the Moon), but also a Wide Moon trine Saturn (her the saturn too).
her Saturn/Uranus/Mars conjunct my Vertex.
my Sun Squares hers.
her Sun is in my 7th house almost exactly conjunct my NN (1 orb). it tightly opposes my Sun by 1 orb too.
the aspects we have that seem to help harmonize from the hard saturn aspects is a moon-venus aspect double whammy, my Moon conjuncts her Venus by 1 orb. her Moon Trines my Venus by 3 orb.
we also have Venus Opposition Venus.
her Mars trine my Sun, which is part of a tight grand trine (Her Jupiter @ 25 Aries, Mars @ 25 Sagittarius, my Sun @ 25 Leo) all in fire, all 3 fire planets.
its actually a Kite if we include her Sun & My NN (her Sun/My NN @ 26 Aquarius).
her Saturn & Uranus @ 0 orb Capricorn possibly make 2 more lose Grand Trines.
in our Composite, we have a kite too, or atleast a grand trine between Mars/Venus/Moon (Moon @ 4 Pisces Conjunct NN, Venus @ 4 Cancer, Mars @ 3 Scorpio) the grand trine is generated by Saturn at 4 orb Capricorn, which Opposes our Venus.
Saturn Sextiles the Moon/Mars and conjuncts Uranus & Neptune widely.
they say saturn in hard aspect to venus in composite and synastry can suggest the relationship, if one forms, is very hard to make happen either emotionally, circumstantially, or some other way, or the relationship its self is diffcult, it all takes ALOT of effort, and unfortunately, i think some elements of worked out routine.