posted October 27, 2010 11:15 AM         

There is no such thing as the perfect chart. But these things should be sought after rather than using aspects in order to reject someone. Compatibility is one thing, but there is also such a thing as having someone that is different to yourself and who can encourage you to experience different things.

Venus signifies love, and attraction, it is so obvious. Venus – Sun in aspect, this is the aspect that you should look for, all other aspects are just inferior.

The Descendant: The Descendant has as its natural ruler Venus, and is the traditional house of your intimate love. So what you need here is Venus – Descendant aspects, and by its very nature, Venus – Ascendant aspects, but especially Venus conjunct the Descendant.

Mars signifies sex, interestingly Mars is the natural ruler of the Ascendant and 1st house. Mars in harmonious aspect must be present to bring heat and warmth, its nature is of fire, this makes for passion.

Then Saturn, the other traditional malefic. Saturn allows things to last. A relationship is based on time spent together, and Saturn is Cronus. Saturn by its nature is in exaltation in the 7th sign Libra, the sign of the marriage and partnership. Saturn brings stability to people’s lives and permanence. Harmonious Saturn aspects are wanted.

Jupiter is important for Faithfulness. Jupiter in aspect will make things feel good.

posted October 27, 2010 11:44 AM         

My friend had Venus conj Sun double whammy with her ex husband, they were very much in love at the beginning but a couple of years later they started taking each other for granted, cheating etc.

posted October 27, 2010 05:57 PM         

Actually Venus/Pluto and Venus/Saturn trines are great as well.

Venus/Sun adds spice but most synastries that lack Pluto and Saturn fizzle out in time. The people may still be together years later but the feelings between them don't stand the test of time.

posted October 27, 2010 06:36 PM         

we also have a double whammy -saturn-venus aspect, though hard.

for us, long term from the very begining has always felt natural and to be, and what we strive for. like very seriously. astrologically speaking i would say tahts the venus-saturn and venus-moon double whammy (moon and saturn are about long term commitment imo).

venus-sun is beuatiful and pretty, i dont think it has the substance to last though. i think it makes itsself best in progressed synastry though, that is apparently Very common aspects in the start of a relationship, and in our case, we have/had-ish a double whammy venus-sun trine in progressed (progressed venus's on our n. suns)

i think strong saturn is needed for the feel to last to be strong.

pluto to keep the feelings from going cooler or relaxing.

venus-moon-mars-sun aspects between to keep it real.

we have sun-opposition-sun and venus-opposition-venus.

oppositions keep things naturally exciting i think, maybe im based but its just waht im experiencing, perhaps its what keeps it from getting 'cool' wiithout the sticky-obsessive energy of pluto.

sun-mars is really handy and attractive,

mercury aspects are important for how to work out issues.

i think the composite is quite important.

i think venus-venus is an uncommon but very nice aspect to have in synastry, hard or easy.

venus-moon, i think is like venus-saturn, its pure energy thats Real, but its not the energy that necessarily draws people together as much as stuff like -mars-venus.

but when they are, they are stronger than most aspects i would think.

posted October 27, 2010 07:37 PM         

I had Venus/Sun conj in composite with my ex and we were very much in love. But I've been very much in love before without Sun/Venus conj too
Current SO and I have Venus/Sun double whammy in synastry (trine, square). It's all good.
Sun/Venus is important in THEORY because it's supposed to be like idealistic of the masculine sun and the feminine Venus. By the same principle, it's meant to line up with the whole Sun/Moon or Mars/Venus stuff, but I've never had any of those 3 things make a relationship last. Everyone is different and will react differently, this is not some kind of secret formula lotto thing with the aspects. You fall in love and have a relationship first. You worry about the synastry LATER

posted October 27, 2010 07:50 PM         

These are nice enough marriages that turn into friendships over time with the occasional annoying but extremely funny bickering.

They are much like the classic sit-com marriage.

I prefer trined Suns marriages because they are more passionate long term. But I guess these could also have Sun-Venus aspects - sans the conjunction.

That being said - I remember reading a handful of posts on LL - all from different individuals with different stories at different times - who happen to be t he children of a trined Sun marriage ---- and they are far from happy with their parents treatment of them.

posted October 27, 2010 08:50 PM         

i have this in our synastry, its not near the DSC but its almost EXACTly conjunct my NN. on the note of NN, i think this is a point in everyones chart where people who you become involved with in some way or another, whos aspects conjunct it, are meant to brign something to your life, but the house your NN is in determine its purpose, the houses are apparently our lessons in this life time.

my NN is in my 7th house, and her sun conjuncts it in my 7th, on top of that, her sun is right now conjunct my progressed DSC. so its enhanced, i was wondering if her 'purpose' astrologically speaking is to have a relationship with me? i mean others here spoke of Sun-NN people in their lives helping them alot with work and carreer and were special in some way, but not romantic.

my one is!

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interesting about the grand trines, we have a very tight one, i think i affect her more than she does me though i could be wrong.. i think ours is quite significant because our grand trine is between all 3 fire planets (Sun, Mars & Jupiter) in all 3 fire signs. (with my Sun being the only one in its native sign though) but my Sun completes a kite in her chart (or just a grand trine if you want to look at the g. trine alone) her jupiter in aries, trine her mars in sagittarius, both trine my sun in leo.

we have enough hard aspects that show us we have ALOT of work to do aha!

i think we just may have needed a grand trine.

what about Sun-opposite-Sun? i think this works for me because suns in the sign opposite mine are of the sign my DSC is in.

posted October 28, 2010 01:10 AM         

its actually exactly conjunct her Sun right now (and my natal NN) by 1 degree. (my nn is 25. 56 mins of arc Aqua, her Sun is 26 aqua, and my Sun is 27 Leo)

my DSC conjuncts her Moon-Sun midpoint, i wonder who feels that one more?

anyway, yes, she is the trine, her mars is in Sagittarius : 25 degree, jupiter in Aries: 25 degree, and my Sun at 27 leo. her Sun in aquarius at 26 degree makes it a genuine kite.

i think i affect her more in the trines, overall in the synastry im actually not quite sure.

but many times, without my saying of anything, she has expressed this feeling that i "complete her" and often times we have mentioned how we complete eachother, and fill in areas of interest the other isnt in. we also feel very much that were both stronger than eachother in areas the other is weaker.

an example is i love films. she loves books. i like drawing, she likes writing. she likes music etc.

theres many things..

i think i affect her in an attraction sense because its HER mars (the planet women apparentl may look to for the ideal man features/personality type) and her mars depositor is in Aries (jupiter) along with her venus in Aries. my moon is in aries but, my Sun & ASC are in leo, im all fire baby. so i guess i fulfill the grand trine but also the ideal mars-venus attraction.

her Sun is in Aqua though and her mars conjuncts uranus, i have strong uranus in my chart (square venus, in my 5th house, trine my sun, oppose my jupiter, wide square to moon) so i guess i only fulfill the aqua / uranus a little.

i really dig the NN synastry, it must be because its in my 7th house, iv found her aquarian sun energy it seems, really a strong attraction. that no mars/venus planet could really do, im quite attracted in the fact she IS aquariuan at core, identity, who she is, rather than some one with mars/venus in aquarius who take action or attract with those qualities, because thats not really who they are at core.