posted October 13, 2010 10:00 PM            

Here you are having a red flag waved at you in the first month. That's a lucky turn of events, because you're not in so deep that you can't separate.

posted October 13, 2010 10:12 PM            

He has already admitted to you in the first month:

1. That he is controlling.
2. That he is jealous.
3. That he has a temper.

Believe him. My suggestion is for you to listen to your intuition, your "gut" feeling, and run now, before you "fall" any deeper into it. The longer you stay, the more invested you become, and the harder it is to leave.

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I'm speaking from experience here. I wish I had listened to my family and friends who warned me how my life would be with my ex-husband. Controlling, jealous, bad temper. You learn how to "walk on eggshells".

And you know what? They were spot on with how my life turned out. And I will never get those years back.

posted October 14, 2010 10:37 AM            

but its the ARIES asc that likes to lead, and be independant,

and its the venus scorpio that wants control too.

his mars-saturn just wants authority and respect if anything is to do with being controlling in that aspect.

as far as abuse goes, its possible thats more so the mars-saturn aspect,

because mars-saturn was authority and respect in its hands, it WILL give its self a will of iron. willfully a ruthless energy if what it wants means that much to it.

saturn is a mars that burners hotter for longer.

posted October 14, 2010 01:24 PM            

I'm probably gonna get sh%t for this, but I think its inherent nature of his Scorpio Mars? Its obsessive, but the affliction from saturn probably what makes it so extrovertedly worse. I've just had/witnessed alot of bad scenarios with this Mars placement that sound eerily similar to yours.

posted October 14, 2010 02:58 PM            

The last thing a Starseed type like you need is a sociopath. Did you read your thread on Sociopathy?

Mars opp Saturn should not be that bad but the T-Square is making it very bad. Aqua Moon in such a man can make him dissociate and detach from sadistic, abusive actions. He can guiltlessly beat you up if his mental condition deteriorates. The Aries Rising is a saving grace but Capricorn Sun with Mars-Saturn affliction needs a long time to heal. He may become a great guy after 50
but right now, even without a Nessus and Neptune affliction, this guy is bad news.

My bigger concern is why such a man came into your life. Why have you not been able to attract someone with many pleasant trines or a marketing job in Apple or Microsoft or jolly good aspects without sociopathic hangups? What is the unlearnt lesson that is repeating harsher themes or patterns and preventing abundance of unconditional love?

You deserve much better and must attract much better. Being happy is a birthright.
I think you have not fully unlocked the lessons of your Natal Chart. Some overlooked transit?

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posted October 14, 2010 04:29 PM            

You don't even have to look at the astrology.

He told you the words with his own mouth.

All of my older relatives told me "A person will tell you who they are. Listen to them."

posted October 14, 2010 07:05 PM              

well it's already been said, but he TOLD YOU SO HIMSELF...and if you are still wanting to "wait and see" i don't think your eyes are very wide open. the text bit when he barely knows you, the IMMEDIATE assumption of control over your life, that is very scary. what do you think is going to get BETTER with time?

posted October 14, 2010 11:41 PM            

Don't wait around to understand it. You can get away from the situation now and analyse it later.

None of us understands the meaning of life, but we don't wait around to understand the meaning of it in order to live.

posted October 15, 2010 06:20 AM              

have you finished the relationship?

i have a bad feeling about it.

and probably you two have hard aspects between nessus/dejanira/mars/saturn ...right?

that guy seems to me like the men who suddently can go unstable and who know...abuse women in all ways if they feel they have to.

you´re lucky though...he showed himself to you in the 1st month so that you can kick him in the butt right away,before things get worse.

my feeling is that you attracted him into your life cause you still have issues with yourself. deep inside you probably dont feel you deserve real love?or you feel too insecure about it...being raised by two sociopaths...do explain why you keep attracting them into your life:you will only get the man of your dreams once you KNOW you deserve all the great things in life,and when you feel ready for it,loving yourself first and foremost above all else.

so please,finish that off,thank that the guy showed you the truth about it,and start your life purpose: happiness.

posted October 15, 2010 04:10 PM            

If I remember right, you were having problems relating to self-mutilation by cuts in your teenaged life? This is another manifestation of a Nessus affliction to Sun, Self-Abuse.

Solution: Shift Consciousness from subconscious Self-Abuse to Conscious and Subconscious Self-Love [a pinch of Narcissism never hurteth thy Self-Esteem.]

Think: Would Minka Kelly settle for this man? Would Marissa Miller or Adriana Lima or Megan Fox or Giselle settle for this man? Why should you? Why should you settle for less? Why should you think less about yourself considering your spiritual evolution?

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