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Topic: UGH tired of cancer guy
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mel0nfish
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posted January 12, 2011 07:27 PM
  
please help!! should i push this cancer or...move on?here are some details:
ME
Sun- Aquarius
Moon- Sag
Venus- Capricorn
Mars- Sagittarius Him
Sun- Cancer
Moon- Sag
Venus- Gemini
Mars- Pisces can anybody give me any insight on how to get a solid question/answer out of this guy! I'm getting so frustrated. He makes the tiniest moves at the slowest pace, and I told myself to be patient. I know it's an issue with me too, being an aquarius with venus in cap...but I thought by now he'd have expressed himself and I could then fully express myself. But i'm far too afraid to scare him off. With his placements, would texting him "please make a move already" which I am very close to doing scare him off? I have been my usual aloof, kooky self and he seems drawn to it...but I also feel like i've been doing a lot of "work." I told him right away, when we first became friends 5 months ago that I liked him a lot...as more than a friend. I wish he wasn't so sloooooow!!! hasn't even kissed me yet?? also I'm 20...and this is my first attempt at a relationship and i feel kind of clueless...so I can't imagine going in first and making a move (cap Venus?) also!! I was trying really really hard to get him to make a move a day or so ago, I was so close and then, "well! I guess I'll drive you home now." ?? I was convinced that meant he didn't want me, but then he calls, texts, &flirts with me the next day...  I feel like I'm being toyed with but idk thanks IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted January 12, 2011 11:02 PM
sounds like he might be a little scared, himself. as i understand it, gemini venus does not like making the first move. i have two friends with gemini venus.. one is a very dear friend i've known since junior high and she is terrified of putting her emotions out there when there is no guarantee of return (she also happens to be a cancer as well). another friend.. well, the dude i am emotionally harping on, actually, is gemini venus and he just doesn't make moves really. period. very difficult to get a read on.my cancer sun / gemini venus friend is also dating an aquarius, and he is being aloof, and she is desperately in love, but she's not laying her cards out for fear of rejection, so there you go. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted January 13, 2011 03:11 AM
This is my intuition and it is strong----WAIT!!!!
Some guys move very slowly.
If you push,you will push that guy away.
He needs to eat his own way out of the caterpillar cocoon.
Once I prayed and asked God what to do .
I did not know which road to take.Should I go forward with someone I loved was the question?
It had an image of a caterpillar cocoon .
I felt God tell me that *I* needed to eat my way out of the cocoon MYSELF.
If a person cuts out the caterpillar, the caterpillar dies.
*I* have to learn the lessons I need to before I am ready for the person I love.
He needs to do the same.
That is what I feel about your guy.He needs to get himself to the point where HE can make the moves on you,so to speak,not the other way around  ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
You must face the dregs of Nessus to touch the love and beauty of Neptune.
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blugrey
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posted January 13, 2011 03:55 AM
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annaf
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posted January 13, 2011 11:32 AM
If we were talking about a mature man of 35 I would say move on. However, you are both still very young and just like you he might also be very inexperienced. It's great that he is keeping in regular contact and is 'active' in that respect. So if I were you I really wouldnt push him and force the subject. Although i can understand your impatience, try to just let it develop naturally! :-)IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted January 13, 2011 10:57 PM
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Originally posted by blugrey:
I have Sag Moon/Gemini Venus/Cancer Mars. Those are so freaking true.
that same girl is also a cancer mars.
she's very cancer-y. her moon is also right between cancer and leo. ooooh the cancer-ness. IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 17, 2011 07:20 AM
Moon in Sag and this slow? I'm surprised.But one, he's young.  Two, if you're 'your aloof self' - this does not sit terribly well with the sign of Cancer, who cannot STAND detachment and aloofness: he may be attracted to you, but confused as he may be getting the message of your frustration and detachment more than what is actually happening to your behind the scenes. A true Cancer man makes a complete connection and then moves on in. There is a level at which you may not be connecting completely yet, so I might have to agree with Ami - just try to be patient and open yourself up to him EMOTIONALLY. Be available in the moment. Telling him you like him straight up is great, but a Cancer reads behind words (though not necessarily always between lines, if you get the difference), and words may not have meant a whole heap to him at that point. Good luck to you, you both sound like lovely people. IP: Logged |
lindaGreg
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posted January 17, 2011 07:22 AM
I bet he is clingy to his momIP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 17, 2011 07:25 AM
Cancers really get the worst rep, lol. *sigh* IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted January 17, 2011 08:53 AM
Moons of Jupiter  ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
You must face the dregs of Nessus to touch the love and beauty of Neptune.
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Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 17, 2011 07:36 PM
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littlecloud
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posted January 17, 2011 07:46 PM
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Originally posted by lindaGreg:
I bet he is clingy to his mom
I've noticed Aries can actually be mommy clingers. I've seen it more with men and men with very strong aries placements. IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 17, 2011 07:52 PM
LittleCloud - Ditto! My Sun Aries friend is the biggest parent-clinger - still goes on holidays with them, still has to ask friends to leave his house if his parents come in and say it's late...he's 26 years old, NO Cancer placements (hehe) and from an Anglo background, so it's not like he's even part of those traditional cultures. Maybe it's that whole Aries 'the infant' thing. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 18, 2011 02:33 AM
Hmmm totally agree with Moons of Jupiter! w00t! Well said. I am a cancer, abd im very drawn to aquariuses, i guess with all my leo placements and my aqua north node. Not drawn to them romantically tho. But i also have my share of aqua friends that LOVE cancer guys. But anyway, i love that my aqua friends shower me with so much love, attention, spontaneity, appreciation, entertainment. But i do wish they could understand me better. I could understand them, but they dont get me AT ALL. And that sucks for a cancer bc we need to feel understood since we r so shy n sensitive. We really are. But aquariuses never really get that i guess bc they only see cancers outgoing outer shell. You need to understand this about cancers before u can be with one. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted January 18, 2011 02:36 AM
Classic Cancer boy.
He's still sussing you out.I dunnooo....
Lean hard on the Capricorn so that you can be that solid rock for him. He'll open up.
If you think the Aquarius is gonna put him at ease, short answer, No. But you have a lot in Cap anyway, right? What's his asc? IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 18, 2011 04:50 AM
Also Mars In Pisces...goodness, overlooked this one...not the most forward of men. I have a friend dating a Scorp w/Mars Pisces, and it drives her mad she has to initiate everything. He likes to come over and shag her, but she still can't tell how he feels, what else he wants, and if he even likes her. Very evasive. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted January 18, 2011 10:14 AM
Moons of Jupiter ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
You must face,touch and feel the dregs of Nessus before you can grasp the pristine beauty of Neptune.
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aquacap
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posted January 19, 2011 07:11 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Hmmm totally agree with Moons of Jupiter! w00t! Well said. I am a cancer, abd im very drawn to aquariuses, i guess with all my leo placements and my aqua north node. Not drawn to them romantically tho. But i also have my share of aqua friends that LOVE cancer guys. But anyway, i love that my aqua friends shower me with so much love, attention, spontaneity, appreciation, entertainment. But i do wish they could understand me better. I could understand them, but they dont get me AT ALL. And that sucks for a cancer bc we need to feel understood since we r so shy n sensitive. We really are. But aquariuses never really get that i guess bc they only see cancers outgoing outer shell. You need to understand this about cancers before u can be with one.
ialways get involved w cancers. Its not that I dont get them. I just dont like them to know that I get them. Then I like to randomly show that I do. Kindof a how did u know that kinda thing.its a habit..probrably a bad one. But as an aqua I say that they probly do but are just ignoring and or coverin'. And why are you not romantically attracted to aquas if i can ask? IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 19, 2011 07:46 PM
Aqua Cap, there IS something to this Aqua/Cancer connection. My father keeps marrying Cancerian women, even though anyone with a pulse and an ounce of emotion is CLEARLY wrong for the likes of HIM. I think sometimes Aqua likes that Cancers appear easy going at the beginning, but you get to know them, find out they have an ego and a sense of self, and you go 'what happened?' :P This is probably not your case, I'm saying that the Aqua/Cancer connection DOES exist and it's a bit special. IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
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posted January 19, 2011 08:49 PM
Moons of Jupiter.. I can totally see what you're saying. I have an Aquarius moon, the last dude I seriously dated had a Cancer moon. I'm a Taurus sun and he's a Capricorn sun, so that combined with that initial good energy of the Aquarius/Cancer camaraderie was really great, until when things got deeper and I started using my mind a little more than my heart and he became all soul, and we would arrive at cross purposes all the time. He would get way more annoyed with me because of this, and then I would get annoyed he was always so consistently annoyed, haha. It wasn't meant to be, but my God. When it was fun, it was REALLY fun. IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 19, 2011 09:11 PM
John - I am SO glad it was fun at least, because dang, I think the Aqua/Can mix is dangerous for both. IP: Logged |
aquacap
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posted January 19, 2011 10:10 PM
Well aquas do love surprises....and egos unfortunately. But I think its a bit more fatal when the cancers after the aquarius. (IE my ex 'no matter what you do in life im going to find you because our love is so deep yada yada)I really wonder what it is about the aqua canc thing its a bit magical (if its positive)on the other hand its complete chaos and destruction
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Moons Of Jupiter
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posted January 19, 2011 10:49 PM
LOL at your 'we're meant to be' Cancer - you must be a darned special Aqua (is there any other kind, really?) My father's wives, in comparison, were like: f*** this, and ran a mile. IP: Logged |
aquacap
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posted January 20, 2011 03:11 PM
oh believe me i wanted to. but he caught me with his claws ughIP: Logged |
AscTaurus
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posted January 22, 2011 10:50 AM
Wow...I first noticed his Mars being in Neptune ruled-Pisces-this sign is best known for ambivallence. Add to that , he has his Sun in secretive,evasive Cancer as well as "I can tell you whatever you want to hear" Gemini. Of-course,these are generalizations of the "less evolved" Sun, venus, Mars positions of the mentioned signs.
(Not all people who have these positions show this kind of behavior, unless you are dealing with someone who is "less evolved" and has the mentioned sign positions). I'd say you either deal with whom he is and accept him as is or go out and find someone else.(But then again, I don't believe a cheater can change its spots)
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