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Topic: Hm. I'm starting to fall for a man ... I'm wary. The PROS & CONS - what do you see?
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Alvarella777 Knowflake Posts: 241 From: Europe Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 01, 2010 09:11 PM
Okay, this is about a man ... Huh, this is getting a bit more serious (emotionally/from my side) - but I'm definitely careful, due to many reasons. Nothing much "has happened" so far. Unfortunately I don't have his birthtime, only approximately, so a Synastry-chart would be confusing. I am listing a few PROs and CONs that I found in our Synastry.Maybe ... someone wants to look at it - what impression do you get? Would it be ... say ... worthwhile to "go after that man" more enthusiastically? I'm afraid I'm at risk to .. hm ... fall for him in a way. But there are several obstacles ... Hmmmm. Should I "invest" more feelings? It wouldn't be an easy/casual thing from all I can tell, rather several potential obstacles (in real life) that make me wary ... Maybe someone has personal experience to share about one or several of these Synastry-constellations? In any case: Your opinions/impressions would be SO welcome! orbs: 0 -5 dg. The PROs in our Synastry His SUN in my 7th His SUN sextile my Amor His SUN trine my own Name-asteroid His MERCURY in my 8th His MERCURY sextile my Venus His MERCURY trine my Aphrodite His MERCURY trine N. Node His MERCURY trine my Jupiter His MERCURY sextile my Ceres His MERCURY sextile my Juno His VENUS cj. my Mercury (ex.) His VENUS sextile my Uranus His VENUS sextile my Karma His MARS sextile my Uranus His MARS trine my Phoinix His JUPITER trine my Sun His JUPITER trine my Mars His JUPITER cj. my ASC His JUPITER cj. my Neptune His JUPITER cj. my Moon/Jupiter-Midpoint (ex.) His JUPITER sextile my MC/IC His JUPITER sextile my PLUTO His JUPITER sextile my Venusia (ex.) His SATURN trine my Venus (ex.) His SATURN trine my Juno (ex.) His SATURN trine my Ceres His SATURN sextile my N. Node (ex.) His URANUS trine my Circe His URANUS trine my Amor His URANUS sextile my Adonis His URANUS sextile my Lovejoy His NEPTUNE trine my N. Node (ex.) His NEPTUNE sextile my Venus (ex.) His NEPTUNE sextile my Eros His PLUTO trine my Juno His PLUTO trine my Ceres (ex.) His PLUTO trine my Valentine His PLUTO sextile my Aphrodite His N. NODE cj. my Sun/Moon-Midpoint (ex.) His JUNO cj. my Sun/Moon-Midpoint His KARMA cj. my Venus (ex.) His KARMA cj. my S.N./opp. N. NODE His CHIRON trine my Jupiter His CHIRON trine my own Name-asteroid His CHIRON sextile my Moon His CHIRON sextile my Part of Fortune His VERTEX cj. my DSC/opp. ASC His VERTEX cj. my Psyche His APHRODITE cj. my MC (ex.) His APHRODITE tine my Saturn His VENUSIA cj. my Uranus His LOVEJOY cj. my Sun-Moon-Midpoint (ex.) His AMOR cj. my IC (ex.) His PSYCHE sextile my Amor His part of FORTUNE cj. my Moon It all looks so brilliant up until here!!!! Then come these heavy links - CAN be positive, CAN be stressful .... strong factors - positive OR negative His SUN oppose my Moon (!!!) His PLUTO cj. my Venus (!!!) His PLUTO cj. my SN/oppose my N. Node His MERCURY opppose my Valentine His MARS cj. my Mercury His JUPITER oppose my Psyche His URANUS cj. my Isis (ex.) His URANUS cj. my Sun/Venus-Midpoint (ex.) His N. NODE oppose my Chiron His VALENTINE opp. my Juno His VALENTINE opp. my Ceres His EROS cj. my BM Lilith His VENUSIA cj. my Pluto And finally the aspects that bother me ...
The CONs in our Synastry His SUN cj. my Nessus His SUN square my MC/IC (ex.) His MERCURY square my Uranus His MERCURY cj. my Lucifer (ex.) His VENUS square my Juno (ex.) His VENUS square my Ceres His MARS square my Juno His MARS square my Ceres His JUPITER oppose my Saturn His JUPITER square my BM Lilith His SATURN square my Uranus His SATURN cj. my Eros His URANUS sextile my Perspehone His NEPTUNE square my Mercury (ex.) His NEPTUNE oppose my Juno (ex.) His NEPTUNE oppose my Ceres His PLUTO square my Neptune His N. NODE square my Eros His N. NODE square my Vertex His JUNO square my Eeros His JUNO square my Vertex His CHIRON square my ASC/DSC (ex.) His CHIRON square my Neptune His CHIRON oppose my BM Lilith His BM Lilith cj. my Saturn His CHAOS cj. my Chiron His CHAOS opp. my Sun/Moon-Midpoint (ex.) His MELANCHOLIA cj. my Sun His EROS square my ASC/DSC His EROS square my Neptune His HELENA oppose my Mars IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 278 From: Newport, NC, US Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 01, 2010 10:12 PM
eh, sorry, i'm a visual person so if you could post the chart itsself will be greatly helpful------------------ Dreams When you find a dream inside your heart,dont ever let it go...for dreams are tiny seeds from which beautiful tomorrows grow. -Author Unknown IP: Logged |
belgz Knowflake Posts: 2106 From: Planet love :) Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 01, 2010 10:18 PM
There's nothing wrong with those aspects. There's nonsuch thing as a perfect synastry chart. If anything his sun in your seventh and sun moon opposition are all good aspects that outweigh the negative. What degere and sign are both your Venüs And moon? IP: Logged |
Venus De Milo Knowflake Posts: 137 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted September 02, 2010 02:16 AM
I believe you should go with how you feel and only use the synastry as a guide to getting the most out of your connection -- not as to whether you should enter into it or not. This person has come into your life for a reason, and if you're drawn to them strongly, it is also for a reason. Whether that reason is love, lust, friendship, balancing karma, to help you, for you to help them... we don't know why. I would never base my decision on whether I wanted to be with someone on astrology alone. My Leo and I have a lot for harsh Saturn aspects and I'll be honest, it gave me pause. It has scared me and worried me. But I've decided to see it out, wherever it may go because the attraction and pull is undeniable and outside of astrology, I don't see anything about him that would give me reason to think he's a bad person and if I knew nothing about astrology, I'd have no reason to pause or back off. I don't think you should either. Don't overanalyze the synastry at this point. Just follow your heart. IP: Logged |
Alvarella777 Knowflake Posts: 241 From: Europe Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 02, 2010 05:17 AM
Thank you, so far, guys ( girls) !VENUS DE MILO: Of course you're right! Basically, I'm even pretty happy that I don't know his birthtime - so that I cannot go any further with my "analysis". I feel pretty "moved" by him. And it's really a "warm" thing between us - I simply cannot believe that he obviously cares so much - he's always "there", always responding in wonderful ways, he's, furthermore, really a very wise man, really someone extremely intelligent and also an influential/powerful person (he's also 11 years older than me) - and so kind, and obviously interested and never "cheesy" or simply "flirtatious" but behaves "serious" in a way, which is oh so charming. And ... he gives me some "security" in a way that is hard to describe. To make it short: It's a totally different kind of man - compared to all the other men I had gotten closer to in my life (and I'm 40 - I had 3 serious relationships so far, lasting 5 / 9 / 2 years - and several "causual"-shortterm love things in between.) The thing is: The TRANSITS that are currently hittin' my own chart do speak some language .... Tr. Pluto has started to trine my natal Venus and Juno since January (when we got in contact, slowly...) - it will do so again this autumn and this wil last until way next summer. Also tr. Chiron and Neptune are squaring (!) my natal ASC currently - and will do so until next spring... And with Tr. Chiron: It's conjuncting his natal Chiron at the same time, he's having his Chiron-return right now. (And tr. Neptune conjuncting his natal Chiron as well.) So: He's having his Chiron-return while we get to know each other - and this Chiron is squaring my ASC .... (sort of: destroying/and or healing sth inside of me on my partrnerschip-axis). And at the same time Tr. Pluto is doing his (positive) groundwork in my love life, trining my Venus/Juno and sextiling my North Node. What I am REALLY learning so far is this: It is a completely DIFFERENT feeling when you really start to "feel" for someone - compared to "developing a crush". Sounds stupid - but, honestly: I had some "crushes" on 2 to 3 men over the last 3 years - and I wouldn't have minded to "start" something with them. It never worked out. (Which is not so bad, after all, haha). I also remember the feelings I had for my last boyfriend (it lasted 2 years and was weird and "complicated" from the beginning - I misread it for "temptation", but after all: It was just plainly complicated and not "healthy"). With this man now, it just feels GOOD. This man is way more mature - it all seems to develop much slower AND kinder AND less "spectacular" ... and I don't know where this will lead to. I do not feel "obsessed" - rather surprised in a positive way that I had never expected. And: From today, I'd even say: I'd rather have a deep, sound friendship with him than to lose that man by a nonsense-quick-affair. I DO find him extremely attractive!!! But ... something ELSE touches and moves me much, much more than that. Huh - it's a different taste of LOVE that I'm currently tasting ... and I like it. And I'm gonna take it slow, that's for sure. Thanks! IP: Logged |
Alvarella777 Knowflake Posts: 241 From: Europe Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 02, 2010 05:26 AM
NICKI G: Actually, to be honest: I had posted a thread on this one before, about 1.5 months ago - there are the charts included: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/204804.html IP: Logged |
popcorn Knowflake Posts: 1468 From: Registered: Aug 2009
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posted September 02, 2010 05:29 AM
I wish you the best!! I see it so visible. I also be on maybee 4-5 crushes and I also know how it feels when it feels right. There are so big difference already from start. Your synastry looks good for a longterm relationship. IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 278 From: Newport, NC, US Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 02, 2010 12:44 PM
ooh, yes, i see a lot i like, especially now that i know what i'm looking at, and i agree with Venus de Milo. just jump in!! lol------------------ Dreams When you find a dream inside your heart,dont ever let it go...for dreams are tiny seeds from which beautiful tomorrows grow. -Author Unknown IP: Logged | |