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Topic: Why do Cancer men ignore you?
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Aquarius30
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 26, 2010 10:56 AM
 
I'm an Aquarius and I've read countless profiles that say Cancers and Aquarius DO NOT work. That makes me sad because I really like him. But how many times do I have to initiate conversation or ask him out? He never gives a clear response, says he doesn't get my messages, or sometimes just ignores me. We're talking online so is that the problem? Every time I say I'm done with him, I can't move on. Lately he's been posting about the type of woman he wants or that he needs somebody to hang out with but he seems to not remember me saying let's go out. What should I do? Leave him alone, wait or what? ANY advice would be helpful!!IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Moderator Posts: 4571
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 26, 2010 11:02 AM
My best friend was a Cancer, and his wife an Aqua. They were married 30 years when he passed away.
So, I wouldn't go just by the sun signs.Anyway, I think a Cancer would like to feel appreciated and needed.
Also I noticed with my friend, he liked very feminine types of women, he didn't much like aggressive ones. Not saying you are, just saying what my friend liked. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared
Moderator Posts: 1577
From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted November 26, 2010 11:05 AM
Other than having Cancer signs for relatives, I have rarely felt interested in them, but from kind of an insider/friend position, I can recommend you letting them come to you...Water signs in general, except for the females, don't really LIKE to be directly pursued. Let them take an interest in you, and sort of discover you, on their own... Too much being "put under the spotlight" dries them out and sends them running in the opposite direction. So, yes. I'd leave him alone and let him come to you... IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 983
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 26, 2010 11:23 AM
Hello Aquarius30! Welcome to LL  IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 26, 2010 12:32 PM
Yes, online is (part of) the problem! Cancers and other water-influenced people are all about the vibe level and subtle, in-person emotional cues. Many Cancer men overthink emotional situations, skittling themselves into all sorts of complexity in their heads about something that could be simple.Stop pursuing him online. Leave him alone online. In person, be beautiful, smell good, and be warm and friendly but not aggressive in showing your interest...so, eye contact, smile at him, touch his arm or hand. When a woman is overbearing with her interest, the Cancer man sometimes thinks, "Yikes, she wants me to rescue her and be her boyfriend/husband/one-and-only and take care of her for 150 years and I'm not ready for that!!!" You need to ratchet down your behavior so the message he gets is, "Yay, she wants me to touch her breasts and her soft skin." Cancer or no Cancer, when ANY man ignores you or doesn't respond to advances, it may mean he isn't interested in you that way. Or it may mean he is not prepared to act on his interest. Either way, it's so frustrating to like someone who's either rejecting you or sending mixed messages...this Cancer could end up really dampening your spirits, because he might NEVER make a move but also NEVER say, "sorry, I'm not interested." They are so sensitive about boundaries, vibes, and emotional energy, and some of them get shy and scared and overcomplicate things. So I would make an effort to lighten any pressure, get rid of online communication, and really open your heart to getting to know him in person. That way he can see what you're really all about. IP: Logged |
Aquarius30
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 27, 2010 03:37 AM
Thanks everyone, I appreciate it! I'll definately just back off and see what happens.IP: Logged |
amowls*
Knowflake Posts: 1973
From: richmond va
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 03:44 AM
I'm an Aqua dating a Cancer, and we're cool. He didn't take much initiative (which was weird for me because I never take initiative and suddenly had to) in the beginning. Took him a full month of CUDDLING TOGETHER for him to actually kiss me. What a nerd virgin (jk).Idk. Sounds to me your Cancer isn't that interested, though. Like, why would he ignore your messages if he was interested? IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 983
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 04:20 AM
or....there's the old crab walk
that goes in every direction except the direction they are going.  IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Moderator Posts: 4571
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 12:39 PM
I'll have to find my Cancer friends chart.He spotted the Aqua girl walking home from Catholic school (I think the outfit did him in) and this was BEFORE stalking, but he followed her home from school for TWO years, until she would agree to date him. They got married when she was 18.
I guess it was meant to be.  IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 01:14 PM
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Sounds to me your Cancer isn't that interested, though. Like, why would he ignore your messages if he was interested?
They are trainwrecks over electronic media, though, Amowls. A message allows their crabby loop of emotional insecurities and worries to get the better of them, so they sometimes get a message like, "Hey, whatcha up to?" and start thinking "Oh-god-what-should-I-do-does-she-want-to-marry-me-I-have-to-perform-sexually-maybe-I'm-not-ready-for-th-s-maybe-she-doesn't-like-me-at-all-maybe-she-likes-me-too-much-what-about-t hat-other-girl-from-last-month" and decide not to answer. You have to switch the interaction to in person, so Cancer can feel what's between you. They send mixed messages because they have mixed feelings, and it can go on forever. (Note: this is secondhand experience through friends, I've never been into the crabs. My packed 7th house is in Cancer so I have some crab traits myself.) IP: Logged |
popcorn
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Registered: Aug 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 01:31 PM
Aquarius30. My loved daugheter and my father are Sun cancers. They cant ignore the people they love. The tie to the people they love are so strong. Perheps they put they self into the shell.Check the whole chart. Only sun not say much. IP: Logged |
Aquarius30
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 29, 2010 09:36 AM
Ok, I'll have to look at our charts and see what's going on there. I'm not trying to confuse him or anything, I told him how I felt, what more can I do? Oh well, I'll just be patient...IP: Logged |
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