posted November 28, 2010 04:19 PM            

okay! so it's interesting to me that you don't trust davidsons or composites. do you just go by synastry then? i wonder, do you place equal value on draconics? his draco sun is conjunct mine and his draco mars conjuncts my natal DC exactly (and uranus and pluto conj it aswell, in the 7th). his draco saturn conjuncts my natal venus exact as well and i'm fond of liz greene's venus-saturn synastry description above the 'standard'; it does reflect the challenges seemingly present in our synastry as well as the potentials for deep mutual healing and bonding.

that's interesting you shared a similar vibe with someone older than you as well. did you have your saturns in opposition too? his saturn conjuncts my south node as does his chiron (their midpoint is 17'24- my SN is 18'01). this seems particularly karmic to me, and/but yes it could be progressions as well; my progressed sun is 17'08 at the moment.

oh and yes, his SN is conjunct my neptune- the orb is 5 degrees. so yeah a lot of south node stuff. i don't think i've ever experienced both my SN and north node being activated by a person via conjunctions before. though i suppose the orbs to my NN are wider (it's more about my saturn it would seem.. HOLY FREAKING CRAP, i just checked and his pluto/uranus midpoint (they are only 3 deg apart) is EXACTLY conjunct my saturn (12'27, both).

so yeah considering all of that along with the chiron stuff this seems really karmic and intense; possibly even really challenging (adding a hefty dose of neptune to the mix). i'm not great at getting the 'gyst' of a bunch of combined aspects, especially when it personally affects me; would you say that is right?

we are going to be getting together for a real 'date' type thing soon, and it's funny that you say not to fight neptune, saturn and pluto, because i sense strongly an involvement is forthcoming. all of this is making me a BIT nervous but it is good to know what i'm getting into and to keep my 'grip' as much as possible (even if neptune ultimately doesn't let me!).

posted November 29, 2010 03:12 PM            

I'm not saying not to proceed. Maybe it IS the missing signs/houses--it's like you think he'll fill your unmet needs. I think this guy is REALLY good at the smooth, gentlemanly early courtship stage, all the way up till a wedding. Something went really weird and wrong with his last two marriages. I get a funny feeling about it intuitively, that keeps getting stronger every time I think about popping back onto Lindaland.

Maybe I shouldn't say anything, because the last time we posted negative things it bummed you out. I almost went with not saying anything. Because honestly, for some reason my gut gives this one a "no". But, if you proceed, instead of doing it "knowing" he'll treat you right because your connection is so wonderful---do it with your keen sense of observation on high alert. That doesn't mean you even have to be cautious--just conscious and conscientious and present-minded.

posted November 29, 2010 03:21 PM            

welllll.. the virgo is 9 years younger. he's really ALL OVER the place and plays games. he even 'leads girls on' as a sport it seems, so no, nothing coming of that. i think he really likes me and sees i can't be played (and thus the attraction; maybe some sudden growth/wisdom derived from my rejecting him).

posted November 29, 2010 03:28 PM            

I don't mean he stores women's body parts in a shed or anything...

posted November 29, 2010 04:26 PM            

You would need to talk to her--even then, she might not feel comfortable letting you know if it would bug her.

In my case, I won't date a friend's ex--but probably everyone in a small town has already been out with everyone else, so there aren't real options.

I would be very uncomfortable if a friend or aquaintence dated my ex...it would bother me if she asked me if it would bother me, it would bother me if she didn't ask, it would just bother me. And my long-term ex (Libra) and I both have a policy of not dating each other's friends....which was hard, a couple of my aquaintences were like piranhas, a little bit thrilled that he was single. Even though I am the one who left him, I appreciate that he wouldn't do that.

posted November 30, 2010 02:33 AM            

hmmm! re the other stuff! i dunno, you could be right, or it could be that you've interpreted my enthusiasm as desperation or something to that effect? i don't think i'm looking for him to fill any holes, but i do think we compliment eachother nicely. it's true he does treat me really well and i don't think it's an act (though who knows) and i'm not really used to that with the exception of my last boyfriend and a couple others along the way. i dunno, as threads tend to go, they branch out into little tangeants and initially as i said i was just wondering if the sense of ease and compliment i felt with him was due to our filling in eachothers' empty houses or my chiron being smiled upon by venus.

previous to my last boyfriend (we were together about a year) i spent three years not being in a relationship to make sure i had my head together and knew what i was both bringing into a relationship and looking for in one, and i don't feel as though i'm particularly needy. i know my boundaries now and have a good sense of self worth, both of which lacked before. this attraction was unexpected and feels quite lovely, but i'm going to keep my eyes open and my feet grounded forsure!

thanks for you insight